How a couple quarrel can affect the child

1. When husband and wife quarrel, they rarely care about the feelings of their children, and the two parties quarrel unscrupulously, and even move and drop things. When a child sees such a scene, the child's young mind will be strongly attacked, and he will be frightened by it. If the child grows up in such an environment for a long time, he will be very sensitive to the behavior of others talking loudly, causing the child to become very bold.

2. In the fierce quarrels of parents, many of the solutions chosen after the quarrel are cold and violent, but the child will feel fear and fear when he grows up in this environment, and become inferior, sensitive and cowardly, and if the parents have the behavior of fighting, the child will usually have violent tendencies. Because, the message that children receive from their parents is: If you are not as good as I want, I will hit you!

If your child is angry and short-tempered, parents should reflect on whether they often yell or quarrel in front of him.

3. Because children have witnessed their parents quarreling since childhood, home is like a cage for them, and living with their parents is torment. From childhood to adulthood, I can't feel the warmth and warmth of home, my parents are like an iceberg, I can't hear any expression of their love, I can't open my heart to be friends with my parents, I can't be coquettish, confessed, and even trusting, so that many children want to leave home urgently when they are young, and they don't like to go home when they grow up.

Quarrels between husband and wife can make children feel insecure.

Mom and Dad are often noisy and even yelling and fighting, which is something that every child is afraid of. Children's love for their parents suffers from gains and losses, and they always have to worry about whether their parents will be separated at any time, or they don't want to be themselves. And because of their young age, many children think that their parents' quarrels are caused by their own reasons, which invisibly increases the psychological burden.

As a result of chronic fear, insecurity and tension, the child's sense of security is severely lacking.

Quarrels between husband and wife will make children violent or timid, two extremes.

It directly affects your child's self-confidence and sense of security!

If a child grows up in such an environment, it is likely that it will have an impact on the establishment of a family in the future. Such children are reluctant to get married and are not good at dealing with emotional problems. Moreover, a warm and friendly family environment is very important for the development of children, and if parents often quarrel, the psychological development of children will be affected.

We can look at the children who are juvenile delinquents, usually do not have a happy family, and their family environment has various problems to a greater or lesser extent. But there are very few children who grow up in a friendly environment with me, and when they grow up, they go astray.

That's why I think parents should never quarrel in front of their children if they want to be good to their children. Even some parents will vent their anger on their children after a quarrel, which is completely wrong. Children are not your punching bag, they should be the crystallization of their parents' love.

If the family is always noisy like this, the child will not want to go home. They are still young now, and where can they go except after they finish their studies in school? If you don't like to go home, you may make some friends in society, so what if you learn badly from those friends?

Even if some children don't want to come back, they will choose to go to an Internet café to play games all night or go to a friend's house. All in all, if parents quarrel all the time, it is really not good for a child's growth.

And if the child grows up here, he will really be afraid of getting married. What if I get married in the future? At the same time, I don't dare to find a partner casually.,Usually very cautious about relationship problems.。

Maybe when parents quarrel, they don't think that it will affect their children so much. The original family really affects a person's life, and as he grows older, every time he looks back on his childhood life, it is a pain.

So if the parents really can't get by, then they can choose to divorce. Don't always quarrel in front of your children in order not to get divorced, that is not good for your children.

If the husband and wife often "**" each other, your son will also have a rough temper, and quarreling in front of the child will cause at least three adverse effects on his psychology, the first is that the husband and wife often quarrel when they are blushing and thick-necked, and shouting with a high voice. Seeing that the people you think are closest to each other are also-for-tat, the child's emotions will be strongly impacted, and the child will feel that the safe haven he thinks is no longer there, and negative emotions will arise in his heart, such as fear, sadness, helplessness, etc. The second is to train the child's social skills wrongly, making the child mistakenly believe that quarrels, abuse, and even fights are the best way to resolve conflicts, thus damaging the child's social and emotional intelligence.

Third, the research of psychology shows that living in a family with "gunsmoke" for a long time, in addition to the significant increase in aggression, children's emotional and personality development will be distorted, become emotionally indifferent, lack of trust in others, mean, lucky, picky, short-tempered, or introverted, depressed, easy to withdraw, and lose interest in external things. Sometimes the parents' emotions are difficult to control, and it is inevitable to quarrel in front of the child, and the couple should reconcile in front of the child, and clearly show the child that the quarrel is in the past and the parents will no longer quarrel. Second, encourage your child to express his feelings at the time, and then explain them in a targeted manner.

Finally, pay attention to whether your child is imitating a parent's quarrel. If your child may be imitating unintentionally, tell your child that this is not what a good child should do. Some children will say, "That's what Daddy said that day!"

Parents don't use the phrase "What adults say, children can't!" "Plug the kids back. It should be admitted that it was not right for Dad to say that day, for example:

Well, but it's not right for Dad to say that, so Mom hopes you don't say it.

The child's growth environment determines the child's character development, and the parents often quarrel, and the child's personality will be defective.

When a husband and wife quarrel, how does the child feel? One of the high praises is: "Every minute is torment, it makes me want to escape, my parents often quarrel with red faces, and even fight in front of me, after so many years, I am still often scared to wake up by the dream of my parents quarreling." ”

The quarrels between husband and wife are rampant, and no matter who wins, it is the children who lose the good sales.

Children's growth needs a loving atmosphere the most, and the harmony of a small family can make children experience joy and happiness.

Proper expression of love and closeness between parents can give children a strong sense of security. Children who grow up in a harmonious family will become cooperative, friendly, self-controlled, and adaptable, which can maximize the formation of their independence, enthusiasm, initiative and sense of social responsibility, and children will be more active, cheerful and outgoing.

