Let s talk about the way of thinking of people with high emotional intelligence.

What is high emotional intelligence? I think one of the core is the ability to control emotions and understand other people's emotions. When faced with a matter, as an emotional animal, the brain will always reflect various emotions, which will affect your attitude and way of dealing with this matter next.

People with high emotional intelligence will not let emotions influence your decisions excessively, but it does not mean that emotions will not affect you, use emotions to set an emotional tone on the way you deal with this matter, and use rational thinking to make the most suitable way to deal with your interests and emotions (sometimes the two will contradict each other, so you have to learn to weigh it) As long as it does not involve the bottom line, then put away your emotions and think more about how to deal with things in order to get greater benefits.

Many people confuse helping others with interfering with others, but these are two different things. Helping others means when we put down our bodies to truly understand others, figure out what their original intention is, and work together according to their true intentions and goals; If he has his own way of life and is happy to change it, and you have to make him follow what you think is right to impose change, this is interference. Let's take the most common example, I believe many people have come across:

I am a very good friend, we graduated together and worked hard in a city, and we often kept in touch with each other and talked about everything. I broke up with my girlfriend some time ago, and I had a lot of noise, and I also know his girlfriend, but I don't have a very good impression of her. After the quarrel, my friend came to talk to me, looked at his tangled and painful appearance, comforted him and said that there was no grass at the end of the world, and I didn't have a good impression of his girlfriend, so I counted his girlfriend from top to bottom, so that he didn't get entangled and cheered up.

At that time, my friend didn't say anything, but a few days later, I saw his circle of friends, and his girlfriend got back together, and I felt embarrassed when I saw this, and immediately called my friend** to explain, but ** didn't answer, and the message didn't reply. After so many years of relationship, I have no relationship, and I have my heart and lungs for you, but in the end, I am called a wolf and a dog. Everyone has their own way of life and way of getting along with others, do not interfere in anyone's life, no matter how good the relationship, do not let others adapt to your lifestyle and philosophy, and do not disrupt the trajectory of others' existence.

In the book "The Secret to Creating a Perfect Relationship", it is clearly pointed out that "self-boundary" is the key factor affecting interpersonal communication, and keeping a distance from each other is the appropriate way to communicate. People who lack "self-boundaries" are always self-centered, always asking for and unwilling to give in interpersonal interactions, and always blindly venting their dissatisfaction and refusing to tolerate others. However, in this world, no one owes you anything, and if you want to get it, you must pay.

Manage your own affairs well, do not easily interfere in other people's affairs, and if you want to be respected and recognized, you must treat others with courtesy and grasp the boundaries of yourself. Here is an example, the story of a young man and a beggar, I believe many people have seen it:"There was a young man who gave 10 yuan to the beggar on the road every day, and then one day, he only gave 5 yuan to the beggar, and the beggar asked him why, and the young man said:

I am now married, I have a wife and children to support, and the beggar said: Why do you use my money to support your wife and children! "This is an example of a lack of "self-boundaries", taking the kindness of others for granted, and constantly demanding, and when others lower or stop their kindness, they feel lost, unbalanced, and even hateful.

Everyone has their own preferences, and when we have a choice, everyone chooses the way they like, and if we break this mindset and try completely different actions, it will be more helpful for us to grow. Reverse thinking deviates from one's own conventional thinking, goes the other way, and works backwards from ready-made conclusions. Example example of reverse thinking:

In the story of Sima Guang smashing the cylinder in ancient times, someone fell into the water, and the conventional thinking mode was "saving people from the water", but Sima Guang used reverse thinking in the face of emergency and danger, and decisively smashed the cylinder with a stone, "let the water leave people", and saved the life of his little friend.

Logical thinking with high emotional intelligence belongs to the advanced form of thinking and is the category of IQ, which mainly refers to the quality of people in terms of emotions, emotions, will, and tolerance to setbacks. Generally speaking, there is no obvious innate difference in emotional intelligence between people, and it is more related to the cultivation of nurture. Therefore, there is no particularly big conflict or numerical connection between them, but people with high emotional intelligence are more strong-willed and have more careful thinking, which can be found in life.

These people are actually kinder, they don't want to offend anyone, they want good popularity, so they find each other under the stairs.

To be able to ask such a question, the subject's heart is self-evident. It is recommended to read more books, such as "The Advantages of Human Nature" and "The Weaknesses of Human Nature", as well as your own experience, which can also increase your own experience, and sometimes the high emotional intelligence you see may only be the experience of others. If I had to give an example, it would be hard to think of too many for a while, but I can only say the details that I have dealt with.

At that time, the family was having a reunion dinner, and my cousin-in-law had not seen him a few times, and his appearance was polite. I don't know how to talk about my cousin and the two of them, but then I said: The eldest sister's vision is really good!

At that time, my aunt was happy, my cousin, and my cousin-in-law were happy. After that, when I went to my aunt's house, my cousin-in-law saw me in the middle of a group of people and always greeted me as soon as possible! I hope the text in front of it is helpful to the subject, and there is nothing substantive in the columns in the back.

They have mastered the core part of interpersonal communication, and the role of high emotional intelligence is reflected in the combination of personal understanding and artistic processing and expression.

For those with high emotional intelligence, they all know how to talk to others, and their way of thinking is to be mutually beneficial.

Do not disturb the happiness of others. What others have done or are doing, even if you think it is easy for you or you think it is not cost-effective or whatever, don't disturb the happiness and satisfaction of others, and praise will not kill you.

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It's the kind of person you are with, and what kind of person you will become. Always look at people with high emotional intelligence to speak, and you may develop into a person with high emotional intelligence. Second, pro, when you see people with high emotional intelligence talking, you will learn the way to speak from the emotions they speak.

