Why is the man around me not good for the first wife, but especially good for the second wife?

This situation can be said to be a very natural thing, regardless of why they want to divorce, first of all, they should understand that if they have a good relationship between husband and wife, it is impossible to break up at all, that is to say, there is no so-called second marriage.

As for the man around you, the first marriage is not good for the wife, and the second marriage is especially good for the wife, it can also be said to be a very normal phenomenon, after all, whether it is a man or a woman, such a situation may also happen, although it is said that the two people divorce due to various reasons, but under normal circumstances, whether it is the man who takes the initiative or the woman who takes the initiative, after the real divorce, both parties can have some regrets.

And as a person who is married for the second time, with the lessons of the past, in order to avoid repeating the mistakes of the past, under normal circumstances, it is natural to treat this marriage well, and treat the other half of the marriage well, as for the man mentioned by the subject, he was very strict with his wife when he first married, and even scolded his wife with his parents, and the second marriage was particularly tolerant of his wife, in fact, there are many men in the second marriage will be like this, after all, it is a person who has come over, even if he is divorced, or even he himself took the initiative to propose, But he himself will also reflect on his responsibilities in the divorce, so that he will naturally learn the lessons of insomnia in the last marriage, so that he will naturally know how to treat the person next to him well, to put it bluntly, this situation is not to say that the current wife is much better than the ex-wife, but that the man's emotional attitude and marriage concept have changed is true.

In fact, although it is said that it is impossible to go back to the past after divorce, it is really possible to turn back time.

Let the two of them start anew, it is entirely possible that they will not get divorced, but it is also entirely possible to treat their ex-wives with the attitude of today's second wife, but they have a lot of thoughts in their hearts, regret and reluctance to speak to others, and it is even more impossible to let themselves be burdened with the responsibility of divorce, in the final analysis, in an emotional marriage, even if a man can reflect on his various wrongs in the marriage, he will not take the initiative and honestly admit that he has to bear the main responsibility in the divorce. And the result of self-reflection is often the benefit of the later people.

The main reason is that they always disrespect them when they are with their first wife, do not understand them, and do not particularly cherish them, which causes great harm to their wives.

Because after summarizing the lessons learned from the past, after getting married, you will correct your previous mistakes, and then you will be very good to your current wife.

Mainly because the men around him have become more mature and know how to deal with the marriage relationship, and he doesn't want to lose his wife again.

First of all, there is the problem of concept, my country has always been influenced by traditional concepts, and I feel that the wife of the second marriage has been married, since the divorce may be the man's problem, or she may have her own problem. There is also a feeling that I am married for the first time, and it is unbalanced to find a wife for the second marriage. The third is a practical problem, if the wife of the second marriage does not have children, the social relationship is relatively simple, and if she has children, she will always be involved with her ex-husband's family, and some relationships will be very complicated in the future, and it is not easy to get along.

China is a traditional country, many concepts have been influenced by the family since childhood, and they have always been very traditional, and it is difficult for them to accept a woman who has been married, even if they accept it, the family is not willing to accept it. In this way, it is difficult to get along with the family after marriage, and there are some practical problems in the marriage that is not blessed by the family. The relationship between his parents and his wife does not get along, and he will inevitably be caught in the middle and will not be a good person, and after a long time, the relationship between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not be handled well, and he will be angry.

There are also second-married wives who have children of their own, so the first-married man feels that the relationship between his wives is complicated, and secondly, he thinks that if they have another child, will the wife's heart favor one over the other among the children. Because the wife may feel that the failure of her marriage has caused damage to the child, and she feels that she owes it to the child and wants to make up for it all the time. Such a psychology will inevitably lead her to care more for the child, while in contrast, the man will feel that his wife does not love his child.

There are also worries that the second wife is more resistant to the feelings between people because she has experienced the unhappiness of marriage. may treat his wife wholeheartedly, but will his wife always be unable to open her heart, so that the feelings will not be rewarded accordingly.

