What is it like to have very different values from the world?

It's hard work to communicate with people who have different values. Many people, many times, it is difficult to do well. Liu Sheng usually eats Chinese food at a fast food restaurant at the intersection of the market, and two months ago, Ah Feng, the sister of his cousin's wife, opened a fast food restaurant not far from the fast food restaurant.

Since he was a relative, Liu Sheng went to Ah Feng's shop to eat, but it was not delicious, and the level of stir-fried vegetables was not as good as the original one, so Liu Sheng barely ate it twice, so he had to go back to the original store for lunch. In this way, Ah Feng has an opinion, thinking that Liu Sheng does not give face, is not her relative, and she is talking nonsense to her sister! As a result, Liu Sheng not only offended Ah Feng's family, but also made his cousin's wife angry!

Once, Liu Sheng went to his cousin to help with the work and asked his cousin to buy a few pineapples on the way, but the cousin didn't agree, saying that he didn't have time to buy them! My cousin is a truck driver, specializing in the line of Zhanjiang, Hainan, and buying pineapples is the most convenient and cheapest! (My cousin's wife doesn't think about it.)

Why didn't Liu Sheng go to her sister's store to eat? People who go to restaurants are the most affordable, and they go there if they are delicious and inexpensive).

There is no common language for people with different values, and it must be very tiring to get along with people who do not have a common language. If you have to get along with such a person, you can only adopt the method of "inclusiveness, inclusiveness, and tolerance". Life includes the most basic relationships between parents, partners, and colleagues.

These people have different values because of their age, gender, and position, and the key to getting along is understanding.

The first thing is to respect each other's values, and the second is to always review your own values, regardless of whether others have the same values as you, everyone deserves to be treated with respect. Don't feel that his values are inferior to yours, so you feel that you are superior to others and look down on others. Because your values are really not necessarily stronger than his.

It is inherently not objective for you to judge other people's values by your values.

The value of communication is chicken ribs, because the Tao is different. The experience of communication is similar to chewing wax, because it is playing the piano to a cow; The second is tiredness, because the donkey's lips are not in the horse's mouth. I feel like I'm a very different person, and I feel out of place in the world.

Each of us has our own ideas, of course, the three views are also different! Each of us stands in a different world and looks at some issues! At the same time, everyone has their own personality, their own temper, and the gap between educated and uneducated people is actually quite big.

The ideology of high education, there is not a level of culture! Their cultural gap is the way they communicate with each other, and what is it like to communicate with someone with different values who are not in the same pattern? In fact, it's just one word tired.

The experience of communicating with people with different values is that they either go their separate ways, or regress and make concessions, their interests are damaged, or they are full of anger, or they quarrel, and they feel the same as playing the piano to the cow.

The view is not everything, even if the three views between lovers are different, as long as the way two people get along with each other, they can live happily. The specific adjustment depends on individual differences, but I feel that the kind of indifferent person is easier to adjust, and the stronger person is more difficult.

The experience is to feel like an outlier. People with different values have different starting points and different goals. The communication between two people is basically incompatible, causing contradictions.

For example, what if a businessman who likes to do charity communicates with a profiteer who is covered in copper smell to donate to build a Hope Primary School? How can profiteers do things that are not profitable?

Couples with similar values, life expectations, and marital goals will have a more solid, stable and happy marital relationship, and the conflicts after marriage will be better resolved, and they will be able to understand each other better.

If the values of husband and wife are too different, or even opposite, it is difficult to understand and identify with each other, and it is easy to conflict in many aspects.

If one or both spouses recognize that each other's values are different, can "seek common ground while reserving differences", have an inclusive, tolerant, and kind heart, and can see and feel each other's goodness, the conflict in the relationship between husband and wife will be reduced.

However, if each party blindly hopes that the other party will change to accommodate themselves, and the energy is focused on changing the other party, it will not only be time-consuming and labor-intensive, but also may be in vain, and Sun Tuanchai will accumulate more resentment, frustration and hostility. Or this process is no longer "running-in", but "torture", which brings great harm to each other. When the depth and breadth of the conflict exceeds the bottom line of either party, there will be a crisis in the marriage.

In marriage, the bond that binds husband and wife is not money or children, but two people who have a common goal and emotional link, move forward hand in hand, and grow with each other.

Think about it, if people don't have the same heart, how can they go together? A low-quality marriage that is barely maintained for the children brings unspeakable pain to the parties involved, and the children who grow up in such a family are also vulnerable to negative emotions.

There is rarely a right or wrong value, but the perspective and experience are different.

It is difficult for a person's three views to change drastically, and it takes more wisdom and skills to manage a marriage with a large gap in values. If you want to continue your marriage, try not to change the other person, because it is more difficult to change the other person.

You might as well start by changing yourself, adjusting your expectations for marriage, seeking common ground while reserving differences, trying to accept each other, and achieving mutual understanding, mutual respect, appreciation, and mutual growth.

Of course, everyone has the right to pursue their own happiness, and everyone's happiness is different.

If you really feel that it is difficult to understand and accept the other person, and you are unwilling to go on in this marriage, it is a good choice to sum up the experience of this marriage and try to find a partner who is close to your values in the new relationship.

1. As a kind of social consciousness, values have a major counter-effect on social existence, and have an important role in driving, restricting and guiding people's behavior. The guiding role is manifested as follows: values play an important guiding role in people's activities to understand the world and transform the world.

On the one hand, values affect people's perception and evaluation of things; Values, on the other hand, influence the activities of the writers to transform the world. Values play an important guiding role in the choice of life path.

2. What kind of life path a person takes and what kind of lifestyle he chooses are all carried out under the guidance of a certain world view and values. To find the right values is to find the true meaning of life.

This is the normal law, it's all the same, it's artificial. Nature is a hundred flowers blooming and a hundred birds contending.

Different environments and different education can lead to the formation of different values.

Values are cognition, understanding, judgment or choice made based on people's certain thinking senses, that is, a kind of thinking or orientation that people identify things and judge right and wrong, so as to reflect the certain value or role of people, things and things; In a class society, different classes have different values. Values are characterized by stability and persistence, historicity and selectivity, and subjectivity. Values have a guiding effect on motivation and reflect people's perceptions and needs.

Values refer to the standards used to distinguish good from bad, which are measured and evaluated according to the scale of the individual's heart, and these standards can be called values.

The different environments and education received can lead to the formation of different values.

Values are cognitions, understandings, judgments or choices made based on people's certain thinking senses, that is, a kind of thinking or orientation that people identify things and distinguish right and wrong, so as to reflect a certain value or role of people, things and things; In a class society, different classes have different values. Values have the characteristics of stability and persistence, historicity and selectivity, and subjectivity. Values have a guiding effect on motivation, and the same code reflects people's cognition and needs.

Values refer to the standards used to distinguish good from bad, which are measured and evaluated according to the scale of the individual's heart, and these standards can be called values.

Many times, our different views arise because of different values.

In this case, you can speak your mind and show your value for the price. At the same time, I listened to other people's ideas and sighed: It turns out that it can be like potatoes in this state.

On the one hand, you can have a good understanding of different values and understand different ideas from yourself. On the other hand, it can also be used to enrich oneself.

Different people, different experiences, will cause different opinions and opinions. How to absorb other people's views and see different values, you can better recognize different things.

Try to understand everyone's thoughts and see different values, and you will find that the monotonous life you thought was not different from each other.