Why are modern relationships so fragile?

Maybe you want to get along with the people around you, but it is always difficult for you to really build a friendly interpersonal circle. Maybe you've heard about the importance of relationships, but you don't know how to gain the favor of others without violating your own principles. Perhaps, you still don't understand why people need to manage their relationships with their hearts, or even think that relationships are too "fake". You know, life is a net, each of us is a part of it, if you can't connect with others, you are nothing.

In China, network resources are equally important, and if you want to succeed in your career, you need to build your network as early as possible. Therefore, for a man to be successful, he must create a suitable interpersonal relationship, including family and work relationships. There is an old Chinese saying that "home and everything is prosperous".

How well a person relates to his or her spouse determines his relationship with his children, while family relationships set the same pattern for our relationships with others. In the same way, our relationship with our colleagues is an important factor in determining the success or failure of our career. A person who does not have good interpersonal relationships, even if he has knowledge and skills, will not have room to display them.

Human beings are naturally social animals, so it is natural that they will inevitably deal with others. At home, you have to get along with your family, at school, you have to interact with your teachers and classmates, you have to socialize with your colleagues at work, and you have to deal with vendors even if you go to the street to buy two pairs of socks. It can be seen that communication skills are an indispensable lesson for contacting society, and good communication skills can help you deal with all kinds of complex interpersonal relationships with ease, and people who are not good at interacting with others will naturally not be loved and helped by others.

In order to gain the approval of others in interactions, equal respect is the most basic requirement. To respect others, the first thing you have to learn is to consider each other from the other person's point of view in the process of communication. You will gain more when you try to be considerate of others in your relationships, understanding and respecting their wishes.

On the other hand, if you violate the most basic principle of respect in your dealings with others, you will receive unexpected punishments, and the consequences can be quite serious. A person who does not know how to respect others will only make himself the target of public criticism, and he will eat the bitter fruit of his own brewing.

Because people's living standards have improved now, their desires and desires have also improved, there are naturally more ideas, and the most basic trust between people is lacking, and there is more intrigue and deceit, so the relationship is very fragile.

1. Modern people - ancient people, modern people.

2. Fragile relationships – strong relationships.

3. Why-how.

Are you sure that the relationship between ancient and modern people is not fragile? In other words, it may not be the times but the individual who are vulnerable.

But then again, the times do have such characteristics, modern people are more materially richer than ancient people, life is more independent, and there is not so much high-intensity interdependence in the level of survival, there is no need for a village of people to go up the mountain to fight tigers together to not be eaten by tigers, and there are no tigers to fight, and tigers will be beaten. If there is not such a strong need for interdependence, then the cost of dispersion is low.

In short, because relationship breakdown is easy and low-cost, and the biggest loss may be a few worthless tears, so the relationship is naturally fragile.

Then again, as the saying goes: for a man's friendship to be strong, he must have done two things together: soaked in a girl together (blessed and shared, that is:

There are mutual demolitions), and they have fought together (there are difficulties and common problems, that is: there are pits buried in each other). You look at you, which one do you, you will be crazy when you say a few words, what eggs are useless and there is no use, who wants to maintain a strong relationship with you? Shake m?

Everyone has the weakest side in terms of feelings, a person for a long time wants to find someone who understands himself and understands himself, and after getting along for a long time, he is used to everything, afraid that one day he or she leaves, and he will be alone, and he will face the bleak night alone.

Being vulnerable in the face of love is because I am afraid of being hurt and can't stand the taste of being abandoned....The more emotional experience there is, the less fragile it will be....There are some things that some people should forget, let go of what they should let go, and being too persistent will also have the opposite effect...Don't like others because you're afraid of being alone....

There are very few people who cannot live without anyone....

Don't be fragile in the face of your feelings....Be brave....Otherwise, you will regret it.

It's not the feelings that are really fragile, it's the heart! When the heart is rich and strong enough, it will not be so easy to be hurt! And enriching the spiritual world is an effective way to make the heart stronger!

Modern people's ideas are simple, for example, I hate you as a person or if there is something about you I don't like it, I won't communicate with you too much, and people nowadays speak more bluntly, not as around as the older generation, and the older generation likes to have a good relationship with many people, and today's young people will not be like this.

Because 1If you can be a friend, you can be a friend, and if you can't, forget it.

2.Nowadays, many people don't like to communicate with others too much.

3.I'm afraid of bothering others, and I'll be embarrassed or something.

