Is it good for parents to quarrel a lot?

For as long as I can remember, they've been fighting, sometimes so big that they draw the neighbors into watching. You know how amazing that big scene is. So now I can't even hear people talking loudly, I'm scared.

As soon as the volume came up, I subconsciously wanted to hide, and my mind was full of scenes of my parents' quarrel. Every time I see any questions about how parental quarrels affect children, they are all labels: insecure, introverted, low self-esteem, fear of intimacy, pessimism.

I don't have a bit of positive sunshine in my psychology, I don't have a sense of security every day, I have low self-esteem, I don't like to play with my classmates, and when I got to college, I was labeled as unsociable, and they even thought I was a monster, and I was also distressed, but I didn't know how to become like a normal person, and it was very painful.

Children who grow up in such families have low self-esteem and sensitivity, some are cowardly and timid, and some are easily irritable. An older boy said that when he was a child, his parents quarreled, and he always endured it; Later, when his parents quarreled, he would yell at them. And now, he feels that his temper is out of control, and he can't help but want to vent when he sees something unpleasant.

When parents quarrel, every minute is torment, and they wish they could escape from this home immediately, and many people have the idea of running away from home. Because I can't feel the warmth and harmony of home, I am also very indifferent to family affection, and it is difficult to be coquettish and willful in front of my parents, and I am even reluctant to go home for a long time after adulthood. I used to hate my parents even more than I loved.

Parents often quarrel and have conflicts, which will make children feel frightened and helpless, and the most important thing for a child is whether the relationship between adults in the family is stable, and even some children under the influence of the subconscious, do not hesitate to get sick and produce physical and mental symptoms, to maintain the precarious relationship between parents. Moreover, the quarrel between parents will also affect the child's perception of intimate relationships when he grows up, he may not have confidence in establishing intimate relationships with others, feel fearful, look at intimate relationships negatively and pessimistically, and even look at people and things from a distorted perspective, and his personality will become extreme.

Quarrels are not terrible, if you can understand each other after the quarrel, express appreciation and love for each other, and let the child feel this real love, then the negative impact of quarrels and differences will dissolve. The problem with parents in many families is that they are used to expressing disagreements and conflicts, and never directly expressing love, understanding and appreciation, which can have a lasting negative impact on their children. ‍‍

I feel like it's going to have a big impact, my personality is just aggressive, emotionally unstable at times, sensitive, overthinking. Although I went to a prestigious school and got good grades, it only shows that I am not a stupid person. But I don't think I can necessarily succeed in this life, and I have to overcome my own psychology before I can do other things.

Now I'm full of anger and pathos whenever I'm at home, Fury

and sorrow, very, very, very uncomfortable, really. As long as the parents stay together, they are quarrelling, and almost seven out of ten sentences are quarrelling, which has been especially serious in the past few years, and I really don't want to stay at home. I'm disappointed in both of them, but after all, it's my parents, and I always have a strong feeling, and this contradiction will produce another kind of pain, and I'm sure someone will empathize.

Very big. When I was a child, I still remember the picture of my parents arguing, which led to today's lack of trust and security, and even thought about ending up in suicide during the immature period. Too sensitive and suspicious, habitually guessing people's hearts, and putting their personality habits close to the other party's hopes, very afraid of being hated and ignored, easy to have a sense of loneliness, often suppress themselves, and even distort.

Whether it really affects depends on how the parents interact with their children after the quarrel and how the parents explain the quarrel between them to the child. and whether there are only quarrels in the family, that is, whether family members often express love and appreciation for each other in addition to quarrels. If there is an expression of love in addition to quarrels, it will cushion the negative effects of quarrels and conflicts. ‍‍

If it is not good, it will definitely have a negative impact on the child's view of love and marriage.

Parents often quarrel and fight in front of their children, which will make children more and more timid, and children will not feel the love from the family, and they will become more and more inferior. A survey has found that most of those optimistic and cheerful children come from harmonious families, while those who grow up mentally unhealthy are mostly affected by the childhood growth environment. Some people say that a good childhood can be **a lifetime**, and an unhappy childhood needs a lifetime**.

The relationship between parents in some families is particularly good, and children can grow up carefree, and the children raised by such families are positive, while the parents often quarrel with families, and the children who come out are somewhat gloomy in character, and the relationship between parents will directly affect the child's personality and psychology, and this impact is irreversible.

