Why? I will be angry with my family and parents, but not with outsiders.

Hello, your parents brought you into this world, they raised you, taught you basic life knowledge, and you should be grateful to them. Your resentment may be that you are dissatisfied with yourself, you can't overcome yourself, you don't have good material conditions, you can create conditions to change yourself. To change yourself, it is important to change your vocabulary, people think by words, when each of us is young, most of the initial vocabulary comes from the teachings of our parents.

When I was young, I wanted to resist, but you relied on them and couldn't do without them. When you get older, you can rebel, and they are old. Many people will blame their parents' original family for their misfortunes when they grow up, so as to evade their own responsibilities.

The cause of childhood is the result of growing up. No one outside will want to bear your resentment, they will scold you, so you don't want to be scolded. That's why it's said that good tempers are left to outsiders, and bad tempers are left to family members.

In fact, this situation is that you care about your family and parents very much, so you will have emotional needs for them, and sometimes they do not meet your needs, and you will have a resentful psychology. But if you don't have any ideas about outsiders, you naturally won't have feelings. This is that there are feelings to have all kinds of emotional issues such as love and hate.

Why do you have a belly of resentment towards your parents, but not with outsiders, because your parents are expected to have a good heart, and other people's eyes are flattering words to you, and you will understand when you grow up!

Communicate more with your family, don't think of yourself as a victim, understand why this is the case, consider the problem from the perspective of your parents, reconcile with yourself, forgive yourself, and know to be responsible for your actions.

It's because your family has hurt you a lot since you was a child and been treated unfairly, that's why you have so much resentment towards your family, I think you should come out of this mentality, you must choose to forgive, don't live with resentment.

It may be because you have too high expectations of your family, so it is easy to be disappointed, you should lower your expectations, and then find that your family is good to you.

Happy families are mostly similar, and unhappy families are very different. So the relationship between strengths and weaknesses is similar, a lot of shortcomings are shared by people, and you think that's the power of genes, it's just an illusion. As you grow up, your parents are aging.

Your self-care ability is increasing, and their ability is stable or declining, they can give you love and care, and the shortcomings will slowly increase, which is also an opportunity for you to grow and be self-reliant, which is also natural. Eventually, you're going to have to go through the process of complete independence. Don't blame your parents for being selfish, it's a natural process, and everyone will be like this.

People have shortcomings. In particular, we don't live with our parents in the same era as the first generation of the Know-Duan, and there is a generation gap, even if their generation is not a shortcoming, we feel that it is a shortcoming. It is necessary not only to look at their shortcomings rationally, but also to consider the imprint left on them by the times.

If parents do have obvious shortcomings, they can be helped to correct them. Even if you can't fix it, you have to learn to accept it slowly. People can choose friends, but they can't choose parents.

The old and the old, especially the old. The vast majority of people in life are ordinary or even mediocre, greedy for small profits, volatile, timid, or bold, or bad habits, there are only a few news figures, as children should be more tolerant of their parents just like the same is true for society, because you live in this place, you should find a way to do something for this to change the old and influence, not complain. If you really can't change and can't bear it, if you can, you can only find a way to work elsewhere.

I've seen similar things around me, but I've seen that when my children are over 40, they get bored with the raw materials and have a much better attitude towards the elders. When people reach middle age, many people will feel more and more like their parents, and they will slowly understand the gains and losses of many education methods of their parents, and they will also reflect on their own ways and methods of educating their offspring, which may be the origin of "Forty Knowing the Destiny of Heaven".

But in this process, you will also find that many of your former thoughts cannot be changed, and they have deeply affected yourself, especially many childhood experiences, which have a deep imprint on your current self.

I have some suggestions for dealing with family and kinship:

1. Be humble, don't be a needle to each other about everything, give each other more opportunities to talk, think more about each other, avoid unnecessary conflicts, and family affection is priceless.

2. A surprise creates a dramatic effect, and often many contradictions are lost in jokes.

3. Divide responsibilities, assume your own responsibilities and obligations, do more for the family, and think less for yourself.

4. Dualized communication, many conflicts are due to the lack of communication between family members, which exacerbates the conflicts.

5. Be open-minded, life is short, we should create a harmonious society and a harmonious family, think about everything, don't worry about everything, don't intrigue, don't be greedy, be open-minded, and be grateful to live a relaxed and happy life.

My parents raised us and gave us life, and even if they made some wrong decisions that affected us, I felt that I should forgive them.

Because family affection is the most valuable thing in the world, even if the whole world betrays you, Liquid Ming's parents will always stand behind you.

Therefore, it is necessary to let go of the resentment of the parents and choose to accept them.