Where does human self confidence come from? Why do you suddenly lose confidence sometimes?

In fact, people's self-confidence is still ** strong in the heart, as long as they have the skills to solve problems, then they will become more confident, as for sometimes suddenly no self-confidence, I think the main reason is that they lack some kind of skills.

**In life, there is also cheekiness, sometimes it is really necessary to have this attitude to gain a foothold in this society, but sometimes it may be subject to unprecedented things, which will make a person lack self-confidence and express confusion.

Stemming from their own strength, a strong person will definitely be much more confident than others, or the personality of the person himself. But it is not excluded that some people are blindly confident.

Self-confidence comes from your own ability. Some people will not believe in their own ability after a major event, and they will naturally have no self-confidence at this time.

How exactly does this fundamental self-confidence come about? Or what is it? I think it's mainly based on 3 points:

It is definitely difficult for a person who has no ability and is not excellent in all aspects to be confident. Self-confidence is not hard power, but it often needs to be built on the basis of hard power. We rarely see the self-confidence of a person with poor grades, and we rarely see the small transparent self-confidence in the workplace, but we will see many students and workplace elites who are very confident.

If you are a student, the most important thing you should do at the moment is to study hard, not just to get a good score, but also to build self-confidence among your peers and prove that you are not worse than others. As a newcomer to the workplace, working hard and improving your abilities is not simply to make more money or please the leader, but to establish your own foothold in the workplace. This is the foundation of survival, but also the source of self-confidence.

We also often see that some people are very capable, study well and work well since childhood, but they are not confident. This is actually because he has received too little recognition, or he may have grown up in a very demanding environment. Because she has not been affirmed since she was a child, even if she is smart and excellent, she can do whatever she does and learns, but she has always been unconfident in nature, and even fell into severe depression.

Therefore, if a person's excellence is not seen or recognized, especially if he is not appreciated by people who are particularly close to him, it is still difficult to build up inner self-confidence. It may seem good to others, but in fact his heart is depressed and lacking.

There is also a situation where some people themselves are also very good in all aspects, and they have also been affirmed by many people。However, in a romantic relationship, they will behave very unconfidently, and even lower themselves because of low self-esteem, and unconditionally please each other. This equality is not given by others, but by ourselves.

It is not based on appearances or recognition, but on the belief that we are a person, a mind, and qualified to love those who are better than us, and who are worthy of being loved by those who are better than us. Perhaps, this is exactly what a person is truly confident and has a strong heart.