What worries parents have about their children?

Children's worries.

In the process of children's growth, there will always be many troubles of one kind or another. The common troubles encountered by children are:

1. Criticized or misunderstood.

2. Being treated unfairly and distrusting teachers.

3. Being bullied by peers, such as being beaten by children.

4. Accidentally getting into trouble, such as breaking something that your parents like.

5. Feeling unwell.

6. Lost your beloved belongings.

Manifestations of annoyance.

1. Often depressed.

2. Feeling very sad and aggrieved, even angry and helpless.

3. I don't like to talk and like to be alone.

4. The rebellious psychology is serious, and you can do whatever you want to do and vent.

When the child has troubles, in the face of the child's troubles, parents will generally have the following manifestations:

1.The first type of parent --- blame the child: annoyance to annoyance.

The teacher should recommend a child's painting to the kindergarten to participate in the exhibition. Dongdong and Fang Fang drew very well, but Dongdong was defeated. Dongdong thought that the teacher didn't like him and was very annoyed.

When he got home in the evening, Dongdong told his father about his troubles. I don't want my dad to say impatiently, "How can you think that?"

It means that your drawing is not as good as Fang Fang's. You have no reason to be angry at all. It is conceivable that Dongdong is even more troubled because of his father's reprimand.

2.The second type of parent --- enlighten the child: do not treat the troubles with the troubles.

In a situation like Xiao Dongdong, such parents will squat down, let the child finish what is in his heart, and listen carefully. And will stroke the child's head and say, "Baby, if mom were you, mom would be just as uncomfortable as you."

Come, baby, sit down and talk to mom about the details, okay? After listening, such parents often enlighten their children: "Don't take this matter to heart, we will have a chance in the future."

Come on, baby, let's have a chocolate and talk about the fun you had in kindergarten, okay? "Because of my mother's understanding and comfort, I think Dongdong will quickly get rid of his troubles.

3.The third type of parent --- guide children: see their troubles as opportunities for growth.

On the basis of the second type of parent, this type of parent will further guide the child: "Baby, let's think about it. Can you tell why Fang Fang's painting was chosen by the teacher?

You name it, Mom writes it down. And then we'll learn her strengths and you'll improve a lot, okay? With the patient guidance of parents, children will also regain their courage.

Especially during the rebellious period, children often do the opposite thing with adults, go to the Internet bar, and so on.

I don't know how to communicate with my child

Sexual troubles; Because adults have more or less a lot of troubles when it comes to sexuality.

Solution: Parents naturally have their own solutions, which is inconvenient to say.

Second children's troubles: including your studies, work, marriage.

Solution: Make an effort to save your parents on your own.

3. Parents' work troubles: social life is fast-paced, and parents are under great pressure at work.

Solution: Spend more time with them and care more about them.

Fourth, parents are worried about their elderly: it can be manifested in the physical worries of grandparents.

Solution: Help your grandparents with more chores. Visit more.

Five parents are worried about the quality of life: it is better to say that the family's expenses are getting bigger and bigger, and the price of goods in 20008 is **.

Solution: The whole family learns to save, and you have to find more ways to earn money.

Mother: Husband and children, how to save every money, friends.

Dad: Wife and children, things at work, friends.

As a parent, sometimes I feel that my child is my most intimate little padded jacket, but there are also times when I feel that my child is particularly troublesome, especially when I am waiting to be fed, I can't wait to escape from this "little devil" who was born to collect debts from me. When I really escaped, I felt that the child was not by my side, and my heart seemed to be very empty, and I wanted to miss it specially. The feelings of parents for their children are such a contradictory existence, but after all, all troubles are short-lived, and the joy that those children bring to them is eternal.

As long as the child grows up, we as parents will easily mess up, especially full-time mothers, this idea is even stronger. Children's food, clothing, housing and transportation need to be arranged with one hand. When it is cold, you must clothe him; If he is dirty, he should wash his face and bathe him; There are so many trivial things in life, which makes my mother feel physically and mentally exhausted.

Finally, the child sleeps, and the mother has to get up to clean up the house, toys, and chores that can't be done.

However, as the baby continues to grow, he will find in many inadvertent moments that he begins to learn to eat and walk by himself, and gradually, he begins to become less dependent on himself as he did when he was a newborn. At first, I will feel that the child has become well-behaved and sensible, and I can finally relax.

Suddenly, one day, the child made a basin of water in advance, brought it to him, and said, "Mom, you have worked hard, from now on, let me protect you." At this moment, I have burst into tears, at this moment, I am strongly aware that my child has grown up, I am really gratified, he has learned how to feed back at such a young age.

Therefore, cherish the time spent with children, and the company of parents is indispensable in the growth of children. But there is really no child in the world who is inseparable from their parents, but parents, when their children leave their side and go to farther places to study and develop, they always recall those times together.

Some people say that children's hearts are the purest, children are innocent and kind, the whole person is very simple, unlike adults, the mind is complex, and the child's heart is cleaner than white paper, without any dirt and impurities. But children's minds are also fragile, and when their beautiful visions contradict reality, there will be troubles. Growing painsIt is something that every child will have, and some children will face itGrowing painscan face difficulties, and some children will be depressed.

