Should I support my children to drift in big cities?

My opinion is to support the child's decision, analyze the pros and cons, and let the child make his own decision.

First of all, your daughter is already an adult, graduated from college, has her own ideas, her own considerations, her own dreams, and her own plans. I want to create a good living condition without relying on others, relying on my own hands, and I want to use my own strength to create a blue sky of my own. I have dreams and ideas, and I am so fortunate to have a woman like this.

If you blindly obstruct it, it will make your daughter feel that you are the obstructor of her dreams, and cause disharmony in the family relationship. It's a bit like you're hurting in the name of love.

Secondly, your daughter's decision to drift north must have been carefully considered and made a plan to endure hardships. Children are the hearts of parentsYes, it is normal for parents to want their children to be happy and safe for a lifetime, and it is normal for parents to persuade her not to drift north for hard reasons, the effect is not obvious, and your daughter may not be useful.

Third, only when you are young can you have more energy, courage and determination to do something very challenging. As the years grew older, after the years smoothed out the edges and corners, they lost the motivation to dare to fight. There may only be one chance, and missing it may become a lifelong regret.

Fourth, distance produces beauty. Although there is no doubt that it is far away from home, I don't feel at ease, and I miss my relatives every festive season. However, when you stay with your family every day, the contradictions in the details of life are easy to cause qualitative changes.

Children are far away from home and have little time to meet, so every time they meet, they will cherish it unusually and be happier. It is not easy to drift north, and I can empathize with the hardships of my parents more, and on this basis, with the same concept of understanding, there will be less generation gap, and there will be more love between relatives. Why not.

Respect the child's decision, even if several years of hard life have not yielded results, but this experience has been used for a lifetime.

First of all, I think that there is no such thing in this society that girls should be at home, and then find a good man to marry, and then they will always be housewives and husbands and children at home. I think such times have passed, and there are actually more and more strong women now, which means that girls are not worse than boys.

Secondly, I think that as parents, you should support her, everyone has their own dreams, since she has mustered up the courage to decide to go to Beijing to develop by herself, it means that she has already figured out what she will face in doing this. She is going to be far away from her hometown and fight for her dreams alone, and she always has to work hard for her dreams in life. It doesn't matter if the result is good or bad.

At least I have worked hard for my dreams, and I will not feel regrets or regrets even if I look back on the past after many years. He Jiong wrote a book called "It's Time", which said:"The so-called youth is that everything is in time, and if you stick to every current dream, it will come as promised"Now that your children are ready to fight for their dreams, I think as a parent you should trust her unconditionally and believe that she can do it.

Even if she fails, you are her warmest backing.

The most important thing I think you should figure out if she's made the decision and understand what that decision means. It means that you may not be able to eat the same delicious meals as at home after the busy work in the future, which means that you can no longer be like a child at home in the future, which means that you may not be able to see your parents at the end of the year. All these things need to be considered, and if she has already made a decision, her parents should not stop her, because she is already an adult.

Have your own ideas, have your own want to walk.

After all, the outside world is very exciting, maybe it will return to the countryside, there are many opportunities in big cities than in rural areas, and now it is a deep urban routine, everyone goes back to the countryside, not to mention children, it is a person who has been in the rivers and lakes for many years, and the answer to the key may not be able to suffer losses and be fooled outside, so ah, I still hope that the children will be safe and sound, and use their own experience to take them to maturity, suffer losses, be less fooled, do not seek to be rich and expensive, but seek food and clothing without worry, because now one wrong step may be a wrong step, and there is no chance to turn over.

The elders can only put forward reasonable suggestions according to the child's existing family economic conditions, the child's education, personality, ability to endure hardships, physical condition, and conduct in the world, and have no right to decide. But I will still support my children to go to the outside world to fight hard, life is not broad, do not want to forge ahead, there is no chance to change life, happiness is not waiting for it.

It must be to support the child to go outside, not for anything else, but for the child to increase some life experience and experience in the world, and to take fewer detours in his future growth. It's just a matter of adding some successful and clever experiences.

If the child wants to go to the big city, it will definitely support it, after all, there are many opportunities in the big place.

I am more supportive of children going to the big city, after all, they have just come out of school, fledgling, not deeply involved in the world, should go to the big city to see, know how many pounds and taels they are, what can be played, or can make themselves feel that there are still many things to continue to learn, or a little more benefits! After a few years in the big city, you will know where to go!

Break what? Isn't it possible to build a hometown in peace? How much money is enough?

What's so good about being a blind rook? When I returned to my hometown empty-handed, I still had to start from scratch. A person who can't play a role in his hometown can make a difference elsewhere?

No way. Yes! As long as he wants to!

Should be supported!

It should be supported, if she doesn't go, she will definitely regret it, and if she goes, she may regret it.

From a rational point of view, there must be a direction to go:

1. Have a general plan, what to do or what to do roughly, otherwise it is not to mess around?

2. There is a time limit - such as 3-5 years, time will destroy a young man's sharpness, and there is no result after a long time, you should think that the place should not be suitable, or go home to see?

In short, an adult should be supported to use her efforts and time to prove that she is not suitable for development in a big city. If she is comfortable and adapted, then it is a good thing for her to stay;

However, the world is very fast, and if you can't keep up, you can come back, have a home, love, and parents

Support to see the outside world. If you adapt, you will stay, and if you don't adapt, you will return to your hometown, at least you have experienced it.

Everyone should be impulsive for their own choices, so if the child is going to drift in the big city, then ......Support him!

Some people think that big cities do not belong to small people, and big cities belong to those who are talented, young and motivated, and dare to fight hard, so they dare not let their children go to those big cities, feel dangerous, unstable, and spend their time in vain. But I want to tell you, big cities, as long as you dare to fight, there is nothing to fear, if children really want to go to those big cities to drift and break through, then why do you want to stop it? I don't know how to be motivated?

No pain, no gain. Since he bravely chose this path, then what you can do is to support him and encourage him.

Some parents like to control their children, feel that they have their children in their hands, and go to great lengths to arrange jobs for them that they don't like at all, thinking that that is really good for them, and what surprises will exist in that kind of life! Under the arrangement of my parents, I am very bland, going to work steadily, living a comfortable but uneventful life, doing a job that I have no interest in at all, I really think this kind of life is boring, maybe in the eyes of my parents, a comfortable life is a constraint for them, it is a depression, and it is a cycle of a lifetime. <>

Since you choose to be brave and wander, no matter whether the road ahead is difficult or not, since you are not afraid, then your parents should be more supportive, and your parents' support is really positive energy on their way forward. Therefore, if the child chooses to go to the big city to drift, give him the greatest support, give him encouragement, give him enough space for development, let him realize his own value, maybe success, maybe failure, but that is his own experience, what parents should do is to give him support, let him get closer to his dream, one step further, and one step further.