What do we have children for? What is the purpose of having a baby?

First of all, having children is not about providing for oneself in old age.

For people who raise children to prevent old age, children are a kind of pension tool. They have children just so that when they are old, the children can help them take care of themselves.

Raising children is not as simple as raising pigs, sheep, cows, dogs, etc., and the purpose of raising them is either to eat meat or to take care of the family. If you look at the matter of having children with this utilitarian mentality, giving birth to children only to help you support your own elderly, then when the children grow up, they will inevitably treat their parents with a utilitarian mentality.

There is a lot of positive feedback about raising children, such as spiritual sustenance, and it can also make the family warmer and more lively, but it is by no means for children to provide for themselves.

Nowadays, many young people say that when they are old, they can go to a nursing home and never add a burden to their children. And now people have a sense of insurance, basically start to buy insurance after graduation, and you can also receive a monthly pension when you are old, as long as you are not seriously ill, the basic life is not a problem, and you don't need to rely on your children to support the elderly.

Secondly, the process of raising children is also the process of parental growth.

The child's preference for his parents, perhaps there is no one in the world who can give it except the child. I often hear people say that since a certain boy became a father, he seems to have grown up and become sensible. After most men become fathers, they will consciously shoulder the burden on their shoulders, take their due responsibilities, and become mature.

Mothers also become stronger in the process of raising their children. As the saying goes, motherhood is rigidity. In the process of raising children, we will encounter all kinds of sadness, pain and difficulties, but we must grit our teeth and persevere for the sake of our children.

Mothers will become stronger and more calm than they were before they became mothers.

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As a mother, have you ever thought that I would really live a better life without children? What would be your answer?

When you become a mom, you get better.

The growth of children is also the growth of parents.

Secondly, people who are financially strong enough want to have more children.

If you look at those rich families, which one doesn't have many children? The richer a person is, the more he hopes that his property will be inherited in the future.

We had a super-rich local family that only had one daughter when he was poor. Now that I'm very rich, I regret not having more children every day, and I worry every day, what should I do with so much money. (Alas, the life of a rich man, unimaginable.) ）

One of the main reasons why people are reluctant to have a second or third child is economic problems. It's the same in our family, if the financial strength allows, we are still very willing to have another child. But it's really hard.

In addition, people with strong financial ability tend to be more independent, and they will not expect to rely on their children to provide for the elderly, but will do their best to provide better conditions for their children and make their lives more comfortable.

To sum up, the meaning of having children is not to provide for the elderly, but to be happier and have one or more people who really love you.

The reason why we have children is to wait for us to be old and have someone to take care of us.

However, with the development of the times, people's economic level has also been greatly improved, many people have pensions after retirement, or have accumulated enough wealth through hard work when they are young to ensure their pension life, and there is no need to rely on children to provide for the elderly.

Therefore, there are more and more Dink couples, who think: we don't rely on children to support the elderly, so what's the point of having children?

You must know that the cost of raising a child is too high now, and it is not easy to bring up a child, and parents have to help their children buy a car and a house, get married and have children, and even when they are old, it is difficult to have their own free time, and they have to help their children take care of their children.

The concept of raising children to prevent old age is getting weaker and weaker, and many young couples can't figure out why they want to have children.

When I was watching a variety show recently, the host of the show raised this question, I don't want to get married before I get married, and I don't want children after I get married, because I don't understand what the meaning of having children is. Spending money and having children is a very troublesome thing that will bring a lot of troubles to your life, which can be completely avoided, so you don't want to, because children disrupt your normal life.

The thoughts of this show host are naturally also the thoughts of many young couples, they don't know why they want to have children, is it just to pass on the lineage? If it is to have a child for the sake of having a child, what is the meaning of marriage?

Regarding the host's question, Xiang Huaqiang's wife Chen Lan gave this answer: When I am getting old day by day, but my youth continues in the child, he has grown up, so my time has not disappeared, and many people will ask where has the time gone? I saw it in children.

Xiang Tai, who is in his 60s, is the only one among the guests of the show who is ready to be a mother-in-law, and because he is older, he has experienced a lot of things, so he sees things very clearly, and people live well.

It is everyone's freedom to have children or not, but if once you decide to have children, it is best for couples to make a careful decision after thinking clearly, once you become parents, the responsibility becomes more important, and two children are indeed something that requires more energy to complete in a day.

Some people say that children are the continuation of each of our lives, and when we leave this world, there is still our blood in the world, and there are still people who remember the days when we were alive, you grow up with him, and he grows old with you, which can also be said to be the happiest thing in the world.