What are the serious shortcomings in China s family education and school education?

Many parents do not want their children to lose at the starting line of life, so they focus their love for their children on their academics and their academic performance, while ignoring excellent quality, noble spirit, and creative consciousness""Awakening" education; Ignoring the education of treating people equally and dealing with the world. So, although the current primary and secondary school students are physiologically"Weaning"and still in the early childhood stage on the mental and spiritual level. Character defects, naïve thinking, simple thinking, arrogance and introverted, or violent and rude, are common characteristics of many minors.

The biggest defect of Chinese education is that teachers and parents only pay attention to students' grades, there is too much extracurricular homework, students struggle to cope with tasks, and teachers, parents and students talk and communicate too little, resulting in a lack of understanding between adults and children, deep separation and great contradictions. In this way, it is easy to make students tired of studying, and even do their own thing, and it is difficult to educate children well.

In the environment of relatively impetuous, utilitarian, comparative, and stressful society, parents are too prone to anxiety, complaining, impatience, and lack tolerance and patience for their children. Some parents spoil their children too much, breeding their children's willfulness and selfishness, which are very detrimental to their children's growth.

If there is a lack of education, the first is independence. I see my son's classmates attending classes at school from Monday to Friday, and going to make-up classes on weekends. Seven days there are people who take them to study, and they seem to be very diligent and happy.

This is the lack of independence. It is not a good thing that the vast majority of children in a country lack the ability to think independently.

I was born in a backward rural area in Xinjiang, and backwardness here refers to ideological backwardness. Because parents here do not attach importance to learning, they just tell their children to "study hard". My parents graduated in 5th grade and 3rd grader.

The only difference is that my father traveled all over the country when he was young, and he decided that "knowledge is power". I didn't communicate much with my parents, they just emphasized the importance of studying over and over again, and if my grades were good, their faces would shine. I remember one time in junior high school when I was considering a perfect score in math and my mother was all smiles on her face, but I didn't think it was anything because they didn't know how hard I was trying.

This lack of communication eventually planted the root cause and manifested itself in high school.

Whether it is a school or a family, they all protect their students well. It's good to grow up happily, but life won't always be peaceful. When I was a child, I didn't experience setbacks, and when I came out of society, when I encountered problems, I was at a loss, and some of them were terrible, and there were psychological problems.

It is actually very simple to let children have the ability to be independent, have the ability to live, and have the ability to resist setbacks. As a parent, when running a school, you must have a normal heart and don't be so utilitarian.

How many children in China can cook and do laundry, and their parents do it for them, and they want their children's time to be used for studying, and they are reluctant to let their children waste their time on housework. This is called a "giant baby". Although giant babies can grow up and exercise after they come out of society, it is not a good thing that so many children lack basic living skills.

Some young parents put their children at their grandparents, and it becomes a pity to accompany their children to grow up. Children's mental growth and moral growth are very crucial, and many parents do not pay enough attention to them. Physical and mental health and moral well-being are the cornerstones of a child's well-being, which are much more important than skills, scores, and awards.

Here, I deeply felt the importance of communication, and I was very envious of those classmates who could joke with their parents and hold their parents' hands until junior high school. But I have a simple respect for my parents' knowledge. I also envy some boys, whose fathers can talk to him very casually about chasing girls, and even pass on experience.

But my father just told me to put my studies first, and I was thinking about those things when I was twenty-seven or eighteen.

Personally, I think that home education has a greater impact on children than school education

For children, especially those who crave the approval and satisfaction of their parents, the parent's education and other aspects of the child are deeply affected. If the child follows the example of his or her own parents, then if the parents can set a good example in front of the child, the child will also have a good influence. And these are the kinds of education that cannot be given in school.

First, family education is more important and has a deeper impact on children.

The reason why I say this is because most children admire their parents and feel that the image of their parents in their hearts is very important. If parents can give their children a better role model in such a situation, it will have a great impact on their children's physical and mental health and future development. Parents are the child's day, and the influence on the child is more profound, and these are irreplaceable by the school.