In fact, we think the other way around, a second-married woman has experienced a failed marriage, and when she meets her suitable marriage partner again, she will cherish the marriage even more. In life, the family will be more important, such a second wife is actually rare, they will cherish their current life more after remarriage, so they will live happily. But there are people who have experienced emotional failures, have been hurt, and no longer believe in the love of other men, they just marry for the sake of getting married.

Such a wife closes herself off, and the man's contribution to the family will inevitably not be reciprocated, and in the long run, the husband and wife will become strangers to each other. Therefore, it is not unreasonable for a first-married man to be reluctant to marry a second-married wife.

There are many reasons why a first-married man is reluctant to marry a second-married wife, first of all, he is unwilling to help the other party raise children, and secondly, he is unwilling to see the involvement between his wife and his ex-husband. The second is that they are worried that the gossip from the outside world will affect their normal life. The main reason is that the man's family will definitely choose to stop it.

Unwilling to help each other raise children.

Generally, a woman who is married for the second time will have a child of her own, even if the child does not follow the woman, but the woman will still put all her thoughts on the child. Therefore, many first-married men will feel that finding such a wife will only affect their future happiness, even if the two have their own children after marriage, there is still no way to shake the status of the other child, which will also affect the relationship between the two.

Involvement with her ex-husband.

After a woman chooses to divorce, even if the relationship with her husband breaks down, as long as there are children, the two will still keep in touch. Countless men can't stand it, every time they see the relationship between their wives and ex-husbands, they always feel a lot of grief and anger in their hearts, and they may even be angry with women because of this. Although there is not much relationship between the two, every time they get along, the current husband feels like a knife, which is why countless men will feel that they should not choose a woman who is married for the second time anyway.

Worried about gossip from the outside world.

Men who marry for the first time, even if they do not have outstanding talent and a solid economy, are generally reluctant to find a woman who is married for the second time. Even if this woman has no children after the divorce, many men will feel that this is simply an option to lose their identity, and the outside world may keep pointing fingers, so that they will not be able to hold their heads up. People will always feel that their lives are left to others to say, but there are very few people who can really see everything, and countless people will affect their normal life because of gossip from the outside world.

Blocking of the family.

For parents want their children to have a happy life, although the parents' ideas may not be 100% correct, but countless parents are unwilling to let their first-married son marry a second-married woman. Many traditional parents will feel that the reason why a woman chooses to divorce must be due to improper behavior, or because of her character, and they are worried that it will affect their children.

The reason why a first-married man is reluctant to marry a second-married wife is that he is too demanding, and he always feels that the second-married wife is not as good as the first-married wife, and he is worried that the second-married wife has an inexplicable relationship with her ex-husband. But this is also understandable, the old saying doesn't often say that the original match is the best.

Men are more face-loving, afraid of being laughed at by others. Men want to have a pure love and don't want their lovers to have a relationship experience. Many women in second marriage have children, and men don't want to be stepfathers.

I think that in a man's heart, Kaili will feel that the original wife is better, he thinks that the original wife will be devoted to him, will work together for their family, he will feel that the second wife is not following him wholeheartedly, and the second wife may still think about the original family when she is with him, and she has different intentions with him.

1. In the eyes of a man, the original wife treats him sincerely and sincerely. I think most men will regard their original wives as very important, and they will want to treat their wives wholeheartedly when they get married, and they will also think that their original wives will treat him wholeheartedly.

A man will feel that his original wife will work together with him, and will pay for this family together, and he will not be double-hearted, he will feel that the family formed by his original wife and himself is his own home, and he also believes that his original wife will follow him wholeheartedly.

Second, in the eyes of men, the second wife may have different intentions. I think in the eyes of some men, they can't treat their second wife wholeheartedly, and he will feel that since the second wife has been married to someone else, she and her ex-husband may still have some feelings. A man can't trust his second wife wholeheartedly, he will feel that his second wife may have something to hide from him, such as breaking ties with her ex-husband, or having a closer relationship with the children born to her ex-husband, he will feel that he is not so important in the eyes of his second wife.

