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It is best to respect the child's choice and not force the child to cut ties with the original family. Giving birth to grace is not raising grace. Changing from a familiar and warm family to a strange family all at once, even if you know that it is your own relatives, it takes a process, especially if they are still children.

In the eyes of children, these ** are "parents", the "parents" who raise them and give them love and care. But buying and selling is the same sin, and the child cannot understand it.

From the perspective of abducted children, I can actually understand his approach. Although he has recognized his biological parents, after all, he has a new identity in the past ten years, and because the other party has not left too many memories in his own growth, the lack of emotional interaction between the abducted child and his biological parents seems to be normal. But for a woman who has lost her child for more than ten years, she just wants to make up for her regrets for many years, so she will constantly want to chat with each other, but the child is not ready to accept a strange relative, and she will naturally be at a loss for this behavior.

In fact, it boils down to one party being too anxious and the other party is not used to it, so this situation occurs.

This news is very worrying, and the protagonist Zhao Peixu is Yang Jiaxin, a child who was abducted and trafficked by Aunt Mei, he was found by ** in 2019 and arranged to meet his biological mother Xia Xianju. It turned out that according to Xia Xianju, he usually wanted to chat with his children more, but was hacked by the other party. This is such a heartbreaking thing for a mother who has been looking for her son for more than ten years, and netizens are also mixed after seeing the news.

We have no reason to criticize either side, because each of them has only done reasonable behavior in line with their status at the moment, and the pain caused by all this may only be healed by time.

The young man, Yang Jiaxin, must have been shocked when he learned that he was the abductee, but he was even more confused by the sudden appearance of his biological mother, who was about to recognize him. Because these messages broke his cognition, he couldn't digest them at all, and the other party obviously didn't give him much time to get used to the process. So the contradiction naturally arises, the mother wants to get closer to the child, and the child slowly develops from the beginning of the unaccustomed to the boredom of the back, so he finally chooses to block the other party.

In fact, we can probably guess that Yang Jiaxin does not disown his parents, but he really can't bear this kind of family affection that falls from the sky. After all, his current life is very harmonious and stable, and the appearance of Xia Xianju has broken this situation and caused a lot of trouble to himself, which is also the reason why most abducted children are unwilling to live with their biological parents when they grow up. Therefore, don't turn love into a burden, the cultivation of feelings is a long-term process, I believe that as long as the child grows up and matures, he will naturally understand the value of blood kinship, and can also understand the good intentions of being a mother.

In life, children feel that their parents don't love themselves very much, and they feel that their parents don't care about themselves anymore, so they will go to black. It may also be that he made such a decision because he had a good life with his adoptive parents.

The biological mother is more like a stranger to the child, and the mother is missing many years of his life, and it is understandable that it takes time for the child to accept it.

I think this matter is very worthy of our attention to the filial piety of the shirt, because it can be seen that the child's biological mother left a very bad impression on the child, and this matter has something to do with the child's biological mother, so we must look at it rationally.

Personally, I think that Gao Shi's behavior of the abducted child is wrong, although his adoptive mother raised him, but his adoptive mother raised him because he was a man, and he came to him with his mother because he was a child.

I think it's heart-wrenching, the birth mother finally found her child, but lost the news of the child, and her heart must be very desperate and sad.

The abducted boy was mentally hurt and caused psychological shadows. We should actively guide and give warmth, and come out of the haze heart.

In reality, parents should actively protect their children and avoid letting them go out of unfamiliar environments alone. Child trafficking is a very egregious act. For abducted children, the parents who have raised them for many years are not their biological parents, and the sudden change is difficult for him to accept and psychologically difficult to calm down.

After having a normal family, I suddenly told myself that I was not my biological parents, which was very hesitant and unacceptable for a child.

First, the reason for this matter.

In June 2009, Gui Hongzheng's three-year-old son was abducted by traffickers in Wusheng County, Sichuan, and since then he has started a long road to find his son, and in 2019, after 10 years of searching for Wei Zhenghong, he finally found his son and took him home in a small town in Guangdong. After that, my son has been silent at home, unwilling to communicate with others, playing with his mobile phone in the room all day, and not eating much. and pulled his father's WeChat into the blacklist.

also told his biological father that he had no home. This made Gui Hongzheng silent after hearing this.

2. How to take precautions?

Child trafficking by traffickers is an egregious act. In daily life, parents should actively teach their children not to contact strangers, nor to play in cold places, and teach children how to distinguish bad people and self-help behaviors. Be sure to shout for help when you are in danger.

and ask for help from trusted people in the vicinity.

3. My personal opinion.

For parents, it is undoubtedly a blow for their own biological child to go missing unexpectedly. After 10 years, it is a good thing to find the child and bring it home. But this has a big shadow in the child's heart.

When a child has a normal family, he suddenly tells himself that he is not his biological parents, which makes him feel different from others. When his life experience, which had been hidden for more than 10 years, was revealed, the child did not feel much surprised, but brought more fear, fear and confusion. It made him feel very hesitant and insecure.

Doing psychological counseling to bring children out of the shadows, human traffickers are illegal acts. Call on the relevant departments to crack down on bad behavior. Make traffickers pay a heavy price.

