Do older leftover women have any blind date experience to share?

<> year I graduated, I was introduced by my brother's nanny, and I went on my first blind date in my life. 79 years of sheep, it is said that pigs and sheep are the most compatible. College graduate, medium height, looks Sven, I still have a good impression of him.

At that time, I was still naïve to think, could it be that I won the blind date once? So soon, I don't have any plans to get married, and then I realized that I really thought about it too much, haha. Later, we also went to climb the mountain once, and when we came back, he sent me a message saying that we were not suitable and that we were still friends.

I didn't think much about it at the time, if it wasn't suitable, it wouldn't be suitable, anyway, I was young and the conditions were good, so I wasn't afraid. After that, we kept in touch from time to time, and he said that his family was very happy with me, but unfortunately he didn't feel much for me. Generally speaking, people on my side like to be fat, saying that they are blessed, and my family is good, I have no burden, I graduated from college, I have a good job, and the conditions are okay.

It's a pity that fate is predestined, and it was only after I finally met my husband that I really understood this sentence.

In general, the personal quality of older leftover women is very high, the commonality is that the vision is too high, the pattern is too low, the realm is too low, there is IQ but no EQ, there is EQ and no reverse quotient, pick and choose, but unfortunately the heart is higher than the sky, if you can know the current affairs in time before the age of 30 and have self-knowledge, agree to marry the man who pursues her, most of them will not be bad. It's a pity that they all missed the good times, and they fell to the point of being ruined and lost, and no one cared about them. I think that the leftover women before the age of 27-29 will have the last chance if they can do the following to get off the single as soon as possible:

1. Know yourself and your opponent, understand your own strengths and weaknesses, appreciate each other's strengths, treat each other's shortcomings, make trade-offs, be good at grasping the key points and mainstream of marriage and love, don't be a flashlight that will only shine on others, and avoid the pursuit of perfection; 2. Adjust your mentality, restrain your temper, treat marriage and love with a mature attitude, treat others, don't be petty, learn to appreciate the advantages and strengths of men who like to love all types of men, especially men who extend olive branches to you, and objectively analyze and tolerate each other's shortcomings and shortcomings; 3. Pay attention to dress, speech and behavior, give people a gentle and rational impression, care about men, and don't let good fate slip away; 4. Learn skills related to future family life; 5Learn to fall in love with your brain, not just with your ears and eyes. As for female friends over the age of 30, I don't know how to help them get rid of their singles, because the age structure is at a complete disadvantage.

84 years old, looking below average, the family background is acceptable to us. When I first graduated in my early 20s, I liked someone, in fact, I knew that there was no hope, but the other party has never refused, and I can't get out, so far I really think that if you don't love each other, please stay away. At the age of 25, I finally started a blind date, and I waited for three or five every year all the way to 32, and I couldn't remember how much I saw.

Until I gradually found that as soon as someone introduced me, I would lose control of my emotions, and I would like to go on a blind date as a task, and every time I wish the other party didn't like me, because if I refused, it would always cause a quarrel at home. I finally realized that I was actually depressed all the way, and my psychological instinct resisted, so I refused to go on a blind date. (In the past few years, there have actually been people who have been attracted or noted, and there are so-called blind date men who like me, but I really didn't talk about one, I don't know how to get along, anyway, I rejected me excitedly, saying that I tried to accept people who liked me but couldn't.)

For more than a year, very peaceful days, until I gradually began to lose sleep, and one day I began to wonder if I had been like this all my life? Suddenly I felt very scared, and I re-embarked on the blind date, and I still didn't know what the road ahead was, social phobia, really, in fact, I don't know what I want to do now......

The phenomenon of a large number of older leftover women is abnormal, and the essence is that the supply and demand situation in some areas has changed.

Women generally reach the age of 30 and finally if they have not found a suitable man, then these older leftover women can only rely on blind dates to complete the purpose of marriage. A lot of them are urging blind dates at home, so how should older leftover girls face blind dates.

Older leftover women are generally divided into three stages when facing blind dates:

The first stage: generally the first time are more nervous, twisting and pinching, nervous, some women behave like the first entrance exam of the student, psychological anxiety, seven up and eight down and the same as facing the enemy, this kind of older leftover women they generally have a low probability of dating for the second time or later, generally "a light", since then, forget each other in the rivers and lakes.

