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In our love life, it occasionally happens that two people are together, obviously feel that they get along very well, and there is no major misunderstanding or contradiction, but they break up inexplicably. After the breakup, I didn't know why I was dumped at all, and I was probably very confused; I didn't do anything wrong, how did it get to this point? I care about her.
Why is she so angry? Suddenly I got along with me.
How can two people who are obviously in love with each other break up inexplicably? Here's why.
In fact, this situation is not accidental. You know, it all starts with a cause, but you just can't see the cause. The same goes for feelings.
We are usually self-centered and don't care much about how our partner feels. It's inevitable to overlook some issues, which may be the reason for the breakup. This breakup is nothing more than these three reasons.
Let's take a look. We should have known earlier and redeemed it sooner.
Emotional investment imbalance.
When we think of investment, we naturally think of the economy. There is a saying in economics: marginal effect.
The main content is as follows: increasing the proportion of a certain input in the case of other fixed inputs will lead to a decrease in the final return. Emotionally, the more we unilaterally invest in a person, the harder it is for him to feel our contribution and even think that you should give blindly.
Emotionally, if the other person's investment in the relationship is balanced, then two people will definitely feel the other's contribution. Once the investment is out of balance, it will inevitably enter a state where one person always takes and the other always gives. As a result, those who give will not be rewarded, and those who benefit will not feel the good of the other party.
How to maintain such a mode of getting along?
Get along extremely well.
When two people get along, this extreme mode of getting along is bound to appear. For example, common "works", we all know that small works are good for your feelings, and big works will hurt your feelings; Many people have different experiences or encounters, and they are often very sensitive and suspicious in love; Some people rely too much on each other's feelings; These are called extreme modes of getting along, and everyone knows that this kind of love that has lost its sense of proportion is like a runaway car, which will cause endless troubles and associations. When our love is in a state of anxiety, a small contradiction between us can breed a big conflict.
In the end, the thousand-mile embankment collapsed in the ant nest.
Communication is hampered and misunderstandings breed.
Once communication between lovers is interrupted, the most common manifestation is a meaningless quarrel. When we feel insecure or find that the relationship between two people is too flat, we are very scared in our hearts, eager to let the other person know what we think, so we try every means to quarrel and quarrel with each other, longing for the other party to coax us. However, as a result, the other party usually does not understand what we mean, but thinks that we are unreasonable and unreasonable.
Slowly, the two began to quarrel meaninglessly, and their relationship became worse and worse. Therefore, couples must not use violent communication methods when communicating with each other, and try to express their needs clearly to avoid misunderstandings.
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Because the relationship between the two of them has already had problems, they just show great affection in front of others, so others think that their end is very abrupt.
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I think this is because sometimes many things are fateful, two people obviously love each other very much, but if there are too many problems and barriers, it is likely that they will not be able to persevere.
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Two people who obviously love each other suddenly end, either they have changed their minds, or they are tired of it, or they have no choice but to be forced.
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Because the two of them have encountered a gap that cannot be crossed, although the two love each other very much, they also have to face the reality.
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Why did two people who have a good relationship suddenly end?
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may be because although the two people used to love each other very much, but now with the passage of time, they no longer love each other so much, so they will part ways.
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It is very likely that there are a lot of conflicts between two people in the process of getting along, or it may be because of the opposition of their parents, and they will eventually choose to separate.
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