After my mother became seriously ill, my brother and sister all said what if they wanted to give up

<> birth, old age, sickness and death, although it is human nature, has the greatest impact on people's hearts, especially when it happens to our loved ones, and we hope to help them get rid of suffering. However, if we limit the criteria of "good" to more than just "disease-free**", we will find that a person also has many needs: freedom, dignity, and autonomy ......If a loved one is seriously ill, should I give up ** according to my own wishes, or should I be desperate to save my life?

For a sick old man, of course, the family hopes that she can accept ** and get better slowly, but for the old man herself, maybe what she thinks is: I have lived so long and experienced everything. I used to be a very capable person and raised several children, but now, my body is full of pain.

I was no longer a help from them, but a burden, which made me feel depressed and hopeless. I also hate the feeling of being sick and making me slowly lose my vitality and function. And I don't think it's possible to go back to the good way they used to be, even if we treat them the way they think.

After all, I'm old, it's an immutable fact. When the disease came to me, I couldn't resist. But at the very least, I have the right to choose my own lifestyle, and I have the right to choose what to do with my body.

If a loved one is seriously ill, should I give up ** according to my own wishes, or should I be desperate to save my life? Is it to force the old man to accept ** and prolong his life, or to respect the old man's wishes and let him decide the direction of his life?

I don't think it's an easy question, and it requires us to communicate deeply with the elderly. Because sometimes the old man seems to refuse to seek medical attention and wants to end his life as soon as possible, in fact, his deep motivation is to gain a sense of control and let himself truly feel the power of being alive. So what we have to do is to make a real spiritual connection with the elderly, to make them feel strength and warmth, and then we will respect their wishes for the next thing.

I think that it is the greatest respect for a person to be in control of his own destiny.

Thank you for your question.

It's really a dilemma. It's not easy to make a decision.

I don't know what kind of disease my mother is, but I think the prognosis may not be very good, and my brother and sister should have made a choice after considering my mother's illness and the family's financial situation.

Let's talk to my brothers and sisters, open up your emotions to talk, talk about your story from childhood to adulthood, talk about your mother's story, talk about your father's story, talk about each other's feelings for your mother, talk about the current situation of the family... Perhaps, by being open to each other, you can find the most suitable solution for your family.

Regardless of the decision made, consistency between your siblings is important, especially at times like these.

Hope mine helps you and bless you. ❤️

Mother is seriously ill, see what serious illness he is, if it is cancer, my brothers and sisters are advised to give up**, then there is no way to do it. Because cancer can only be a waste of people and money.

Persuade. Because our mother gave us life and raised us, we can't give up like this, so we should persuade our brothers and sisters to save our mother's life.

In fact, I think that if my mother's illness is very serious and has reached the point where there is no return, then I think giving up ** is also the best consolation for my mother, which will also make my mother suffer a lot.

After my mother was seriously ill and my brothers and sisters gave up, I would understand the reasons for their abandonment in a timely manner, find a reasonable way, and take a reasonable way to serve my mother in a timely manner.

At this time, you should have a conversation with your brothers and sisters, telling them that this is your mother, and you should try to help solve it, and you can't choose to give up because of this situation, which is a very unfilial performance.

If your mother's illness is really to the point where there is no return, then I think giving up is also the best choice, which will also make your mother suffer a lot less.

Parents who are seriously ill should theoretically give them **. But it should be evaluated beforehand. is the most sensible.

There are some serious illnesses that are not fatal. It's just that it costs more. In this case, it's worth a try.

For example, Xiaoliang's cerebral hemorrhage. For most people, this situation is actually worth rescuing. The premise is that you can't get into the ICU

If the disease is taken casually, it may bring down a family. Therefore, the members of the family must be in advance. Be prepared.

There are certain precautions not to be caught off guard when the time comes.

There is another case. Massive cerebral infarction and a disease with no hope of cure. In this case.

While the family is negotiating, be sure to ask the doctor. At the same time, it is best to have a little medical knowledge yourself. In some cases, the disease is not worth saving at all.

If you are rescued, you are in a vegetative state. And it made him particularly painful. Sometimes a bed bed is for years.

Exhausting the family from tormenting them all.

Therefore, there are some things that should be treated rationally and not emotionally. Because it's not a man's business, it's a family's business. You can't make the whole family because of one person. are all in debt. It's unimaginable.

may be because the economy is not very rich, the family conditions can only support the medical expenses of one child, and my sister also loves my sister very much, and I don't want to embarrass the family, so I take the initiative to give up**.

Such an older sister thinks about her sister and makes life and death decisions, which really makes me feel admired, and she is really a good sister.

Because the relationship between their sisters is very deep, they both hope that each other can live, and they both give each other the opportunity to live.