First of all, it is necessary to understand that the abducted child cannot understand his biological parents at once, and to identify with his feelings; secondly, spend time with him, let him realize the goodness of his biological parents through this time; Finally, educate children about why child trafficking is illegal and what serious adverse consequences it can bring. This is a long-term job, and he can only rely on relatives and friends to slowly influence him.

The first step is to soothe the abducted child's emotions, then respect their wishes, and communicate with the abducted child's adoptive family so that they can get along.

I think his relatives should give him more love so that he can better integrate into the family.

The pain in the hearts of the biological parents cannot be healed, unless the child is willing to return to them, but as the child grows older, he will one day be able to understand the sadness of his parents' spine and will visit his biological parents.

My brother Zheng thinks that his biological father and mother should have a good talk with the child, because such a situation will cause serious impacts, and there will be many problems, and the harm is relatively high, and it is difficult to get out of the shadow.

Biological parents should face this matter with the right mindset. We should also learn to respect children, we should also follow our children's choices, and we should let children understand their own thoughts, and we should let children be cautious about the unspeakable secrets of their parents.

The news that the police found her son who had been abducted for 21 years and the mother knelt down to thank her has attracted the attention of the majority of netizens. Starting at the age of 4, in 21 years, the lost child has also grown into a 25-year-old guy. So in the 21 years since he was abducted, how has this guy lived?

I will now make a specific analysis of this issue and share my views.

The relationship with his adoptive parents was not very good, and he dropped out of school by the third year of junior high school.

When interviewed by the camera, the young man said that his relationship with his adoptive parents was not very good, because when he was very young, someone always told him that he was adopted.

Living in a remote and isolated area, what happens to a family will be known to people in a village, so rumors are indispensable to reach the ears of this young man.

It is said that it is a child who was brought in since childhood, and this feeling is very uncomfortable. Even if he asked the truth clearly, the guy at that time had no ability to change, so he could only let the ups and downs circulate and live his own day.

Although I have met my biological parents, I have not yet decided which side I want to live with.

Maybe many people will be a little surprised when they hear this detail revealed in the news, meeting their biological parents after 21 years is a very happy thing, but who knows that the guy has always hesitated on the issue of whether to live with his biological parents.

According to normal logic, perhaps many people will make a choice immediately when faced with this situation. Although the adoptive parents have raised themselves for so many years, they are not their children after all, and to some extent, it is also because of the purchase of the adoptive parents that the children are separated from their biological parents, considering this, many people have a grudge against the adoptive parents.

The most hateful are human traffickers

At the end of the day, the reason why the 25-year-old guy was trafficked to his adoptive parents was because of hateful human traffickers. The biological mother took the guy to the photo studio to take pictures, but when she went to pick up ** on the second day, the traffickers abducted the guy.

Recalling the past, the young man's biological mother had tears in her eyes.

Life is very good, although the adoptive parents adopted the child through incorrect channels, but the adoptive parents treated the child very well in his childhood life and current life, giving the same care to the child's biological parents.

His life is not very good, he dropped out of school in the third year of junior high school, and the relationship with his adoptive parents is not good.

The condition of the abducted children in the past 21 years has been quite good, and the adoptive parents have also treated the children well.

Let it be, the fate of parents and children is really deep and shallow, and some things can't be forced.

I've read some articles before, even if there is a blood relationship between parents and children, if they don't live together for a long time, the family affection is also weak, and it will be difficult to cultivate it later. For example, many parents of left-behind children say that their children are not close to them, and the reason is that family affection has not been cultivated.

In the TV series "Golden Wedding", Tong Zhi and Wen Li's second daughter, Nanfang, was sent to Sichuan Grandma's house to raise her as soon as she was born. I didn't pick it up until I was almost in elementary school. Then Nanfang has never been able to integrate into this family, and the relationship with his parents has not been very good.

This is not abduction, this is a long-term separation from my parents, and I have never raised or had no feelings.

If the child is still very young when he is retrieved, then as a biological parent, there is still a lot of hope to cultivate a relationship with the child. If the child is very old, he will definitely have his own ideas and may not want to come back.

I used to watch the news that the abducted child was found but was unwilling to return to his biological parentsFirst, because the "adoptive parents" have always treated them well and raised them as their own children; Second, because the economic conditions of the "adoptive parents'" family may be better than that of the biological parents' family, the children are more willing to stay on the side of the "adoptive parents". The third is because they have been separated from their biological parents for too long, and some children don't remember their biological parents anymore and have no feelings.

Agree with the saying: People are rarely able to empathize with the emotions of others. The abducted child himself has not experienced the abduction of his own child, and it is difficult to empathize with or understand the feelings of his biological parents.

If the "adoptive parents" are really good to the child, and the child is willing to live with the "adoptive parents", then there is no need to force the child, and this kind of thing will not end well, especially if the child's limbs are already big.

Birth parents may not be able to accept it, but that's the reality. There is no way to force this kind of thing, and if the family relationship is broken, it is really broken. In the future, you may only be able to move around as a relative.

I think we should face the reunion correctly, we must be good to the child, and the child must also have a grateful heart for the biological parents who are late in self-cultivation, after all, I have been looking for my brother for many years.

I believe that the families of abducted children should respect their children's opinions when facing reunions, and do not force their children when they do not violate their own principles and bottom lines.

You should understand the situation of the child's life in advance, go to the place where the child lives, go to the place where the child lives, observe the child's lifestyle silently, and face the reunion with a calm attitude after the servant.