Why do some people not like to hear the truth?

Each of us wants to hear praise and praise.

However, no one is perfect, and each of us has shortcomings and mistakes. Therefore, in the minds of others, we will all have relevant evaluations. ......If you tell the truth, you will tell your true thoughts and point out the shortcomings and mistakes of the other person......Obviously, many people don't like to hear such words.

That's why a lot of people don't know what to tell the truth.

Each of us wants to be affirmed and doesn't like to hear negative comments about ourselves.

However, everyone has shortcomings and mistakes, and if you tell the truth, you will make negative evaluations of each other's shortcomings and mistakes......Many people don't want to hear this......That's why a lot of people don't like to hear the truth.

The truth represents what the heart really thinks.

Everyone has their own unique way of thinking. If you tell the truth, you will express your own unique ideas ......And some people only like things that are in line with their own thinking, but they don't like words that are different from their way of thinking......As a result, many people don't like to hear the truth.

Each of us has vanity and wants to be complimented and praised.

However, each of us has shortcomings and mistakes, and if we tell the truth, we point out our own shortcomings and mistakes, and we feel that our vanity has been hurt ......Because of this, many people don't like to hear the truth.

These are the reasons why many of us don't like to hear the truth......From the analysis, it can be seen that although telling the truth means that you will be embarrassed if your shortcomings and mistakes are pointed out in person, it is actually very beneficial to your own development and progress......

Because the truth is often hurtful. In addition to thinking, people still have emotions, so why remove the factor of emotional harm. When you say what you think is the "truth", others may only think about "why do you say it despite my emotions", but he doesn't care about the right or wrong of what you say, but why you don't take into account his emotions.

And a lot of what you think is the "truth", the other party may not actually understand it, or it can be said to be dismissive, but when you actually bring it to the table and tell it, there will be an invisible embarrassment, and most people will choose to change the topic or not to the formal question itself. Most of us in our lives are hermit crabs who live a difficult life by self-irony, shrinking themselves into the shells of others. Only by constantly complaining about yourself every day to find some self-confidence, and at this time you have to pry open this shell, and then tell others that this is the real you, others are unwilling or even disgusted with your so-called "truth" You are asking, why they are not willing to listen to your truth.

Telling the truth is more likely to offend people, and sometimes it even equates to low emotional intelligence, which strains your relationships.

People don't like to listen to negative, negative truths. Generally speaking, people like to listen to positive truths.

You're ugly....”

Your pants are torn...”

You're so boring, no one will like you! ”

I don't think many people like to hear such "truths".

1.What is the truth?

One belongs to the truth, and the other belongs to the description of objective facts. The "truth" referred to by the subject is probably the category of truth, that is, a person's true feelings and true feelings. For example, "I hate him so much, he's not good here, he can't work there......In this case, of course, people don't like to hear it.

After all, no one likes to be judged negatively.

2.Why don't people like to be negatively evaluated?

We can go back to the baby's perspective to look at this problem, as a child, the attitude of parents towards him is naturally very important, a negative attitude implies "I don't want you anymore", a positive attitude or evaluation means "I like you so much, come, kiss one!" "Negative comments are followed by punishment or neglect, which is very scary for the child and means "it's over, it's over, my parents don't want me anymore." And vice versa, positive reviews and attitudes lead to food or other rewards.

In the same way, adults still love positive reviews and hate negative ones, because everyone has experienced the horror of negative reviews growing up, and this memory has a profound impact.

Because the truth is often not good, and it is easy to say people's shortcomings and weaknesses, so some people who have poor ability to accept the truth and like to listen to good words will be disgusted with this kind of truth.

Because the truth is usually not as good as the falsehood.

The reason why I don't like to talk about real noise is because I resist what other people's words don't meet her mind. I believe that people need to listen to the truth more and listen to the truth in order to benefit themselves and their actions. Good and powerful people are more likely to accept the truth.

Because the Liquid Servant knew for them the rarity and value of the truth.

People who are good at listening to the truth can not only maintain a clear self-awareness, but also be more willing to accept feedback and arguments from the outside world, and in the process of information from rejection to absorption, with the impact of various points of view, let the mind complete the expansion and growth.

The sociologist H.M. Tollider put it said: "The test of a person's intellect is to see whether his mind can accommodate two opposite thoughts at the same time, without hindering his conduct in the world." ”

If two positive and negative ideas can coexist, and if they listen carefully to the opposing opinions and analyze them, they will make a correction in their lives every time they hear the truth.

Sift out the criticism and nurture the vision in the truth.

Dare to speak the truth to others. Because daring to tell the truth actually reflects a person's confidence, and it can better reflect a person's responsibility.

