In Chinese education, why don t parents let their children fall in love?

Because children's early love will affect their grades. Some parents think that their children's early love may regress.

Because my country has always been an exam-oriented education, if a child falls in love early, it is very likely that the child will delay his academic performance, and it is very likely that he will enter marriage too early.

Because early love will affect children's learning, if children fall in love early, it will make them have a great change in their personality, and like such a young child, they don't know some things at all.

Because puppy love will affect children's academics, Chinese parents pay special attention to their children's grades and learning, so they will resist the emergence of puppy love problems, which is also right.

Early love is likely to delay children's learning, and they don't know much about their current behavior at all, which can easily lead them to do the wrong thing.

Because early love will affect children's learning, all parents don't want their children to have early love, which will delay the future. Parents also do this for the good of their children.

Students should not fall in love at a young age, and I would like to elaborate on this point from the following two points:

First, from the physical and psychological point of view, it will make people mature prematurely, which is not good for the physical development of children. It's like beating a ripe peach, although the surface is ripe, but the taste is not enough. People are the same, we can't break the law of human growth and education, we should mature naturally, and we shouldn't mature too early.

Second, from the perspective of students' academic development, it is not appropriate to fall in love. If they fall in love, they will be intoxicated with immature love, thinking about how to play, and have no intention of studying, thus abandoning their studies, hindering their children's good development prospects, and even giving up school and not doing their jobs.

To sum up, students can't fall in love.

Although it seems complicated and has a lot of clues, here is a summary for the subject, and the question includes two major questions: Why not let students fall in love? What are the consequences or harms of puppy love?

Why puppy love?

The great writer and thinker Goethe wrote in his "The Troubles of Young Werther": "Which handsome boy is not good at love, and which young girl is not good at cherishing spring, this is the true and purest in human nature." This sentence fully shows that love is a beautiful and romantic emotion in adolescence, and it is a normal psychological reaction that occurs during adolescence, and this psychology is inevitable for everyone to experience in the process of growing up.

As a parent, it can be said that they are all from the past, and they should first be able to understand the hazy and beautiful feelings of their children. Looking at "early love" under this premise, we can give children appropriate education and guidance more rationally and objectively.

Why oppose puppy love among students.

In the cultural tradition of our country, love is a very important and mysterious thing. There are several reasons against students falling in love too early.

Although it has been all these years of reform and opening up, in the minds of many people, they still follow the outdated concept of "all love that is not for the purpose of marriage is a hooligan".

When confronted with teenagers' early involvement in love, parents and educators, who are the guardians of children, often have opposing opinions. The starting point is, of course, to protect children from harm and not affect their personal future, but it also affects the concept of marriage and love among young people in our country in some ways.

On the one hand, this behavior is very dangerous for students, because students do not have much safety awareness in this area, and on the other hand, it is also because it will affect children's learning.

Because the inherent thinking of parents is that early love affects learning, including the school is also strict about early love, in fact, there are indeed many students who fall in love after their academic performance plummets, parents must be worried. Secondly, in addition to learning, a very important one is that we generally believe that when children go to school, they still don't understand what love is, the outlook on life and values are not perfect, and blind love is not good for two people, and even if there is something wrong between two people, this responsibility is difficult to bear, and parents and schools dare not take this risk.

Because it is thought that it will affect the academic performance of students. During this period, students should focus on studying, and they do not understand love, and it will not be fruitful.

Among them, the most important factor is the influence of learning. Secondary school students are the most stressed academically, and being in love can take up a lot of time and can also cause them to be distracted and focus on their appearance, which can have a lot of negative effects on their studies.

If it is a girl, there are two important factors for parents not to allow them to fall in love: first, they are worried that they will suffer misdeeds, with the frequent occurrence of ** young children's cases, many parents feel scared, worried that their daughters will be poisoned by evil people.

Therefore, they forbade everything related to men and women, hoping to protect their daughters in this way.

Second, I am afraid that my daughter will become pregnant too soon, and countless news have reported that it is not uncommon for middle school men and women to go out to open a house and lead to pregnancy.

Pregnancy** is not only traumatic to girls' psyche, but it can also reduce their fertility and may even cause infertility or defective children born later.