First, it will make children more and more timid.

Children are part of the family, parents often quarrel will make children feel scared, some parents will drop things when they quarrel, and even fight, children's psychological age is not mature, this kind of scene is fearful for them. Therefore, parents often quarrel, and children will become more and more timid, which will cause social barriers.

Second, it will make children feel particularly inferior.

Parents often quarrel and let their children blame themselves for the quarrel, and they will feel that they have caused trouble for their parents, so that their parents quarrel endlessly. Such thoughts are very scary, and will make children feel more and more inferior, whether at home or at school, children will feel that they can't hold their heads up, and this inferiority complex may accompany children for a lifetime.

Third, it will affect the child's family concept.

In a family where parents often quarrel, children do not feel loved and loved, they will feel that all families are like this, and they may even not want to start a family because of this. Many children who have had similar experiences grow up afraid to socialize with others, afraid to get married, and they are even more afraid that their parents' lives will play out again in their own marriages.

It's definitely not good, it will cause psychological shadows to children, and even marriage aversion and fear of marriage.

Hello! Parents often quarrel with their children, which is not good for the growth and health of the child, and should be paid attention to as a parent of the child.

Parents are the first teachers of their children, and parents often quarrel in front of their children, which can have a great impact on children.

Yes, it is very bad for a child that parents quarrel a lot. Originally, it was normal for husband and wife to quarrel, but after having children, they should not let their children see it. But many parents quarrel in the process of time and place, and Mu Slip even often quarrels in front of their children, which will cause a lingering haze in the children's hearts and have a bad impact on the children's growth.

1. Causing children to lack a sense of security.

When children see their parents quarreling, they will have a fear in their hearts, and this fear is the difference between parents. Children have a sense of security deep inside. And this sense of security is often the best for parents.

Because only parents are the closest people to their children, everything they say and do is very important to him. Many adults may have disagreements and mourning arguments about the way they deal with trivial matters. Quarrels are more intense, speak more impulsively, and children will be very scared when they see the scene of a fight.

Therefore, the child's heart will feel very scared and fearful, which will also destroy the child's sense of security.

2. Causing defects in the child's personality. Children who live in warm and harmonious families have a very cheerful personality, are friendly in daily life, and have excellent grades. And in families that live in quarrels all year round, the children are very insecure and introverted.

Often prefers to be alone, and in the eyes of others, the child has low self-esteem. In fact, these are all caused by the influence of parental quarrels. As parents, since you have brought your children into this world, you must educate them well and give them care and love.

Don't let the mistakes of adults affect your child's happy growth.

3. Children will develop social phobia. When children see their parents arguing, they will be very reluctant to contact the men around them, because they will always feel that the people around them will hurt us. When you grow up, you will become cautious about maintaining the relationship.

Because I was afraid of arguing with each other like my parents, my reaction was staged again. So doing so will always make the other person feel uncomfortable. These seemingly inconspicuous behaviors have been imperceptibly engraved in the minds of children.

Therefore, the words and deeds of parents are very important for children. The environment in which you grow up should be warm, harmonious and full of love, rather than arguing every day, suspecting that this will make a person's heart collapse.

Insecurity. The picture of parents arguing is very lethal to children, seeing parents arguing, some children will suddenly shout, show fear, fear and helplessness, children's hearts are fragile and soft, seeing parents quarrel once, it may make children seriously insecure. According to statistics, 80% of adults are afraid of marriage because their parents are not harmonious in early childhood, and insecurity factors are formed in early childhood, which leads to fear of marriage in adulthood.

2. Cause the oak child to be irritable. Well-behaved and sensible children will see their parents quarreling, and their personalities will become excited and irritable, because many of the children's behaviors are imitating adults in the process of growing up, and the expressions and behaviors of the parents quarreling will be seen by the children and remembered in their hearts, and over time, the children will also become irritable, and even have violent tendencies.

3. When you are used to seeing your parents quarrel, your child will lose her temper and become unfilial and ungrateful.

4. The relationship between parents is not good, and it also has a bad impact on children's social behavior and ability, and children will become inferior, afraid of communicating with others, and afraid of socializing, which is very unfavorable to life, work and study.

A good family atmosphere is beneficial to the growth of children, and children will get positive energy when they feel the love of their parents, which is beneficial to their physical and mental development.