The second stage: it is generally a bold pioneering period, when blind dates become a habit of life, it is not strange to see more than the same feeling as when you lose something, and when you are no longer nervous, you will no longer pick and choose. Basically, I will see each other, and I will never be ashamed to answer, I am embarrassed to ask this and that, but like the "film police", I know each other's family, hobbies, education, work, and even seven aunts and eight aunts, nieces and nephews.

In this period, if you can meet a person who can talk and can be considered in all aspects, you must seize it, because this is "meeting the right person at the right time", and we can't delusionally think that there will be better ones in the future, we must wake up to ourselves with the story of "the black blind man breaking the stick".

The third stage: the period of waiting for the rabbit. Once the best time is missed, when the blind date turns from habit to torment again, all you can do is rely on the yin virtue of the previous life.

Since regret has no effect, then put your hopes on work or honoring your parents, and wait for the "oversized pie" to fall from the sky. Amen, send blessings, and you can only bless.

We can't let it be natural for emotional things, don't always believe that fate has not come to all kinds, time waits for no one, if we don't get married and have children at the best age, then the road will definitely get narrower and narrower in the later stage.

As we get older, there are more and more people getting married at the same age, and we choose to get younger and older at the end of the month, and our bodies are not as good as the bodies and looks of girls in their 20s. Therefore, it is advisable to do what to do, and what to do at what age, this is the best.

Blind date is a problem faced by most people, especially for older men and women, so how can older leftover women blind date increase the success rate of blind date? Four blind date skills to get off the single smoothly.

1. Smile more and talk less.

In the case that you don't know the other person well, try to overcome yourself, talk less, and become a fan and audience of the other person. When she talks about the dragon and phoenix dance, she must, he will understand that you are interested in what he has to say. If he is not a very talkative person, then you can guide him appropriately and he will smile as much as possible and smile at him as much as possible.

The key to dating is communication and interaction. However, some girls don't know how to chat, so they often say the wrong thing or don't know how, which makes the atmosphere very awkward. The first thing is to relax yourself, just like you know a friend's friend and connect with another friend.

Throughout the conversation, try to relax as much as possible. Discussions about topics of common interest, such as recent news events, hottest movies, and books I've read, are just beginning to take root. It is not easy for the other party to feel the pressure and grasp each other's personal interests.

It's also easy to see if they're a good fit for each other, and it's also easy to care about what was discussed beforehand.

3. Don't ask sensitive topics.

The worst thing about dating is asking difficult questions that you shouldn't ask, like how many relationships you've had and how much money you have. This can make the other person feel that your goals are too clear and too realistic. If you are willing to master it, you can talk to him about your work or future plans.

4. Establish a good attitude.

The first is psychological. When we go on a blind date, it's easy for us to fall into a mental pattern where "the man across from us is my future partner."

Then you apply your expectations and standards for your future partner to this man, and then continue to pick and choose. So, at first glance, it's not handsome at all, and it doesn't feel like it! Look closely, it doesn't work.

Why do you like acting so much, you keep talking. Why is he so ungentlemanly and doesn't ask my opinion when he orders. Why is she so immature and pierced ears.

Why are you so disrespectful and wear a vest to go on a blind date? Why don't you pay! None of these ideas are true.

If you have your own stable job and a stable income, treat each other gently, chat with each other more, and contact each other more, you can increase the success rate of blind dates.

When meeting each other for the first time, you must understand each other's preferences in advance, try to show your elegant temperament, don't expose some of your shortcomings in front of each other, dress appropriately, and try to wear some age-reducing clothes.

First of all, you must understand your current situation, don't be too high-minded when you go on a blind date, and of course, you don't have your own principles to change your view of blind dates.

Older leftover women, when they go on a blind date, they must pay attention to their way of speaking, and they must dress appropriately; Generally, the other party will be required to have a car and a house, have some savings, and have a stable job, and there will be these requirements.

Care needs to be taken not to ask for age. This kind of woman is generally very demanding, not only asking the other party to be handsome, but also very rich.

When going on a blind date with an older leftover woman, you should pay more attention to some details and adjust your mentality. Older leftover women are required to arrive on time when they go on a blind date.