How to deal with negativity

People can't always be in a good mood, since there are setbacks and troubles in life, there will be negative emotions. A psychologically mature person is not a person who does not have negative emotions, but someone who is good at regulating and controlling his emotions. So, how to be good at regulating and controlling your emotions?

One is conscious control. When the anger is about to explode, use your consciousness to control yourself, remind yourself to be rational, and also self-suggest: "Don't get angry, getting angry will hurt your body." People with self-cultivation are generally able to control.

The second is self-encouragement. Comfort yourself with certain philosophies or certain quotes, and encourage yourself to fight against pain and adversity. Entertaining yourself will make your mood better.

The third is language regulation. Language is a powerful tool for influencing emotions. If you are sad, reciting funny phrases can take away the sadness. Using self-reminders, self-commands, and self-suggestion such as "anger control", "forbearance", and "calmness" can also regulate one's emotions.

Fourth, environmental constraints. The environment plays an important role in regulating and restraining emotions. When you are emotionally depressed, taking a walk outside can play a regulating role.

When you are not in a good mood, you can go to the casino to play games and relieve your worries. When you're feeling upset, the best thing to do is to watch a burlesque movie.

Fifth, comfort. When a person pursues a certain goal and fails to achieve it, in order to reduce the disappointment in his heart, he can find a reason to comfort himself, just like a fox who can't eat grapes and says that grapes are sour. It's not self-deception, and occasionally as a way to ease your emotions, it's very beneficial.

Sixth, transfer. When the anger is rising, consciously changing the subject or doing something else to distract you can help relieve your emotions. Playing ball, going for a walk, and listening to the trend** can also help divert unpleasant emotions.

Seventh, catharsis. When encountering unpleasant things and grievances, don't bury them in your heart, but tell your close friends or relatives or cry. This kind of venting can release the bad emotions accumulated in the heart, which is beneficial to maintaining physical and mental health, but the object, place, occasion and method of venting should be appropriate to avoid hurting others.

Eight is humor. Humor is a special kind of emotional expression and a tool for people to adapt to their environment. Having a sense of humor keeps people positive and optimistic about life.

Many seemingly annoying things, dealt with in a humorous way, can often make people's unpleasant emotions disappear and immediately become relaxed.

Nine is to go into nature. Nature's strange mountains and rivers can often shock people's hearts. When you climb the mountain, you will feel open-minded.

When you look at the sea, you will feel detached. When you walk into the forest, you will feel that everything is so fresh. This good feeling is often an inducer of a good mood.

The heart can only be broken once, and there may be pain in the future, but the pain is never as good as the feeling of being broken. And the pain after heartbreak is not so difficult to erase. At least the pain will feel much better than the feeling of breaking.

If you hurt yourself and are tired of others, why should you get along with yourself. In fact, there is only a trace of happiness and sadness.