Why do some people say they are in love but don t act?

Many people verbally want to say that they really want to fall in love, but in reality, they have not been able to fall in love themselves. There are some people who want it because no one wants it, but most of them are because they don't act on their own, and when others want to fall in love with them, they withdraw themselves, don't want to fall in love, and reject others, so they stay single. However, they should often tell others how much they want to be in love.

In fact, this kind of person is not duplicitous, and their own hearts are also thinking about falling in love.

But sometimes, the inner thoughts are different from the actual approach, and I really want to fall in love in my heart, but in real life, when it really comes to that juncture, I am really afraid and withdrawn. It is said that the more people want to fall in love, the more afraid they are of falling in love. However, they are very eager to fall in love.

They know that their own hearts are very conflicted, so they will often verbally say that they want to fall in love, hoping that through this they can give themselves the courage to really fall in love. However, if someone confesses to them, they are also very conflicted, they both want to fall in love, and they are afraid to fall in love. Others take the initiative to find them to fall in love, they are all like this, not to mention that they have to take the initiative to chase others?

Therefore, some people will often verbally say that they want to fall in love, but they don't act. I think it's understandable. After all, they may not be able to pass that level in their hearts.

Also, don't think that kind of people are duplicitous, I don't think they are really duplicitous, but a kind of forced last resort. Who doesn't want to fall in love, but if you really want to fall in love, you may not be able to accept it, so much pain.

People nowadays seem to be more and more selfish, wanting to try that feeling of being in love, but they don't want to bear the pain it brings, so they just talk about it every day, not really trying to find someone to fall in love. Can you suffer some hurt, but you are not willing to open your heart and meet a second person. Fear that I will be hurt, fear that this relationship of mine will not bear fruit.

But he was unwilling, he just was a single dog every day, and then he went around proclaiming that he wanted to fall in love, but when he really met someone, he retreated.

I think this situation is very consistent with a sentence in Osamu Dazai's "Human Disqualification", even happiness is afraid, and when you meet cotton, you will be hurt. Nowadays, people seem to only think about their own feelings, and it is easy to ignore the feelings of others, so this is also the case in relationships, many people's feelings are always divided and combined, and they suffer a lot of grievances in the middle. I was very tired like this, so I gave up this kind of love in my heart.

But I am not reconciled, watching others show affection, I feel that other people's love seems to be beautiful, and my own love seems to be very bad.

People just want others to look very tall, so they always say that they want to fall in love but never act, and then pretend to tell others that they are not good-looking and others don't look good. At this time, others will come to comfort her, saying that you are so good-looking, how can others not look down on you? It's because you don't look down on others.

Many people like this feeling of being complimented, and he also sees this statement as a compliment from others. I feel as if I am single and superior to others. Because that's choosing to be single, not being forced to be single.

In fact, I can't find a satisfied one, and others don't look down on me, so I don't act under the guise of wanting to fall in love.

Maybe people are just talking, and there are many such people around me, including myself. Let's talk about me first, occasionally I say that I want to find a partner, but when a friend talks about this topic, he makes fun of his identity as a single dog, and this is completely out of humor, not true. In fact, I don't want to get off the single, because I always feel that a person is more free, the time is arranged by myself, I don't have to cater to the other party's time, and I think it's a very troublesome thing to fall in love, I don't like to live quietly alone, and my personality is not independent enough, I like to be with a lot of friends, but I just don't want to find a partner yet.

Looking for a partner in order to find a partner, the purpose is too strong, this kind of thing depends on fate, the eye edge is very important, so some people say that they want to fall in love may be waiting for fate, if you don't meet someone who you like, how to act, cast a wide net? Isn't it immoral, and it doesn't make much sense? As it was said on the Internet, "I'm also afraid of the cold, but I won't hug others casually."

In general, I don't want to compromise, I haven't met someone I like, I have to wait, and I can't be in a hurry when it comes to falling in love.

Perhaps, there is an impossible person living in his heart, not that he doesn't want to act, but that he can't do anything, and people who are unrequited in love are more or less inferior, they like it but don't dare to say it, or they can't say it. Instead of confessing failure and being awkward friends, it is better to hide in the bottom of your heart, although you are not brave enough, but at least you are safe. Sometimes, it's nice to be friends with someone you like.

And when he said that he wanted to fall in love, he may be avoiding this problem for a short time, and he never took it to heart. Just waiting, waiting for an impossible.

That's me!! I'm now a single female college student, surrounded by teams of young couples, and I'm still very good at showing affection. So I always talk about falling in love, and even though I've been saying this for four years, I still haven't done anything.

It's not that I'm going to let a guy chase me because I'm a girl, I have to be reserved. What age is it now, and where is this kind of thinking? I didn't do it because I wanted to meet the right person, someone who was worth waiting for so many years.

This person doesn't have to be very good, as long as I feel comfortable, he doesn't have any adjectives, he doesn't need to be rich and handsome, just the person I identify. Maybe I really say you think it's ridiculous, but it's the view of love that I've been holding on to for four years.

There are also because they don't want to compromise, isn't there a sentence in "Why Sheng Xiaomo" "If that person is not him, then anyone else is a general." After that, he felt that no one was right, and he didn't want to accept a new person, and he couldn't open his heart to accommodate another person.

