Abandoned by their biological parents, 20 years, should I forgive them?

They should be forgiven, you are an adult and you need to be happy in your life. No matter how wrong they are, but they brought you into this world, blood is always thicker than water, and if you forgive them, you will let go of the root of the disease in your heart and increase the joy of life; If you don't forgive them, the hatred for them will make you very painful, a heart-wrenching pain.

This is a very complex issue because forgiveness involves issues of personal emotions and personal values. As a stranger, I can't give specific advice here, but I can offer some food for thought to help you decide whether or not to forgive your birth parents.

First, you need to ask yourself why you want to forgive your biological parents. Is it because you want to get rid of the pain of the past, or because you want to connect with them, or whatever. If you want to forgive them out of your own inner need and not out of their actions, then the decision may not be true forgiveness.

Second, you need to look back and think about why your biological parents abandoned you. Was it because they couldn't take responsibility at the time, or because of something else. If it was because they couldn't take responsibility at the time, did they make an effort to make up for their past mistakes?

If they don't try to make amends, you may want to consider whether they really realize their mistakes.

Finally, you need to consider your feelings. Forgiveness takes time and effort, and it requires you to be truly willing to let go of past resentment and anger. If you're not ready to forgive them, then this decision could cause you more pain.

In conclusion, forgiveness is a personal decision that you need to think about and decide for yourself. If you decide to forgive them, then you need to have real sincerity and effort to make that decision happen. If you decide not to forgive them, then you need to learn to accept your decisions and not let the pain of the past affect your future.

Similar experience, but I've been associated with them since I was a child, and I call them aunts and uncles. But preparing for Zen is not close, and it is just a visit during the winter and summer vacations. If there was a choice, I would rather not see it.

Seeing it, it's just rubbing salt into your wounds to let you know the gap between you and their second child.

Then bring them peace of mind. Why did they abandon me, I still want them to know how I'm doing, so that they can feel less guilty.

Now that I'm also married, I'm not happy if I don't give them gifts during the New Year's holidays, and I hit ** to say me. When I got married, I was given money, but I had to be obedient. Now I regret asking for their money, so that they are more comfortable with me.

But this is an eternal pain for me, and I can only love or hate them. Those who haven't experienced it, can't feel it. When someone asked me whose name I was, they said it was his sister's child, and behind his back, they told me that I and theirs were of the same blood, and that we should love each other.

Why is there no emotion, I am the boss, and I am an outcast.

Do I have to love their children in turn?

There's one thing I still remember so well. After graduating from primary school, they took me and their children to my uncle's house in Beijing. On the first day, after taking a shower, there was only a pair of slippers, and they put them on for their daughter.

The next day, I went to the vegetable market to buy vegetables, and my aunt saw that someone was selling slippers and bought me a pair. In the evening, we three kids were playing outside together. After a while, my aunt's children and uncle's children said that her mother bought the shoes on my feet, so why should I wear them?

Hang me out and don't take me to play. I also got angry, kicked my shoes on the ground, and said to return your shoes. Then I went in barefoot, and the stone road didn't hurt when it was hard, and I didn't cry no matter how wronged I was.

Since then, I have known that whenever they give me something, it is a deprivation for their children.

On my own, no matter how deep or shallow my childhood memories are, it hurts.

A lifetime of shadows, outcasts will never feel safe. This is something that people who have not experienced it cannot feel. They will only stand on the moral high ground and tell you that there are parents in the world. Wrong, I'd say yes.