Therefore, parents who are still struggling with the importance of family education or school education, I hope you can see your responsibilities clearly, so that your children can receive a good family education, don't wait and see, the sooner family education starts, the more beneficial it is for children.

Second, schooling is also an indispensable part

Of course, although family education is more repetitive than schooling, the role of schooling is also an indispensable part. Children need to learn cultural skills in school, and they also need to learn the way to get along with others, and they are also receiving a good education. Therefore, parents should not consider family education important and let their children neglect to receive school education.

Only when parents balance the relationship between the two can they better educate their children.

How to better balance the role of family education and school education, parents need to assume more responsibilities and obligations. On the one hand, it is necessary for the child to grow up in a healthy family, so that he will be healthy and his thinking will be correct, on the other hand, parents also need to let their children understand the importance of school and let their children learn in school.

I think school education has a greater impact on children, because most of the children stay in school, and the knowledge and teachers learned in school have a great impact on children.

The impact of family education on children is greater, because family education will affect the child's personality and the direction of the child's growth, and the child's personality and some other aspects will have a huge impact on the child when he is born in society.

It should be that family education has a greater impact on children, because family education is always there. And it grows up with the child from an early age.

The biggest problem with current home education and school education may be that they believe in each other too much, some parents think that the school will definitely talk about these things, and some teachers think that these things must have been talked about by Mom and Dad. The result of this phenomenon is that in the end, Mom and Dad have not talked about it, and the child's education has been completely delayed, so no matter what kind of knowledge the school should actively teach to the child, only in this way can the child develop better, and Mom and Dad should also do what they should do, do not push all the education to the school.

First of all, family education and school education are divided and cooperated, and the family is mainly to teach children how to behave and teach them some ways to behave in the world. What the school needs to do is to impart the corresponding knowledge to the students, so that the children can better cope with the college entrance examination in the future. Therefore, the education of Zheng and the family is two different concepts, but there is actually a corresponding connection between the two, and the two are not completely separate.

For example, after the little Madono child returns to the family, it is likely that he will also do homework, and at this time, parents can provide some academic tutoring for the child, which is of great help to the child, and can also make the child's grades better. In addition to homework and academic guidance, teachers will also teach children some quality education, which is equivalent to moving part of the content of family education to the classroom.

This kind of mutual cooperation can actually play a very good role, for example, when parents tutor their children with homework, children may be more attentive, because at this time parents only focus on the child alone, so it is impossible for the child to choose to run away at this time, so that the child's acceptance of knowledge will be stronger. The teacher will pay more attention to the student's education, after all, the students still trust the teacher very much.

Failure to pay attention to the child's psychological development, failure to pay attention to the child's psychological state, failure to pay attention to the child's interest in extensive potato cultivation, attention to the potential mining of the child's hand, and failure to pay attention to the child's physical condition. Pin Town.

Lack of frustration education, safety education, life education, mismatched educational facilities, too few educational resources, too few teachers, and dust and worms are all problems buried in the current stock.

There are different ways of education, there are different educational atmospheres, and the hood collapses contain the situation of education, and there are relevant introductions, which will produce topics that are not exciting, and contain a lot of disadvantages.

Generally speaking, education mainly includes schooling and family education, which are essential for the development of students, but the current schooling and family education still need to be improved.

Parents are our first teachers, so homeschooling is basic. School education is a further carving on the basis of family education, and it also plays a pivotal role. It is better to say that it is school education than to say that it is the education of teachers.

Some teachers will pay attention to the development of children's ideological quality, while some teachers will only complete their own teaching tasks and do not pay attention to the development of quality! However, most of the teaching style in China is still very good. However, there are also cases of stubbornness of children in the rebellious stage, at which the education of both parties is very important and very dangerous.