He will also feel that a woman who is married for the second time will not regard marriage as important, and she may sell it when she is old and wait for her to leave her.

In the same way, he will not regard his second wife as so important, he will feel that his second wife may have two hearts with him, and the second wife may think about the original family, and he is not as important as her original family. It's impossible for me to trust him completely, it's impossible to talk to her completely, and we'll be wary of each other.

If you were a man, what would you think of your original wife and second wife?

It is now common for men to remarry. After the first marriage, the man who marries for the second time should know what kind of marriage they want. So how will a man who is married for the second time treat his wife? Let's take a look.

What will a second-married man do to his wife.

1.For the next wife, if she is also divorced, the man will be careful after remarrying, and pay attention to the cultivation of feelings and the run-in of living habits in married life. Men and women, like women, will not easily divorce again after remarrying, and they want to live better this time.

When it comes to marital problems, men will no longer deal with them as simply and lightly as they did in their first marriage, but will become more mature and rational. In remarriage, men pay more attention to the adjustment and adaptation of marital problems, and will be more tolerant of women than before.

2.If you are looking for an unmarried girl to be your next wife, the man will cherish and love her more, and it will also multiply the value of this hard-won relationship and make it better in the new marriage.

Will a man who is married for the second time be good to his wife.

It doesn't mean that divorced sedan chair men are not good. There are many factors in this, such as the ending of fate, the incompatibility of personalities, the possibility of the woman's reasons, and so on. Even if it is the man's fault, it is possible that the man has reformed and become a new person after the baptism of the last failed marriage.

That's your luck, you get a good husband for free.

Will a man get better off because of divorce?

Some people say that a second-married man who has experienced a failed marriage will know how to cherish his current marriage more and know how to love his wife more. A man really needs years of accumulation and precipitation to be more attractive and tasteful, which mainly depends on his character, inner nature, cultivation and so on. Aside from the second-married man, you have to consider whether this man is suitable for you.

Only you know.

Is it okay for a second-married man.

In fact, there is no difference between the first marriage and the second marriage. To put it bluntly, it's a matter of face. Whether it sounds good or not, what about the first marriage?

It's the same as divorce. There was a marriage before the second marriage, but no man wanted to divorce after the marriage. After all, marriage is not child's play.

There must be a reason for the divorce. If you have to or can't get a divorce, you can choose.

For the following reasons:

1. The original partner can share the suffering, and the second marriage can only be the same.

The man knows very well in his heart that the original partner was willing to accompany him to start from scratch, and he was able to accompany him to starve and freeze when he was poor, and he would never choose to abandon himself because of disgust. If I didn't have the company of my original partner, I didn't know how to get through the most difficult time. And now the appearance of the second wife is already in the period when their economic conditions are better, and the two do not have a deep emotional experience as the foundation, and they may directly destroy this marriage that is combined halfway as long as they encounter a little wind and waves.

Sharing weal and woe, of course, through difficult times together will be even more impressive.

2. The original match is love, and the second marriage is suitable.

The union of the first relationship is more because of the sincere love in each other's hearts, and the two will be willing to live together as husband and wife because of love. It's just that in the later relationship, because of such and such bad things and the love in the heart is worn out, people will feel that love has become a dispensable existence in life. So when the second marriage is combined, you no longer put love first, but consider whether both parties are suitable to live together.

However, every man will have a white moonlight in his heart that cannot be forgotten, and perhaps he will not be able to understand what is most important until he has experienced the reality of his second marriage and remembers the original pair's contribution again.

3. The original match is unreserved, and the second marriage is to be wary everywhere.

A common problem in remarried families is that both spouses are reluctant to completely open their hearts and sincere to each other out of the protection of their feelings and property. Especially when it comes to money, both parties will tacitly choose to have reservations, after all, no one wants to suffer a loss. However, in such a impersonal relationship, men will feel tired and helpless more often, and these situations have never been felt in the original partner.

After withstanding the blow of real feelings, men will begin to miss the original match, and miss the good times when they were unreserved and devoted to love.