These will cause many people's relationships to become ordinary, or even okay after a long time.

Because of the pressure of life, work and study now, and the fast pace of life, people are busy with their own relationships for their own survival. Especially on the other hand, it is sensitive. Plus now they all have their own housing, behind closed doors sometimes.

There was no contact with the neighbors on the other side. These are. Reasons for vulnerability.

Why are modern people's relationships so fragile, because modern people are just using each other's interests, so once their own interests are impacted, they will break down and be very fragile.

This needs to be seen from the dialectical relationship between man and nature, because now from the agrarian society to the industrial society, in the agrarian society, the ability and resources possessed by the individual cannot compete with the uncertainty of nature and society, (natural and man-made disasters can be understood), which needs to be confronted by the close connection and close interaction of the family, the blood and non-blood other individuals of the family, which is not only out of the objective facts of the surrounding environment, but also out of the fear of uncertainty in the future, thus forming that we have experienced mutual dependence and mutual need, A culture of interpersonal relationships in farming that sustains each other.

Modern people live at a fast pace, trust each other less, and are busy running for life!

Modern man lacks a sense of reverence. People who didn't dare to do it before dare to do it now. Including the trust between people, feelings, etc. have become indifferent, and now young people are going out to work to make money, there is no long-term family companionship, family concepts are weak, and traditional festivals are defeated by fast life.

The fundamental reason is that the economy has developed, they are independent of each other, they can support themselves, the Internet has shortened the distance between people and the world, there is too much information they are exposed to every day, their hobbies have become extremely diverse, and there are few people with the same knowledge and hobbies. Now life is not very suffering, I find that the relationship between people who have suffered together is very strong, and now they live their own lives, and life is not suffering at all.

Now the relationship between people is not as fragile as you say, and it is not as strong as you say. The post-90s and post-80s are actually a group of people in a more tangled era, they do not have the energy of the post-60s and post-70s to endure hardships together, they only have the experience of enjoying happiness.

Western culture is terrible, invading so much that it affects us unconsciously.

In today's society, materialism is rampant, and everything has been based on money. Now some people can deny their relatives for money, not to mention the so-called friendship between individuals, in the face of strong winds and waves, the boat of friendship will overturn!

So, let it be. Don't get tangled, live your own life. No one can help.

Modern society is too fast-paced.

And the radius of people's movement is too large.

A lot of people meet today.

I don't know when the next meeting will be.

Natural relationships will become fragile.

The relationship between people has always been so fragile. The human heart has moments, but human nature has various weaknesses that make it difficult to strengthen relationships between people.

In today's society, materialism is rampant, and everything is based on money. The so-called friendship between individuals, in the face of strong winds and waves, the boat of friendship will overturn!

Because people live very happily now, they don't have the ability to resist pressure.

Because people nowadays communicate with a mask.

Life is too fast-paced and stressful right now.

1.Believe in true love. Sincere feelings and love still exist, but they are difficult to find and maintain in modern society.

This makes the marriage more stable and also leaves room for extramarital affairs, and the two need to be balanced in reality.

3.Greater sense of freedom. Modern people are more self-conscious, no longer automatically accept the restrictions of traditional marriage concepts, and pay more attention to personal freedom and development.

4.Life is becoming more stressful. The pressure of life in modern society is increasing, and the pressure of busy work and survival is easy to disintegrate feelings and affect the quality of marriage. But the more the relationship and marriage are maintained in the face of adversity, the more prominent its value will be, which requires the joint efforts of both parties.

5.The mindset needs to be calm. In the modern environment, marriage and the relationship between the shakura and the shakura need to be faced with a calm attitude.

Neither too dx, nor too desperate, maintain positive confidence and open thinking. Life has its ups and downs, and relationships also need to go through hardships and then mature, which needs to be experienced and dealt with with with calmly.

So, in general, despite the complexity of the modern social environment, sincere feelings and stable marriage are still worth pursuing. It requires a more pragmatic attitude, a stronger sense of tolerance, and a more relaxed attitude to explore and face. Under the right conditions, marriage and love remain important ways to achieve happiness and meaning in life, and this will not change.

The key is to have a correct understanding of the source of love and marriage and reasonable expectations.

1. Socio-environmental reasons.

1.Increasing stressors: With social change and economic development, people are facing increasing pressures in various aspects such as economy, education, career, family, etc., which can lead to excessive psychological stress and fragile mental health status.