Three, pro, always look at the high sentiment businessman to speak. You will have the idea and thought of changing your speech, and in this case, you will know what kind of words can solve the problem.

Hello dear, in this case, watching the high emotional intelligence cave banquet humanoid talk, of course, can improve your thinking. First, pro, as the saying goes, those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black. It's the kind of person you are with, and what kind of person you will become.

Always look at people with high emotional intelligence to speak, and you may develop into a person with high emotional intelligence. Second, pro, when you see people with high emotional intelligence talking, you will learn the way to speak from the emotions they speak. Three, pro, always look at the high sentiment businessman to speak.

You will have the idea of changing your speech and the mind of the auspicious hall, and in this case, you will know what kind of words can solve the problem.

Even if you look at high emotional intelligence, you can make yourself able to speak, right?

Yes, that's right, the lowest is to think about things in terms of high emotional intelligence.

It's just to follow his train of thought and think about something.

yes. Dear, you don't necessarily think according to his way of thinking, as long as you learn his ideas and practices to solve problems, you will solve the problem yourself.

Oh, understood, understood.

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To become a person with high emotional intelligence, you can consider the cultivation and promotion of the following aspects:

1.Self-awareness and emotional awareness: Understand your own emotional patterns, triggers, and coping strategies, be aware of your emotional state, and learn to accurately express your emotions in words.

2.Emotion Regulation: Learn to manage and regulate your emotions. Balance your emotions through exercise, meditation, deep breathing, etc., avoid overly emotional reactions, and better face challenges and stress.

3.Improve communication and interpersonal skills: Improve your own presentation skills and establish positive, healthy communication and exchanges with others. Learn to listen to and understand the emotional needs of others, as well as conflict resolution and interpersonal skills.

4.Empathy and Other's Concern: Develop empathy and try to understand the feelings and needs of others. Focus and respect others, provide support and encouragement, and build good relationships.

5.Problem-solving and decision-making skills: Learn to analyze problems, weigh pros and cons, and take smart actions. Develop problem-solving and decision-making skills, develop logical thinking and critical thinking.

6.Self-motivated and goal-oriented: Set clear goals and create an actionable plan to achieve them. Develop self-discipline and perseverance to overcome difficulties and challenges, and maintain a positive attitude.

In addition to the above advice, it takes practice and experience to continuously improve your emotional intelligence. Socializing with others, being socially active, and being exposed to different situations and challenges can all provide valuable learning opportunities. At the same time, reflecting on your emotions and behaviors, seeking feedback and making appropriate adjustments are also important steps to improve your emotional intelligence.

It is important to understand that the development of emotional intelligence is an ongoing process, and everyone has a different starting point and growth rate. Through continuous learning, practice and reflection, students gradually develop the traits and abilities of high emotional intelligence.

People with high emotions deal with people well and give a good impression. Each of us wants to be a person with high emotional intelligence, so how should we do that? In the face of students with poor emotional intelligence, they can be cultivated in the following 3 aspects:

1. Do more than say more: People with low emotional intelligence will only keep saying instead of proving it with actual actions, while people with high emotional intelligence tend to do the opposite.

2. Read facial expressions: Observe the expressions of the people around you at any time, observe the emotions in those expressions, and whether you are interested in your topic or not. People who are emotionally out of control do not have high emotional intelligence, because no one is willing to take the initiative to accept your bad emotions.

In the process of studying in the third year of high school at the Banquet before, my emotional intelligence was low, my comprehension was often very poor, my writing was uninspired, and my grades in various subjects were also very poor. Once by chance, I found the "Tesla Brain Development Training" that can turn on wisdom on Du Niang, and after reading it, the situation was improved. Grades have also improved.

I believe these experiences should help you.

3. Pay attention to details: pay special attention to the other party's micro-expressions, many times some things have a precursor in the micro-expressions. These things can be avoided if we pay attention to the details and handle them properly.

If you want to be a woman with high emotional intelligence and charismatic personality, then you must learn the following three thinking patterns:

First, women with high emotional intelligence will not let themselves fall into negative emotions for a long time and then be unable to extricate themselves. People with high emotional intelligence don't mean that they won't be sad or angry, but compared to others, they can control their emotions very well. If you are a person who writes all the joys, sorrows and sorrows on your face, then it is certain that you are definitely not a person with high emotional intelligence.

What about those women with high emotional intelligence, they rarely get angry, and they rarely play tricks, and they are rarely willful, most of them will be moody, everything will be completed according to the original plan, even when they encounter sad and sad things, they will quickly adjust themselves, not to say that they have been lying in the quagmire.

Second, those women with high emotional intelligence will not fall into meaningless comparisons and abuse. Like this kind of people with low emotional intelligence, they love to compare and compare, we need to compare, but what we need to compare is those more meaningful things, compared to a better life, lofty ideals, and spiritual wealth. Rather than meaningless comparisons and jealousy, let the flames of hatred spread, and eventually develop into invective and attacks.

Third, women with high emotional intelligence generally do not take the initiative to attack others, but will praise others. People with relatively low emotional intelligence, they generally like to talk about others behind others' backs, say bad things about others, dismantle the stage in person, and rarely praise others, people with high emotional intelligence will never take the initiative to attack others, whether it is in front of or after people, they will not easily make a negative evaluation of a person, even if the other party says something, they will not demolish each other in person, but give each other a kind reminder at the right time. Have you done all three?

For women with high emotional intelligence, their thinking is very active, they can always effectively consider each other's feelings, scatter and effectively grasp each other's inner needs, know how to consider problems from the other party's point of view, and are particularly charming.