Being pitted by unreliable parents to doubt what life is like

No one can stand behind you to give you security and security, and you feel like an orphan even though you have parents. After all, normal parents can teach their children common sense and handling principles, your parents don't know, you can't expect them to give you a little advice, you can only rely on your own hard work. Sometimes you have to fight off all kinds of obstacles and emotional distractions from your parents.

In short, it's very hard, and you have to work hard to face it, because your starting point is more than a little bit behind others.

The most unreliable parents I have ever seen, which are incomprehensible, and some are even outrageous, which has a great adverse impact on their children!

Quarrel and be rough in front of your child.

High school children are relatively mature in terms of observation and cognitive ability. If parents quarrel in front of their children, or quarrel with others, it will not only cause children to be highly uneasy, nervous and fearful, but also this bad behavior or attitude will directly affect the child's personality and internalize it into their own social habits. At the same time, it will make parents have no majesty in the hearts of their children.

Dedicated to work.

In order to give their children a worry-free home, some parents work hard to earn money and work overtime until late at night, and even go home for dinner. If you want to make the relationship between people more harmonious, you need to make the relationship more stable through communication and communication, and not only to establish communication, but also to spend more time with you. The work of parents is inexhaustible, and the time to accompany their children in life is limited, so parents should be more detailed and separate from work and off-duty time, and accompany their children more during off-duty hours to give their children a healthy and happy childhood life.

Too doting. It is not right to overdo it and pamper your children too much. My relative's child is spoiled by his parents, and until now he must be fed by his parents, such a child can be imagined, willful, poor self-care ability, pampered and arrogant, and vexatious.

Spoiling a child is easy to spoil the child.

Talking doesn't count.

Parents must fulfill what they say to their children, otherwise, it will not only reduce the authority of their parents' promises, but also let children develop the habit of speaking not counting over time.

Parents are unreliable, and it is the children who pit them. Parents are role models and life coaches for their children, and while educating their children, they must also blame themselves for setting an example, and they can't do something in front of their children that affects their children's growth!

1. Spoil children.

For families with only one child at home, they will basically be pampered by their parents, or they will be doted on by the older generation. Spoiling a child is equivalent to ruining his whole life, just as the old man said that "habitual children are like killing children" is the same reason, because many children have certain defects in their character due to the doting of their parents.

Do you remember the returning girls? She studied abroad, and her father gave 10,000 yuan a month for living expenses, but it was not enough to spend every time, so she spoke badly to her father in order to ask for money. The parents have a salary of a little more than 10,000 yuan a month, but they don't know how to understand their father's difficulties, and they only know how to get more money from their father every day.

Such children are selfish, just like a giant baby, even if the parents give them 100,000 yuan every month, they are not satisfied.

2.Focus only on learning and ignore moral education.

Since kindergarten, our parents are more concerned about their grades, and we often discuss these issues with some parents. Once it is discovered that a child's grades are declining, all kinds of cram schools flock to them. It doesn't matter how tired the child is, because the pressure of competition is particularly great now, and the purpose of parents is not to let their children lose at the starting line, only good grades are good.

So many times parents will educate their moral character, and whenever their children get good grades, they will praise their children and not let them do anything. This gives children the misconception that as long as they have good grades, they can get anything. Therefore, children will study hard, but they don't understand the world, even if their grades are good, they will eventually be eliminated by society.

3. Not being responsible for children.

We have always said that the son is not the fault of the father, and that some of the bad behavior of the child is caused by the parents. Why is it that many parents now almost only need one child because they are afraid of not raising it well, but individual parents, as always, think that it is the best choice to give a little money to put at home and let the parents take care of the elderly.

Then our parents should follow several principles, the first is that parents try to accompany their children to grow up, many parents think that making a lot of money can give their children a better life, but this often misses the child's childhood. The second is to educate children to be relaxed, things must be reversed, not to spoil children excessively, children make mistakes, we parents should properly criticize and educate. But don't beat and scold often, otherwise the child will hold a grudge against the parents.

Parents always get along with their children in a condescending manner. It will make the child less courageous.