Children are the flowers of the motherland and the hope of the nation, and the healthy growth of children is related to their future. So as a parent, how should you help your child overcome it?Growing pains

Communicate with your child

Parents should have more contact and communication with their children, create a democratic atmosphere in the family, and let children have the opportunity to express their opinions, participate in family discussions, and have their own opinions. When a child has troubles, he or she is willing to tell them to his or her parents, so that they can help them solve and overcome them.

Pay more attention to your child's troubles

If parents ignore their children's troubles and ignore them on the grounds that they are busy with work and have too many affairs, it will have a negative impact on their children's physical and mental health. When children are troubled, you may wish to listen to them patiently, get to know them better, and correctly guide children to face their troubles positively and eliminate their troubles.

One is to learn to confide

Tell your child that if you have troubles, don't keep them in your heart, learn to pour out your troubles, help them know and accept themselves, and avoid accumulating troubles for a long time, resulting in nervousness, remorse, despair and other emotions. Set aside time for your child to talk every day, such as after dinner or before bedtime, put yourself in your child's shoes and help him solve his problems.

The second is self-relaxation

Tell your child that if he or she is troubled, go to an open area and shout or take a deep and rhythmic breath. You can also do things that interest you to dilute your worries, such as reading books, chatting with friends, outdoor sports, listening, taking hot baths, etc. Don't discipline your child too much, let them participate in a variety of beneficial activities, have a variety of hobbies to choose from, and they will have a variety of ways to relax themselves, which can consciously cultivate a healthy personality in children.

Definitely, don't say that the child doesn't understand, you put on a straight face and smile at him, his reaction is different. Emotions are contagious. Babies actually look at people's faces, if you make him smile, he will be happy, if you are expressionless, he will be equally expressionless, if you have a fierce temper and speak loudly, he will frown and cry.

Why are novice mothers anxious, generally speaking, on the one hand, because they are mothers for the first time, very unfamiliar, and before they are not mothers, they are free and individual-centered, and suddenly a baby appears in front of them, occupying most of the time of the day, and the mother definitely has a big discomfort psychologically.

Mothers who have someone to help at home are a little better, and their anxiety will be relatively smaller. Novice mother's anxiety will not only affect the child, but also work on herself, affecting the secretion of breast milk, excessive anxiety may tend to postpartum depression, so mothers should pay attention, be sure to adjust their mood, don't always stay at home, go out and chat, chat with others, you can watch funny videos in your free time, and pay attention to rest.

Parents' anxiety may transmit pressure to their children, the rapid development of society, housing price pressure, price pressure, workplace pressure, insecurity will make parents more stressed, if their own relief is not released properly, some parents will even pass anxiety to their children.

Because the family atmosphere will become tense and restrained, if it is a fragile child, being in a depressed family environment for a long time is not conducive to the child's learning and psychological growth. This may be similar to the consequences of some single-parent families, disharmony in the relationship between parents, etc.

Mild anxiety can prompt parents to prepare and plan for their children in advanceSome parents, knowing the pressure of society in advance, will prompt parents to prepare their children for life in advance, for example, plan for them early to study, what major, what job, etc.

Even, there are parents who have helped their children buy a house in advance as a preparation for future savings, and so on. Such an anxious plan will pity the hearts of parents all over the world, but if you communicate with your children properly, it will also make your children more grateful for their parents' efforts.

If the parents' emotions are particularly anxious, it will affect the child, he will also have pressure, his mood will become bad, he will not be able to sleep, insomnia, will let the child not go to school to work

Parental anxiety can bring a negative emotion to the child, and this negative reinforcement can make the child become mentally unstable and short-tempered. It will also make children lack self-confidence when they are a person and do things.

If the parents are anxious, the child may become sad or even introverted when he sees that the parents have a bad temper. This all has an impact on the child's personality. So it's best to show your child the good side of the mood.

After the child feels the emotions of his parents, he will feel very anxious, and he will be very uneasy, and will usually use crying or prank to attract the attention of his parents, so parents still have to control their emotions and do not touch their children when they are in a bad mood.

It will have a very bad impact on the child, so that the child will also become anxious, easy to be impatient, not calm, inferior, and easy to give up on himself.

90% of parents don't know what their children's troubles are related to the following:

Everyone will have troubles in the process of growing up, and the reasons for the troubles are also diverse, some troubles have a very big impact on our lives, and some situations have a relatively small impact on our lives, so when we encounter these problems, we must find the right solutions, only in this way can we better solve the problem, many parents do not understand, what troubles will be encountered in the process of children's growth, today we will take a detailed look at it together.

The problems encountered by children at a relatively young age are relatively simple in the eyes of adults, so according to the thoughts of adults, there should be no troubles, but the actual situation of the group reform is not the case, although the problems they encounter are relatively simple, but due to the reason of their relatively young age, their psychological tolerance is relatively poor, so the problems encountered in this case will also have a particularly large psychological pressure on it.

So in the end, the impact is not much smaller than that of adults. Everyone needs to have their own friends, and only by getting along with their friends can we exercise our social skills and make us feel more secure.

However, in real life, there are many children who are not particularly strong in social skills when they are young, and they are easily encouraged by their friends for various reasons, so in this case, it will cause their psychological pressure to become very large, and at the same time, they will also have a lot of troubles.

The education of parents is also a relatively big worry for children, because they will gradually produce their own ideas as they grow older, but because of their relatively young age, their ideas are not particularly correct, but they are not able to understand their parents' ideas, in this case, it will also lead them to fall into the process of fighting between their own thoughts and parents' thoughts, and the possibility of troubles is also relatively large.