Although some parents do not encourage their sons' early love, if it has happened, they will not interfere too much, and some parents even joked: "I don't know which cabbage was arched by my pig?" ”

1. The main purpose of influencing their studies and going to school is to keep up with their studies, and early love will inevitably affect their academic performance, and most of them do not focus on studying. Instead, it is placed on the person who is in love, and for such a student, the academic performance will become worse and worse.

2. It is very critical to influence the chain of three views of junior high school, and the mentality at this time can form a concept, and if you fall in love, it will distort the concept. The most important thing is to do some extreme things, which often involve friends or students around you, and if such things happen, it will also affect your future development.

3. Most of the people who affect psychology are more rebellious when they are in the middle school of Chu Peng Min Li, and at this time, it will already have a great deal of damage to the psychology of students, and this injury will also accompany this person for the rest of his life. Therefore, try to avoid the situation of early love, so that you can have a better attitude to avoid psychological problems.

When I was in junior high school and high school, there was even a school rule in the school that forbade love and suspected love, but I didn't think it was true, thinking that the rules were the rules, and it was good to abide by them. Later, when I thought about it, I felt more and more that there were some clues to such a regulation, and the logic behind it. Say a thousand things and ten thousand, whether it is against early love, and some other rules such as not having long hair, nails, etc., all represent a theme.

That is, everything is based on stable management. In this way, the cornerstone of the school policy of "division-based" is laid.

In fact, the "sub-standard" of domestic schools is extremely serious, even to the point of bad situation. In a school, students are even divided into two groups because of their grades. The brand of honor students and inferior students is deeply engraved on everyone.

Inferior students" will receive white eyes from teachers, ridicule from classmates, and abuse from parents. "Honor students" will receive preferential treatment and love relatively well. Due to the school's pursuit of stable governance, those with docile and obedient personalities will have a relatively good living environment, while those who have their own ideas or mavericks will be regarded by the school and teachers as a thorn in the flesh and a cancer that destroys stability.

In such an environment, everything makes sense. Schools need all kinds of strict effects to frame students, and parents need to remove all distractions for students under the "division of the standard", and under the combination of the two, a social trend against early love has gradually formed.

In fact, it's not just puppy love. But in this time when success or failure is judged by results, we give up a lot and focus on improving our grades. Maybe someone has given up personality, someone has given up the flower of love, and some people have given up a different kind of dream.

We are squeezed by social consciousness on a crowded track and live a linear life. What's so strange about this environment?

I read a lot, took a lot of exams, and from elementary school to university, the school got better and better, so much so that when it came to graduate school, I even had the opportunity to study at the best university in the world. It seems like a lot of people around me call me a top student, but I don't like it. I also know that this is not a good name, and that I am just a wretched worm under the "standard" elitism.

Give up a lot and get something that seems to feel precious. The so-called love, if you are excited, have a chance to try it. Fortunately, society is now starting to become more and more tolerant.

He also began to pay attention to the cultivation of people, and slowly transitioned from the trap of "dividing the standard" to the "people-oriented". These are all good signs, and I hope that the country will become better and that the next generation will have a more favorable living and learning environment.

There is no objective understanding of true love in the student stage, and early love will lead to a decline in children's academic performance and distorted emotional cognition, so they cannot fall in love.

Yes, because being in love can distract a child from studying, and early love can also speed up the child's physical and mental development, and may also do something beyond the age group.

This is indeed the case, because the school is mainly focused on the student's learning, and early love will delay the child's learning.

One of the reasons why children are not allowed to fall in love is because early love will delay the child's learning and will not be good for his physical and mental development. One is that the child's body is not fully developed in all aspects, and it is easy to do something that he regrets. Puppy love is not allowed, it is actually good for children.

The school does not allow children to fall in love, mainly for fear of delaying the child's learning, the child is small, the age is young, he does not understand what it is to fall in love, just to play, so the most important thing at this age is to learn. You can't delay your learning because you're playful.

Yes, and falling in love too early is not good for students' psychology. Not only will falling in love distract students and affect their learning, but it will also expose them to society too early.

It is indeed the fear of delaying the child's learning, and it is also the fear that the child will make some unwise decisions.