Education at this stage depends on the quality of family education, and it directly determines the success or failure of school education. Therefore, the education of the two complements each other and is inseparable!

School is about teaching knowledge, teaching children to follow the rules, morality, and law. But the effect depends on the parents' family education, for example, the school teaches children not to steal, but the parents don't care, then the school has no way. The school allows the child to go home to write homework and read books, and parents should supervise, otherwise the child is unconscious, and the school has no choice.

Therefore, families and schools should strengthen cooperation and communication.

Personally, I think it should be viewed dialectically, and the connection between family education and school education is getting closer and closer; The disadvantage is that it is still in exam-oriented education, and many times it will imprison students' innovative ideas, and at the same time, now parents' doting on their children is also particularly serious, breeding a large number of "giant babies". In short, school education and family education should be continuously improved and upgraded.

In short, the purpose of family education and school education is to expect children to grow up healthily, have the ability to survive in the future, there are no major conflicts and contradictions, and they can communicate in methods and concepts. But the reality is that it is impossible for school teachers to understand every student in the class and his parents, so we parents can only be more proactive and communicate with teachers.

At present, China's form of education, school education, generally emphasizes knowledge education, while ignoring students' comprehensive quality education and all-round developmentFamily education only focuses on the satisfaction of children's personal material needs, and does not pay attention to the cultivation of children's outlook on life, values and morals, and does not pay attention to children's growth and development.

There are big problems, and there are also great deficiencies in family education now, and many parents have no way to stay with their children for a long time, and there are some defects in school education now, which require continuous efforts, and also need to be rectified, and also pay special attention to students' grades, but schools need to pay attention to the all-round development of students' morality, intelligence, physical fitness, art and labor.

The problem is still more serious, and there are many parents who put all the responsibility on the teacher, and there is no way to strengthen cooperation, and the child will be very sad in the process, it is easy to be frustrated on both sides, and parents have no way to encourage and help their children in time.

School education and family education do not pay much attention to children's psychological problems, resulting in children's ability to bear relatively small, and there will be mental illness.

I think homeschooling is now the top three misconceptions. Misconceptions are known as excessive expectations. This expectation is very pertinent.

In fact, I always said that every parent is talking, don't let the child lose to the starting line, but the end? In fact, most parents, influenced by market values and also by the overall intellectual and moral culture, unconsciously orient their children's growth, and this success is often characterized by exploitation, fulfillment and realization. This thinking prompts parents to adopt many behaviors that deviate from their children.

So we believe that the unhappy life and unhealthy lifestyle of Chinese children just stem from this excessive expectation.

It's excessive love, otherwise it's too caring. And then the problem has been very long, the social status of our only child, especially the continuous improvement of material life, many families put all their energy financial resources in children, lack of strict requirements and very important behavioral training for children. So we don't have a long-term investigation :

The child chooses to have a heart, who said that the results of this survey, the first choice has become a past mother. Currently, many children even have a strong dependence on their families, and this dependence includes life and, more importantly, psychological. For the Chinese generation of children, this feeling of unsuccess is very large.

The misconception is that children are not understood, and little learning and thinking about children. Many of our parents have shaped their children in their own minds, but we are facing rapidly changing times. The current children are wide, they live in the conditions of the Chinese, never there, in the information environment, as well as in a relaxed political environment, they have their own characteristics of value perception, as well as their own thinking characteristics, which is incomprehensible if you do not communicate, this family relationship that cannot support each other will certainly support family education.

Three Misunderstandings of Family Education In fact, the so-called family education, it includes several important factors: Family education is not a one-way education for the children of the elders, especially the parents, but a - family, which is a family that involves all the elements, not that you teach him, but deliberately, unintentionally, materially, spiritually in all aspects and spiritual spirit are greater, which is the first very important function. Family education is an interaction, not that parents are the subject and children are the objects, but an interaction, and the children themselves are one of the participating leaders of family education.

From this point of view, family education can truly achieve good relationships between families and can also lay the foundation for education.