There are such sad and joyful things for unreliable parents, sad that they have many disasters and difficulties, and other people's children are held in the palm of their hands by their parents, and they are always paying attention to them. The joy is that although I have experienced all kinds of strange things, I have grown up, and it can be regarded as a happy thing. Even so, I still hope that parents can pay more attention, otherwise it will cause eternal pain to their children.

I have a friend who is like that, and I get sad when I think about it when I was a kid. One day in kindergarten, the other children were picked up by their parents, and no one came to pick them up from school until dark. From hope to hope, to the despair, the hope of the appearance of parents.

When he grew up, he realized that his parents forgot to take him home. But they didn't know how much damage this incident had caused to their friend, and how helpless he was at that time.

The same thing about netizens is also very worrying, after elementary school, it rained, and no one came to pick it up after waiting for a long time. So, I went back in the rain, and when I got home, my father was playing mahjong, and my mother was standing on the sidelines and watching.

Most of the people who tell these things are now grown up to work or rent a family in Qinji, but they still remember these things clearly. Just like the beginning of a TV series, each episode will be replayed. When they say these things in the form of jokes, they may have been relieved and let go.

However, I hope that parents can remember these things because these unnecessary mistakes have caused harm to their children.

What is it like to have an unreliable parent? Just like netizens' words: It's a miracle to be alive and really the first servant. Children say such words ridiculed, feel and a little lost, so I also hope that all parents can pay more attention to the process of raising their children and take good care of their children.

We have the impression that our parents are full of wisdom and can solve many, many problems for us that we can't solve, at least when we were young. But what is it like to have a very unreliable parent since childhood?

The experience of netizens and friends is summarized to tell you that not everyone has a pair of very responsible parents, how did some friends live strong until now?

I'm not afraid of pig-like teammates, but I'm afraid of unreliable parents.

Not everyone can get the love of their parents from the beginning of their childhood, there are many parents who just gave birth to them but did not raise them. We must cherish our reliable parents, and then work hard to repay them for their responsibility and nurturing grace.

It's like this, if you don't study when you are a child, you can't make money when you grow up.

With the development of the times, people's living standards have been significantly improved. While the standard of living has been improved, the cultural level of many parents has also been improved to a certain extent.

In this way, many parents who lacked common sense and had a serious patriarchal mentality have slowly changed.

Take taking the matter of raising children as an example, many parents have said that with the change of knowledge level and psychology, the way they take care of their babies is obviously different from their parents. What's going on?

What is it like to have an unreliable parent?

Netizen: It's all up to luck that I can grow so big!

Not long ago, a netizen asked on a whim, combined with his own personal experience: how unreliable can his parents be. As soon as the question came out, netizens exploded one after another, scrambling to get it, and shouted: I can answer this question.

Netizen 1:

I feel that I have grown up so big, and I have really been blessed by God to grow up. Now when I hear my grandmother talk about my childhood, I am very afraid of my mother.

It is said that my mother took me at home alone, and my grandfather, grandmother and father all went to work in the fields, and my mother, who had never taken care of a child by herself, was obviously very rusty when she took me by herself for the first time. Because the family has pigs, my mother has to feed the pigs in the morning, and my mother looks at the pigsty after looking at me in her arms, and after struggling for a long time, she puts me next to the pigsty and goes to the house to prepare pig food.

In this way, when I was only a few months old, I kept staring at the pig. I don't know if the pig is too hungry, so it's about to run out of me. I almost fell into the pig's mouth and was rescued by my grandmother, who came home temporarily. Thinking about it now, my grandmother couldn't help but want to laugh.

Netizen 2:

I don't think anyone is more unreliable than my dad. My mother said that my brother and I are dragon and phoenix fetuses, my mother went into the delivery room to give birth, after giving birth my father walked in, came in and hugged my brother to look at it, and when I was tired of it, I wanted to sit down and rest, but I was stopped by my mother's yell, because the place where my father planned to sit down was where I was lying! Now that I think about it, I don't have anything to be angry about, so I want to say something:

Dad, how bad are your eyes, don't worry about your daughter?

Netizens have said: I can grow so big because of luck! What is it like to have an unreliable parent?

Netizen: It's all up to luck that I can grow so big! What do you think?

What do you think after reading the crying complaints of these netizens? Are your parents also the kind of extremely unreliable parents in the legend? How do you treat your children?