There are also some people who may already have a favorite object, but they just don't dare to confess, yes, they don't dare. In your heart, you will never be worthy of the person you have a crush on, how good that person is in your heart, he must be worthy of better.

Or you can wait, when you become better and more worthy of him, I will confess, but how can you confess? Because the person you have a crush on is always the best, what you can't surpass may not be him, but the best him in your heart.

There are also some people who have experienced one or more failed relationships, so they no longer believe in love, and are completely disappointed in love.

Do you have such people around you, shouting every day that they are single and want to fall in love. But it seems that there has been no movement, and I feel that I am free and chic when I am single, but I am not in love? Sometimes on the one hand, I envy others in pairs and shout that they want to fall in love, and when it comes to the world full of love, others introduce friends to them and don't meet them?

The friends around me are already running for four years this year, and they are still single. Ask her why she's not in love? She immediately replied:

Who said I don't want to be in love, I really want to be in love, I especially want to get married. But I just don't know why I can't meet the right person, so I asked her: What are your criteria for finding a boyfriend?

What is the right person? She began to say with a happy expression on her face: taller than me, able to coax me to spoil me, not bad at work, not too ugly, tasteful, able to guess what I think when I'm unhappy, go shopping with me, can't be too boring.

I was sweating when I heard this. I immediately shouted to stop.

Weiwei This kind of girl said that it is better to say that it is better to lack than to abuse. But to put it bluntly, the requirements are a bit ungrounded. Some of your standards are not written on your face, whether you are happy with a person, and whether the other party wants to coax you and spoil you is not up to you.

Boys are not stupid and will ask you: why did you do this to you? Are you thinking a little too much?

This kind of boyfriend may be in Korean dramas, and the requirements are too high.

Boyfriends are not a divine being, they may be very mature and wise on the outside. But he is also a child, and it is not easy for others to understand him. In front of you, I have to coax you like a child, looking for not a girlfriend, but a daughter.

Some people say that they are in love and do not act because they are framed by their own standards, and they don't come out to see people outside, and they refuse to let people enter your emotional world.

Longing for love but stagnation on the road of finding love, only looking at the scenery around you but forgetting that you are also a landscape. Valentine's Day, Tanabata, Christmas, the only pair of figures on the street is the lonely figure you left, you hate the festival because on this day you clearly realize that you are still alone, and the carnival has never stopped passing you. So you long for the appearance of a person to take you out of your current situation, you find that the people around you are not suitable, friends take you to meet new friends, you shirk the argument that you have no time and no desire to meet, time is still passing, you are still alone, obviously talking about love but not doing action, why is this?

I'm that kind of person, and I wish I could speak my mind on behalf of these people.

Type 1: Hurt. We are inevitably hurt in the relationship, once bitten by a snake for ten years afraid of the sequelae of the well rope is not a few, a wound is enough to leave a scar in the heart, although the heart knows that the scumbag is not anyone, maybe the new relationship will be very much what they mean, but I never want to start a new relationship.

Second, being single for too long. I've had a lot of people around me who haven't been in a relationship for a long time or at all. They began to slowly adapt to a single life, they eat alone, go shopping, watch movies alone, don't have to worry about taking care of another person's emotions, and don't have to think hard about the gifts that should be bought during the holidays, they live a free life, although they say that they envy the little sweetness between lovers, they never try, when true love comes, they all choose to refuse, they choose to follow fate and never take the initiative.

Sometimes love doesn't come by taking the initiative, it will always come, let's wait together.

They are generally very eager for love, but their group is not lacking in motivation and timid. In fact, we must know how to take the initiative to pursue love, but we can't fall in love because we are afraid of loneliness.

Feelings don't mean that you can find the right one for yourself if you want to talk, and the love you like is good.

Everyone's personality is different, and some people just don't like to fall in love.

Some people are blind because they haven't met the right person, and they don't want to settle, some people feel that falling in love is troublesome because they don't want to talk, and some people just don't like to fall in love, like to be alone, and don't want to be bound by the old argument.

There is still a big gap between falling in love and getting married, and I have experienced both of them, so let's talk about my opinion.

When you fall in love, you see the advantages of the other party, and the best side of yourself is what you show in the world, but getting married is different.

After getting married, you are faced with the daily firewood, rice, oil, salt, and some trivial life, and the gentleness, romance, and thoughtfulness that you usually show when you are in love will slowly fade, and your truest side will also be shown, some are sloppy, some are lazy, and so on, only when you get married do you know the most true appearance of the object.

When you fall in love, you don't need to care too much about each other's family and the like, as long as two people are happy together, but marriage is completely different, and you also need to consider the family situation and personal contacts, these are all problems to face.

The cost of falling in love and breaking up in marriage is also different, falling in love without success is at most a breakup, and two people no longer communicate with each other, but if you get married, divorce is not so simple, sometimes you can't break it if you want to, and it's messy.

There are also good things about falling in love and getting married, that is, after getting married, the mentality is more mature, and people are more responsible, unlike falling in love, which can be irresponsible at will, especially after having children, it will make life better and the relationship more stable.

For 1,000 people, there are 1,000 kinds of Hamlet. Don't care what others think, some people may be hurt by love. So I don't dare to get involved in love easily, but a lot of love is beautiful and happy.

Don't be because of someone else's. Experience and affect your future life. When we were young, we all learned how to cross the river with a pony.

So whether the water is deep or shallow needs to be found out by wading through the river yourself.