Dare to listen to the truth shows the mind and conveys self-confidence.

Although some truths are not heard, they can often hit the nail on the head and play a role in going against the ear.

Sometimes, good words may not be sincere, or they may just be meandering. And many times, guessing the truth may not be good, but it is sincere.

So don't hate others for unpleasant truths, and don't lose yourself for nice lies.

Don't expose your weaknesses easily, and be a person who dares to listen to the truth.

When someone really directly says their mistakes, their hearts will inevitably be uncomfortable.

The truth is not good, it pierces the heart, and when it comes to the pain points, it is okay to tell the truth if you want to, but don't be too direct, everything needs a process.

Because the truth really hurts.

Why don't people like to hear the truth? There are the following reasons:

1.Because the truth strikes the heart of man, it is piercing; Because the truth points directly to the shortcomings of the system, it is reactionary; Because the truth peeled off its gorgeous cloak and revealed its true face, it was spat upon; Because straightforward words make lies shameless, everyone avoids them; Because the truth pierced the emperor's coat, everyone hit it.

2.Because this society is very impetuous, those who tell the truth suffer losses, there is no market for those who tell the truth, there are fewer and fewer people who tell the truth, and those who tell the truth do not want to listen, and if they listen, they listen in vain, so everyone is willing to tell lies, lies are popular, and people who tell lies gain a lot, and no one wants to listen to the truth, and no one wants to tell the truth.

3.The truth can hurt the other party's self-esteem from time to time, such as meeting a disabled person with a face that can't pass the test, meeting and saying: You are lame, he must be unhappy, unintentionally hurting his self-esteem, and at the same time insulting the other party's personality.

From this, the reason for telling lies is derived. In real life, if you tell a lie in a specific situation, it means that the person you pick up the real thing is a handsome man, and you push the boat along the river.

People live in the world, all kinds of objective things around them, especially the influence of the social environment, through cognition, emotions and volitional activities in the human brain to form a certain attitude system, and in a certain form in the behavior of the individual, when this attitude and behavior gradually in a person often and stably manifested, it forms the character of the person, this personality is the attitude of the person towards reality and its corresponding psychological phenomenon.

The main reason is that people are under a lot of pressure now. Faced with a lot of criticism in life, I don't want to accept more faith and enlightenment, as the saying goes, loyalty is against the ear.

I was like this in high school before, I just didn't like to listen to other people's teachings, even if I knew it was right and good for me, but I just didn't like it, and I would rather others say some nice slander.

2 The main thing is that the pressure of my life at that time is really great, the college entrance examination is coming, and then at that time, I encountered some things that are difficult to solve in the chain leakage life, and I was very irritable and listened to some people's bad words, which was really uncomfortable. You said that you won't comfort me, even if you still say these things to me, although they are all right, but they are really true.

However, I was not the only one who had this situation at that time, almost everyone around me had this mentality, is this still a common problem of our post-95 generation? When I was a child, I listened to the teachings of teachers and parents a lot, and I was irritable, but now I'm a little older, and I'm still in adolescence, what kind of rebellious psychological assistance is that I don't like to listen to the truth, after all, most of the truth is hurtful, and I just like to listen to those nice slippery words?

In addition, at our age, we really want to hear the affirmation of others, and we don't want our abilities to be denied or doubted by others. Especially for a very good and strong person like myself, I especially want to be perfect, at least try to show my perfect side in the tears of others, and I will always try to correct any shortcomings. But you've worked so hard to correct it, why do you want to hear someone else's denial?

Because sometimes the truth is harsh.

I think there are two kinds of truth: one is unnecessary. One is exhortation.

Let's talk about the first kind of unnecessary, what is unnecessary? It's that some people call it unnecessary by exaggerating the facts or deliberately satirizing your physical features, which is negative. What is counsel?

For example, Xiao Ming is doing a career, and his friend is a person who has come over, and he obviously sees the shortcomings of this career and mentions it, which is advice, which is positive, and it is also what we often say.

In the first case, people don't like to hear it, because criticism that doesn't give advice is only at the level of criticism. Anyone who doesn't like you can commit the first act, and this so-called "truth" is nothing more than an excuse to kidnap you and mock you. The second type is mostly between friends and partners, and most people can accept it, because the other party is analyzing from their own standpoint, and the starting point is completely different from the first situation, and this starting point is for themselves.

So, seriously don't you like to hear the truth? I think it's the opposite, people like to listen to the truth that is beneficial to Lunzhi himself, but they just have a strong antipathy to the truth report that only wants to satirize themselves. In the second case, the truth can really help you in some ways, just like the teacher's education in school.