How to understand Don t judge your opponent by your own values

Don't always look at others according to your own subjective ideas, because we always judge our opponents by what we have seen and heard from our own experiences, and by our own habits, many times this has great limitations, because our personal perspective is extremely one-sided. There is a story called "Sunshine Stainless Steel": it says that a person went out to go out, and when he was around the corner, he suddenly saw a sunny stainless steel sign hanging there outside the car window, and he thought that this person was too talented, but after the corner, he went around the tree to see the whole picture of the signboard:

Sunshine stainless steel products! A few more words, and that sense of detachment is gone.

This story can also illustrate: sometimes what we see is not the truth, I just thought it was the truth, but when the truth finally came, I found that there was such a big gap between the two!

Everyone has their own values, don't impose what you think is right on your opponents.

Don't try to understand it from your own perspective.

It means that you want to think about things in multiple ways.

For example, if you hurt someone.

Life is like a chess game, only the ability is equal, in order to play against the table, your opponent's life height determines your life height, the opponent's pattern determines your pattern, the opponent's vision determines your vision, and the opponent's ability determines your ability. Because you will only be opponents if you are evenly matched and evenly matched. Two people who are very different from each other will not have the opportunity to play against each other in life.

The value of a person is not measured by how glorious he is, but by who regards him as an opponent.

Our opponents have strengthened our abilities and tempered our will. Real opponents will instill in us a lot of courage.

The role of the opponent is very diverse, they can be your "help" on the road to success, or they can be the "teacher" who teaches you to recognize failure, and they are also the "friend" who goes hand in hand with you. Because in the game of life, no one is closer to you than your opponent.

The opinion given to you by your opponent is closer to the truth than what you think of yourself. Sometimes, your opponent knows yourself better than you do.

Therefore, to cultivate your own value, you must aim for your opponents. Those who can sit at the same negotiation table must not only have the ability to be equal, but also have the same bargaining chips. If you are weak in the eyes of your opponent, he will not even give you a look, let alone talk to you.

To put it cruelly, you don't deserve it.

Matching is the foundation of any kind of game. The two are opponents of each other, at least it means that the two are at the same height, and the other party has something you desire to surpass and is very different from you, so that the two people will be the most perfect opponent.

If your opponent is too much better than you, then you are not worthy of being called an opponent in his eyes, and he disdains to play with you. In the same way, you are so much stronger than your opponent that he does not deserve to be your opponent in your eyes, and you do not disdain to play with him.

The opponent is a mirror, reflecting the imperfect self, but also the most true self, because you take this situation as a mirror, you will be on the road to success without hesitation and move forward bravely.

Among the factors of a person's success, the motivation of opponents is an indispensable and important part. Rivals represent competition, and competition represents people who will continue to inspire and create new value, and the creation of value will make themselves and society move forward.

Therefore, when you can't find your own position and can't see your own value, you can look at your opponent and become an opponent, then you and him will always be at a considerable level in some aspects, regardless of thinking, ability, vision, pattern and other characteristics that determine the height of life, you and your opponent will not be too far apart.

When you don't understand a person's abilities, you can also use his opponent as a reference and reference, what kind of person will take him as an opponent, then that kind of person is similar or similar to the person you want to explore in many ways.

People are often multifaceted, and what he shows you may not be his most real ability and strength, but his opponents will not hide their strength for him. When you can't see his true face, use his opponent as a mirror that will never lie and will tell you what is the most real him.

So, measure a person's worth by looking at his opponents.

Everyone has their own values, for example, I think teaching is good, but if someone doesn't like to teach, I say it's good to teach, and I'm imposing it on others.

However, in addition to preferences, people usually measure the value of others by another metric, such as money.

It seems that there is a saying that in the future, everyone will be a businessman, everyone will become a businessman, but everyone will become a businessman, everyone will not know where their hearts are, and we will all be manipulated by money.

In fact, whether something is worth it or not is not determined by the matter itself, but by our hearts.

If you love it, or do it to achieve your life goals, you will be happy no matter how hard it is.

If it's not what you want, you won't be happy about it, no matter how good it is. For example, my parents once arranged a job for me, but no matter how high, stable, and comfortable the salary was, I was not happy and depressed ......