This information can have an impact on people's values, codes of conduct, etc., causing people's psychological tolerance to become fragile.

3.Social networking: With the popularization of the Internet and mobile phones, people's social channels and methods have also changed dramatically, and people have become more convenient to connect with each other, but also more virtual, early hail and ephemeral.

It is difficult for people to form real social relationships, which can affect people's emotional security and self-esteem.

2. Personal factors.

1.Family education: A person's mental health is largely affected by family education, and if there is a lack of love and attention during the growth process, or if they experience a bad family environment, it may lead to a serious blow to the individual's self-esteem and safety, which can lead to a deterioration of mental health.

Open your eyes. 2.Self-quality: A person's mental health state is closely related to his or her own physical and psychological qualities, and personality structure. If a person has poor physical fitness, poor psychological resilience, or paranoid personality, mood swings, etc., it will lead to the individual's mental health becoming fragile.

3.Excessive self-demand: With the development of society, people's requirements for self are getting higher and higher, and they often pursue perfection, which leads to people's lack of psychological endurance and anxiety, depression and other pressures.

3. Psychological and behavioural causes.

1.Poor emotion management: Modern people often have great mood swings because of high pressure, but they lack correct emotion management methods, which leads to the lack of timely regulation of emotions, resulting in a bad psychological state.

2.Addiction to bad behaviors: Modern people are too addicted to bad behaviors such as games, the Internet, alcoholism, smoking, watching TV, etc., which not only wastes time and money, but also damages physical health and affects mental health.

3.Lack of proper ways to relieve stress: Modern people often have nowhere to vent their stress due to work and life, and it is difficult to find a suitable way to release stress, resulting in increasing anxiety.

To sum up, there are many reasons for the fragility of modern people's mental health, involving social, personal, psychological and behavioral aspects, and should be improved in a variety of ways. For example: adjust the pressure of work and study, establish a good family relationship, seek reasonable emotional management, avoid indulging in bad behaviors, and seek professional psychological counseling.

Only in this way can we truly improve the mental health of modern people.

It's not that modern people are vulnerable, it's that the internet allows you to see vulnerable people.

Today's people are more psychologically fragile than in the past because the pace of life is too fast, and stress will follow, but they will neglect to train their psychological endurance. Therefore, when encountering things, it is inevitable that there will be manifestations of psychological vulnerability.

1.The pace of life is too fast, and I rarely pay attention to my psychological changes.

At this stage, although people's quality of life is getting higher and higher, the pace of life is still very fast, and everyone is usually busy with life, and rarely pays attention to their psychological changes. Nowadays, people's hearts are fragile, mostly because they have too many things in their hearts, which causes their hearts to become overloaded. You must know that people's psychological carrying capacity is also limited, if you are busy with work for a long time and do not pay attention to your own psychological condition, you will let your heart be overwhelmed.

Therefore, whether it is at work or in life, we must pay attention to our psychological changes, reserve a certain space in our hearts, and release bad emotions.

2.has experienced little, and it is too good to be protected by the original family.

People today are more fragile than before, largely because their families protect themselves too well, and they are always careful to take care of them, afraid of bumping, touching, and falling. Throughout my growth, I basically didn't suffer much from school to work. In addition, I have experienced few things, so in the face of big events, my heart will seem very fragile.

And what about the people who used to be? The road to growth is extremely difficult, and I have gone through a lot of hardships and endured a lot of hardships before I have developed a strong heart.

3.In the past, the living conditions were difficult, and people were tempered.

In the past, people's living conditions were not very good. Due to the large number of children in the family, sometimes even basic food and clothing cannot be solved, and it is difficult for the children in the family to get the preference of their parents. Since then, many children have learned survival skills at an early age.

Although he is young, his heart is extremely strong, and he will make money early to share the worries of his family. And now, every family is mostly a child, and they have enjoyed the best living conditions created by their family since childhood. Compared with the children of the past, it is difficult for the children of today to be psychologically tempered.

Then when encountering something, it is naturally easy to collapse or be unbearable. It is precisely because of the different times that the strength of people's psychological endurance in different eras is also different.

In general, people today are indeed more psychologically fragile than they were before. However, in the current social environment, psychological fragility has generally become the norm. Therefore, if you find that you are psychologically fragile, you don't have to worry too much, you can increase the opportunity to experience yourself on your own growth path, and when you experience more things, you will be tempered and naturally become stronger.