Quarrelsome parents will only bring fear, insecurity, nervousness ...... to their children, the child can not understand the pleasure of the husband and wife arguing at the end of the bed. Parents are the leader of all their children's sense of security, and children see their favorite and most respected people slandering each other every day, which is a great damage to their sense of security.

A child with no sense of security in his heart is like a wanderer who has no place to rest, they are always on the road, and no matter how hard and tired they are, they dare not look back.

In the quarrel between parents, the tone and tone of the child are also difficult to be, and the child will blame himself, thinking that he is not "well-behaved", so that the parents have a quarrel. My friend and his wife quarreled over a trivial matter, and the daughter of the family timidly walked over and said, "I learned a new song in kindergarten, and I'll sing it to you, okay?"

How distressing it is for a child to try to defuse a parental quarrel with his own performance.

Children who grow up in parental quarrels are always unable to face things objectively, and always find reasons in themselves, which affects the child's own development.

There are two main effects of frequent quarrels between husband and wife on children: first, it affects the child's mental health, the child will gradually become introverted and unconfident, unable to communicate with others normally, distrustful of love, and make the child gloomy and introverted. Second, it will make children feel disappointed in their marriage, or overly eager to be loved.

When the child grows up, he will not be afraid of marriage, he will be emotionally frustrated, and it is easy for him to become irrational because of love, and he does not know how to give emotionally, and he just wants to be loved. Therefore, for the sake of the physical and mental health of the child, the husband and wife should take responsibility and avoid frequent quarrels.

The quarrel between husband and wife will definitely affect the child's learning. Physically and mentally hurt, for the sake of the healthy growth of the child, I hope you will stop quarreling, understand each other, forgive each other, and give the child a good environment. acres of brigades.

Between husband and wife, frequent quarrels will leave an indelible shadow on the fragile and young hearts of children. The most obvious effects are the following, as a parent, you may wish to take a look!

1. Irritable and withdrawn.

Husbands and wives often quarrel, to be honest, it is nothing more than the child who is hurt by the words, and this will affect the child's character for a long time, the originally well-behaved and sensible baby, if you often see your parents quarreling in front of you, your personality will become more excited, irritable, and even become short-tempered and withdrawn.

In the inner world of children, they often think that other people's families are so harmonious and beautiful, and slowly form a lack of good speech in front of classmates, isolation, etc. There are many words and deeds that imitate us adults, because the child's first teacher is the parents, if the vicious behavior of quarreling in front of the child, then, the look and behavior during the quarrel, the child will also see it, but also remember it, so that over time, the child's personality will become very irritable.

2. Lack of sense of security, gain and loss.

I believe that there are many irrational parents, who start to scream regardless of who is around when their heads are hot, and their children cry and are scared when they see that it must be infiltrator, and they are even thinking about whether you will be separated, and then there may be a lack of mother or baby company and so on.

Parents quarrel in front of their children, it is best not to do this kind of very hurtful quarrel in front of the child, because this will make the child feel very frightened and helpless, and seeing the parents quarrel again and again makes the child seriously insecure. In fact, at this time, the child's heart is very fragile and soft. I have read a relevant statistic, 80% of adults who are afraid of marriage have the experience of discord or frequent quarrels with their parents in their early years, and they are disappointed in marriage, and even fearful, which is an insecure factor formed in their early psychology, which has an impact on the child's life.

3. Learn to use it for oneself and not be filial.

Cause the baby is not filial piety at all, often see the parents' quarrels or behavior, usually will be transmitted to the child, not used to the parents every quarrel, when they also have emotions or can not control the emotions, the little guy also has a temper, even to the parents tantrums, over time, the child will become unfilial, do not know how to be grateful, in fact, is not the child's problem search round, the root lies in the parents, really should not quarrel in front of the child.

Suggestion: In fact, the love of parents will be inherited, if a family is harmonious and never quarrels, children will feel the love of their parents, and they will follow suit, so that children are full of expectations for marriage in the future, and let children grow into a person with love in their hearts, warm and confident. In fact, it is good to give the baby a good education rather than spending more money, nor how much knowledge to learn, but that the father loves the mother, the mother loves the father, and this love is passed on to the child, which will play a positive role in all aspects of the child's life.

Quarrels in front of children are generally considered to have the following state effects on children.

1. It may lead to character defects in children:

If a homely home becomes like a battlefield, parents will often quarrel fiercely in front of their children, and even scold and fight with each other. Children who grow up in such a family have some inferiority complexes, some are sensitive, and some can become easily irritable. In short, they will leave their children's character flawed.

Second, it is easy to become irritable and rebellious:

Children will be easily influenced by their parents. Their parents often quarrel and their children will be more violent. Their mood swings.

A little thing can make him irritable. If you happen to be in adolescence, you will become more irritable and rebellious. In addition, his parents are always arguing, and he usually finds other ways to vent.

He is likely to take a bad path, which could ruin the child's life.

3. It will cause bad psychological effects on children:

When couples quarrel, they often blush, have thick necks, and shout loudly or loudly. Seeing that the closest people are also-for-tat, the child's emotions will be strongly affected. Children will feel that the safest haven no longer exists, and will develop negative emotions such as fear, sadness, helplessness, etc.

Fourth, it will affect the child's social outlook

Wrong social skills training for children can damage their social emotional intelligence by mistakenly believing that quarrels, abuse, or even fights are the best way to resolve conflicts. Psychological research has shown that living in a "smoky" family for a long time, in addition to a significant increase in aggression, children's emotional and personality development will be distorted, become emotionally apathetic, lack trust in others, mean, critical, short-tempered, or introverted depression, easily withdrawn, and lose interest in external things.