How do I find true friends in college?

If college students are looking for true friends, you are really your own true heart, and if you are sincere, you can find true friends.

Many students will find that from their freshman year to their senior year, the number of friends around them is not increasing, but decreasing, and even finding that they don't even have a true friend, is it difficult to make a true friend in college?

The answer is yes, true friends can only be found.

Different from high school life, after entering the university, the classmates have their own things to do except for meeting in class, and we often see that some students will appear in the eyes of their classmates except for class, and the rest of the time is nowhere to be seen. Even if the roommates live together, everyone's ambitions in the same dormitory are completely different, some people want to go abroad, some people want to go to graduate school, and some people ask for jobs, and it is naturally difficult to make friends without a common topic. Although there are various clubs on campus, there are still cases where people only get together for something and don't get together at other times.

All kinds of things are full of people's lives, and not having the time and energy to meet friends is an important reason why you can't make true friends.

From another point of view, whether you can make true friends and personal personality also has a lot to do with it, many people not only can't make friends in school, but also can't make true friends when they go out of campus and enter society. Some people naturally like to be alone, unwilling to conform to other people's values and living habits, have their own values, have a strong personality, unwilling to tolerate other people's ideas, sometimes true friends are also harmonious and different, we need to open our hearts, and learn to listen and tolerate, so that we can enter the hearts of others, so that others are willing to communicate with you.

Loneliness is the norm of life, no one can accompany anyone forever, if you have not been able to meet a true friend, there is no need to doubt life, and becoming a good friend with yourself is the most important thing. We don't need to force friends to fit into a circle we don't like, because that would only go against our original intentions. As long as you are worthy, as long as that he (she) is worthy, then the time to come will come sooner or later!

Many people can make a lot of sincere friends in junior high school and high school, but I think there are several reasons why it is difficult to make sincere friends in college.

First, geographical reasons. College is no longer like high school, where students come from all over the world. Different places have different habits, values, and outlook on life.

These differences may cause some estrangement, friction, spring oak and rejection. Some people will think that I am a friend of you, but when I return to my hometown, you can't help me, so I don't want to treat it sincerely.

Second, there is less time for communication. When I went to university, every day was an irregular classroom, an irregular teacher, and there may be irregular classmates, and many people could only communicate in the classroom. Back in the dormitory, everyone did their own thing.

In addition to the most communication between dormitories, the intersection with other students can only be communicated by themselves.

Third, the reasons for interest and reality. College students are no longer like high school students, they have experienced more, and their feelings are no longer pure. Everyone has become mature, and many people think about their own interests, and when they feel that you are valuable, they will be good to you, and when you are worthless, they will abandon you decisively.

Many people regard interests as more important than sincerity, and interests will drive some people to become no longer like themselves, become sleek, and the goodness in their hearts will slowly be hidden.

The university is closer to society, and many people become more realistic. Some people will try to make good interpersonal relationships for the sake of reality. The more they want, the more they lose, and that's how cruel society is.

Friends are the wealth of a lifetime, the guiding light on the road of our life, do not forget their original intention, cherish the present.

1. Restrain your little temper, don't do everything by your own temperament at home to have parents accustomed to you, a little unsatisfactory may blame your parents in every way, but everyone is equal at school, no one will take care of you like your parents. Don't use the good or bad background of your parents as a weapon to suppress others, this is a behavior that only naïve children will answer. 2. Don't melt people who don't match the first impression aura This is my own personal experience, thinking that trying to get in touch will improve the relationship, but this is completely whimsical.

Don't grieve yourself to force yourself to maintain this relationship. When encountering people with incompatible aura, the first reaction is to stay away. 3. Say what you have to say, don't hold it in your heartSome people don't like to make sense of it, and they often suffer dumb losses.

For example, if the other person does something that makes you unhappy, then you have to express your dissatisfaction. For example, if you don't like others to use your own things, you have to say it, otherwise others will not realize their mistakes and continue to do so. At this time, you are angry, and others still say that you are inexplicable and not a loss.

4. Be a team and don't be too selfish, remember that my college roommate is different from others. She is hot when everyone else is cold, and she is cold when everyone else is hot. I think everyone knows the weather in Suzhou, and the weather in the south is not too cold.

At that time, it was about a dozen degrees of weather, this roommate said that she was cold, and then immediately went to turn on the air conditioner, without asking our opinions, at one o'clock in the evening, everyone else was enthusiastic and difficult to fall asleep before turning off the air conditioner, but the next day people actually came to say, "Yesterday was not a little off the air conditioner, turned off really early". This is obviously only loving herself and not considering the selfish behavior of others, other people's feelings have nothing to do with her, and it is difficult for people like this to make true friends.

One of the saddest moments in college is the separation after graduation. Especially after studying and living with my roommates for four years, we went to class together, went to self-study together, ate together, played sports together, and played together.

College is not as good as junior high school and high school, and at that time we will definitely know our classmates. We live in a group, work in a classroom every day, and come into contact with that group of people every day. And for such a long time, we will always know each other.

But knowing these people is not simple, it means that we will get to know them, and everyone still has their own games. Because of the difference in personality, there is a deviation in ability. Therefore, introverts are often silently in the corner to be a quiet beautiful man.

For those who have a warm and cheerful personality, he may know all the people in the class, but there are only a few really good friends.

But when we get to college, it's different, because we only choose people who can play with them, and we don't even say hello to those who can't. Therefore, the relationship during college is a kind of spontaneous finding, and this kind of feeling will be more profound.

Some people may not even be able to call all the names of their classmates in college, and only know the ones in their dormitories and those who are more familiar with the class cadres in front of them, and they can't figure out who the others are.

Because college is not as close as in high school, there will be no special roll call, nor will there be discussions on so-called knowledge points, but only those friends who have similar interests.

University is a prelude to society