Very bad. The husband and wife should deal with the quarrel as soon as possible, and if they can't handle it well, they can only continue to quarrel, and don't quarrel in front of the child.

Marital conflicts between parents can have a lot of negative effects on children. As the primary social environment for children, the family has a crucial impact on children's growth and development. After experiencing parental quarrels and cold wars for a long time, children may have the following harms:

1.Psychological stress: Children can be subjected to the psychological stress generated by their parents' arguments, which can make them feel uneasy, fearful, and frustrated. This can lead to a decrease in the child's self-esteem, emotional instability, and in severe cases, psychological problems.

2.Emotional disorders: Children are likely to develop emotional disorders such as distrust, fear, and loneliness after experiencing arguments from their parents. These emotions can affect a child's interpersonal skills, as well as attitudes and behavior patterns towards future romantic relationships.

3.Verbal Expression Disorder: In an arguing atmosphere, parental language tends to become intense and irritable. This language environment can have a negative impact on children's language expression, making them degrade their language expression skills and unable to express their thoughts and emotions effectively.

4.Decreased academic performance: After a long period of arguments and cold wars, it is difficult for the child's attention and mental state to concentrate. This can affect their learning efficiency and grades, which can affect their future.

5.Social Barriers: Parental arguments can make children feel like they can't get along and make friends with other people. This can affect a child's social and emotional development, which can have a negative impact on their future career development and life.

In conclusion, the negative impact of parental quarrels on children is obvious. Therefore, parents should try to avoid arguing in front of their children when dealing with conflicts. At the same time, it is also very important to actively communicate and properly handle the relationship between husband and wife.

This helps to maintain a stable and welcoming family environment, which is more conducive to the growth and development of children.

1.Extreme character.

Parents often quarrel, children will feel that there is no warmth in the family, and the child's personality may become incomprehensible because of the indifference of the family. Some children's personality will become more introverted, withdrawn, do not like to talk, can not be interested in anything, and will also have an inferiority complex in their hearts, on the contrary, some children are more irritable, suspicious, full of hostility to others, when other children joke with him, he feels that it is sarcastic him, so he will take the initiative to verbally attack others, or even personal attacks.

2.Insecurity.

Growing up in an environment where parents often quarrel, children themselves will lack a sense of security, it will be difficult to trust others in the future, they will not have a sense of trust in their parents, and they will naturally not have teachers and friends. He will be afraid that all marriages will be like his parents, who are not trusting enough in marriage and love, and are insecure.

3.Imitative behavior.

Children always like to imitate some of the behavior of adults, he doesn't care if what you do is right or wrong, whether you can imitate or not, parents quarrel in front of their children every day, children will be more or less affected, for example, when you educate children, children actually learn to talk back to you, and swear, I think teachers will definitely not teach children to swear, parents will not, this is just children in watching adults quarrel unintentionally learned.

Arguing in front of the child will always cause some harm to the child, but sometimes we really can't avoid this kind of thing, so try to minimize the damage to the child afterwards.

2. How to minimize the harm to children after a quarrel?

1.Enlighten your child in a timely manner.

Tell the child the ins and outs of the matter in time, so that the child does not worry too much, Mom and Dad are just talking about things, and will not divorce or make trouble because of this kind of thing, let him know that Mom and Dad quarrel is just a quarrel over some small things, not a big deal, Mom and Dad will not want him, you still love him.

2.Be reconciled in front of your child.

You quarrel in front of your child, and it has caused harm to your child, so since it is already like this, you should find a way to redeem it, try to reconcile in front of your child, and let the child see you reconciled as before It is a kind of comfort to the child, and he will be in a much better mood when he sees you like this, and he will no longer be immersed in sad emotions.

3.Comfort the child.

Parents may not realize that when you quarrel, the child will also be worried, his psychology will also be greatly hurt, and some children can not even help crying, at this time to comfort the child in time, and apologize to the child, because it is your rude behavior that the child will follow the fear, let the child release the emotions that should be released, do not let his emotions accumulate, cause psychological pressure on the child.

After a quarrel, do something to make up for your mistakes, after all, it is better to prevent it in the quarrel, sometimes the damage you cause to others during the quarrel is difficult to save by making amends, so what problems should parents pay attention to when they quarrel?