Why do they say that husband and wife are still the original match? Count the sorrows of second marr

The original husband and wife are married for the first time, and they must have expectations for marriage and will take corresponding responsibilities, but the second marriage is usually to make do with life, they both want to live for themselves, and they don't want to pay so much, but they also find true love and a happy life.

Because many of the property of the original husband and wife are shared. The couple from beginning to end did not complain. Therefore, it is good to say that the original husband and wife are good.

Because only the original wife is willing to follow her husband to endure hardships, and without any complaints, she will follow her to the end.

Nowadays, there are many people who get married every day, but the divorce rate in our country is also very high every year. This is mainly because people nowadays look at their love life more and more lightly, if they are suitable, they will be together, and if they are not suitable, they can choose to divorce, and now divorce is not as ridiculed as before, and sometimes divorce requires more courage. Some people no longer believe in love after divorce, but some people will find other happiness after divorce.

However, there are still many differences between the original couple and the second couple in their married life.

The first is to treat children, whether it is the original partner or the second marriage, there is no escaping the topic of children. Especially for second-married families, whether the man or the woman has children, the relationship needs to be adjusted, and even sometimes they are careful to minimize the impact as much as possible.

However, for the original couple, there will hardly be disputes over the child, after all, it is their own biological child. Whether it is a man or a woman, most of them will put their own flesh and blood on the tip of their hearts. There are even many couples who know that their relationship has faded for the sake of their children, but for the sake of their children, they still choose to be together.

Even if the worst outcome is divorce, the husband and wife will rarely escalate their conflicts to the children.

But forCouples who remarry will have some disputes more or less because of their children, and even escalateOne or both parties who have given birth to a child, whether they take it with it or not, will become the fuse of their dispute. Unless the remarried couple later has children of their own, the dispute may be eased. In the face of children who are not their own, there are still a few who can tolerate them generously or treat them like their own children.

The other party is the property aspect, whether it is the first marriage or the second marriage, it will be based on material things. The original spouse will belong to their joint property regardless of the amount of property, but for remarried couples,Once one party carries the inherent property, then the other party may be guarded day and night as if it were a domestic thief. In addition, there are many second-married couples, although they have learned lessons, they rarely make detours in marriageBut sometimes the nature is difficult to change, and it seems to have become a risk in the marriage.

The original husband and wife are heart-to-heart, have children and tendons, and the second marriage is sincere on the outside, and the children are eccentric.

There are no fixed differences, and there are no fixed similarities. It varies from person to person, from family to family.

After all, the original couple got married from the beginning.

Attack to live together, everyone's living habits will slowly adapt to each other, slowly accept, then the second-married couples because they each have a habit of breaking off their own lives, it takes a long run-in to get together 700 to slowly adapt, and if you can't drink it, you will say that you will divorce again.

Just like a car, there will often be all kinds of problems after replacing the original parts, and the same is true for couples, and it is better for the original match, and many problems will not occur between the original partner and the second marriage.

In fact, when it comes to separation, the difference is not big! At most, there is one more marriage experience! As long as the two love each other, understand and respect each other! In fact, there is not much difference between the original marriage and the second marriage.

The original couple cares about everything, unless the second marriage is a lover in front of them, and they can't be together for various reasons, and they will be happy after the second marriage is combined.

But most second marriages do not have the feelings of lovers or husband and wife, there is no emotional foundation, generally speaking, the second marriage is fast, and the breakup is also fast!

If the first marriage fails, the second marriage will work harder and cherish more.

There is not much difference between adults, but the big difference is between children. It affects children's minds very much.

It's no different, but I feel that the second marriage is transparent.

This is like planting melons, the first melon is sweet or the second melon is sweet.

Their biggest difference is:

will be on their own children.

Better.

There are the following differences between the original couple and the second couple.

1. The original partners trust each other, and it is difficult to keep the same heart in the second marriage.

The second-married wife is a halfway couple, although there are also second-married couples who have a good relationship, but more of them have to "make do" with each other and live together. In this way, it is difficult for second-married couples to keep one mind, and two people think about their own interests, even if they get along carefully, they will inevitably be a little rusty. The current wife is financially independent, and in her words, if the second wife has a lower income, a poor family background, and even a lower family status, the feeling of "I am an outsider" after marriage will be obvious, which is very realistic.

2. The salary card is handed over to the wife, and the wife is in charge of the money, so even the pocket money is not enough, such a joke is actually common in real life. But if you look closely, it is not difficult to find that nine out of ten families with this situation are original families, and there are very few second-married families.

In my first marriage, there was basically no property trust problem, and both of us were working hard for a family; Nowadays, it is more realistic, and the issue of property is not so easy.

3. It's easy to be a mother, but it's hard to be a stepmother.

If the second-married couple has children before and is raising them themselves, then there is even more trouble. Stepmother and stepfather have always been a vicious symbol in folk rumors, and after the second marriage, their every move towards their children will be "monitored" as if there is nothing. As a mother, her children can scold as much as they want, and no one can find fault with them.

can be a stepmother, even if she knows that it is time to take care of her children at this time, she does not dare to talk about education lightly, for fear that she will be called a "vicious stepmother" if she disagrees.

In the final analysis, there are still many unknowns about the second marriage, but if the current marriage is really unbearable, it should be broken. Only the feet know whether the shoes fit or not, please don't choose to "get by" because of other people's remarks such as "second marriage equals second-hand", and continue to endure the pain caused by a bad marriage.

If it can be redeemed, then please don't give up the person you once loved; If it can't be undone, then please don't be obsessed with hurting each other. Even if the second marriage is not good, there will always be some second-married couples who really met the right person in the second marriage, and they can be happy and happy forever for a lifetime.