What would you do if you lived in a family without love

I can't stand it, but you are now living in this family, you can only be silent and endure when you are not yet able to go out with your mother by yourself, and now start to set your own goals, know how to leave yourself and your mother from this home that makes you live a very hard life, and then use your success to tell you that you don't want to stay in the home, they used to treat you so much, and now you have succeeded, spurning them is the consequences of their own mistakes!

A child with the same fate as me, but I lived with my father, I suffered for 18 years, and became independent after the age of 18, I am now married and have my own home, in fact, it is estimated that your mother and my father are in the same mood, abandoned by their lover, the mood will definitely not be good, and the temperament will change greatly, no matter what you think, I suggest you, like me, be independent on your own, don't rely on the family, so that your mother will not say anything anymore. After all, you still have to have a home of your own. At least that's what I am.

At the age of 18, I started to find a job and go to work, so I rented a house by myself, and went back to have dinner on the weekend, just look at it, the road is my own, don't think about the previous things, after all, it's my mother, don't hate your family, care about your family, after all, they gave you life. Remember, the road is to go out on your own, walk strong, and keep a good attitude.

Stand!!! One boat, one heart with my mother! Keep your distance from others! I hope that one day I will leave this "family" as soon as possible!

Friend, living in such an environment for 20 years, I believe that you are stronger than others, at this time your mother is your only relative, there must be a reason for her complaints of violence, you must understand why your mother is like this, and then prescribe the right medicine, so that you can solve the problem. I hope you find the right way to enjoy the warmth and strength of home with your mother as soon as possible.

Every family has a difficult scripture, 20 read the experience, this feeling only you know, things have happened, or need to be resolved, ordinary adjustment I think is useless, otherwise it will not persist for 20 years, better to come up with the law, the best adjustment that can be adjusted, endure domestic violence every day, or get out of the sea of suffering,

Although I can't stand it, as long as my mother is unwilling to leave that family, I won't leave lightly, I will wait for my own ability to support my mother before leaving, after all, your mother came out to take you very hard? >

...Born in Sorrow, Died in Peace" from "Mencius" (Warring States) Therefore, the heavens will descend on people, and they must first suffer their minds, strain their muscles and bones, starve their bodies and skins, empty their bodies, and act chaotically, so they are tempted to endure and benefit what they cannot. People are permanent, and then they can change; Trapped in the heart, balanced in the worry, and then done; Signified in color, issued in sound, and then metaphor.

If you enter, you will not be able to go home, and if you go out, you will be invincible to foreign patients, and the country will die. Then he was born in sorrow and died in peace. How can you see a rainbow without wind and rain.

There are ninety-nine eighty-one difficulties in Journey to the West, and life is the same, one less difficulty will not achieve a positive result Overcome the difficulties, and the life behind will definitely be colorful

If this is the case, then we need to be stronger, for the sake of our mother, for tomorrow Unfortunate life experience, it is easier to exercise our tenacity Today's misfortune is temporary As long as we establish the self-confidence and strength we should have, I believe that everything can be changed Come on my friend.

You haven't tasted enough of 20 years of pressure, have you? And your mother walked out of this without love. There is no such thing as a warm home.

In fact, children who grow up in a family without love grow up in no more than two situations, one is deeply influenced by the original family, struggling in the mud pool, full of hostility to the outside world, extremely inferior and self-conscious, like violence, etc., the other is to break the influence of the original family and become a better and more positive person.

What kind of person you want your child to become, you naturally want to be what kind of person you want to be, which is like the centripetal force of a family. You always want your child to be good in character and learning, but you are a person who is full of swearing, can your child still have good character?

As a child, the object of their learning is first and foremost their parents, they are like an absorption plate, sucking in all the strengths and weaknesses of their parents, and then spitting them out. Inevitably, the appearance of children is the appearance of parents, and the appearance of children you see is actually a reaction to yourself!

The lack of love in the family has a huge impact on the growth of children, children will feel inferior and not affirmed, and their parents' indifference to them will make him give up on himself, and he will follow the example of his parents and not care about himself. Or the child will continue to work hard, just to find the affirmation and encouragement of his parents, but the inferiority complex in his heart will accompany him for a lifetime.

Children will grow up one day, and there will be a family that will educate their own children, so the family style of a family will continue to be passed on. It's just that how do you want your children and grandchildren to behave with their own size?

You may think that you are an ordinary person, but in this life you are playing different roles, and the importance of each role is indispensable. So please play your part and build a loving and inclusive family, whether it is a son marrying a daughter-in-law or a daughter marrying someone in the future, it will start a new life with the atmosphere you have created.

I'd rather work overtime and die of exhaustion than go home.

Since I was a child, I lived in a very tense family, my mother and grandfather had no eyes, my mother had been married for 28 years, I was 27 years old, and we hardly got together for the New Year.

And the New Year or any festival is a nightmare for me, in the current words I am a left-behind child, living with my grandparents, grandpa heart disease and high blood pressure is inconvenient to move, so the work at home is done by grandma, every holiday to help grandma work, grandma is not good in private temper often gritted her teeth and scolded, grandma to my grandfather and my aunts have a very big opinion, childhood life grandma in grandma's hatred of them.

When my grandfather passed away in the first year of junior high school, my grandmother and I lived with my parents and sisters, my father was a foolish man who listened to my grandmother's words, and the nightmare escalated since living together, and the atmosphere at home was very depressing. Why did my mom go out to play cards after dinner? Eyes at my dad every day?

After five years like this, my grandmother finally returned to her hometown with resentment and hatred, the family's store was closed, my parents began to work, the family began to be poor, and my mother was also sick: erythema and good sores, since I graduated the salary card was handed over to my mother to work for five years and saved more than 100,000 yuan, my mother was sick and out of 30,000 yuan, and it is still like this, leaving 1,000 yuan a month for myself and the rest for the family.

My mother has a very bad temper because of her illness, and her heart is also very sensitive, and she seems to have become self-centered, perhaps becoming insecure. I often work overtime until the early hours of the morning, come back to work in the morning, and clean at home on weekends, wash the family's clothes and cook.

I'm really tired, physically and mentally tired, I brought my boyfriend back, my mother didn't wash her face or comb her hair, and wore a big cotton jacket with broken flowers, and the big cotton pants on the cloth were spread on the sofa with her face drooping, and the first meeting was so embarrassing that it passed, and I was a little helpless and had a lot of powerlessness.

I really envy the harmonious family, the gentle mother and the independent and responsible father, I hope everyone will be treated gently by time and be happy for a lifetime.

A family life without love will make people doubt life, have no confidence in the future, and live in a muddy life, without energy.

If you don't have a loving family life since you were a child, it's easy to lack love when you grow up, you have low self-esteem in life, you're easy to be satisfied, and once you meet someone who is good to you, you'll get carried away.

I feel that I don't know what love is, I don't know how to express my feelings, all my joys, sorrows and sorrows are hidden in my heart, and I don't want to express it.

Living in a family without love, deep down is undoubtedly painful, and you will even wonder if you are the biological child of your parents.

It is a very depressing feeling, home is originally a warm haven, but without love, it is just a place to rest, and the atmosphere is cold.

I have never felt what family affection is, and I have never been taken care of by my relatives, I have lacked love since I was a child, I lack a sense of security in my heart, and I am also very sensitive.

I always wonder if I am my biological child, and I always fantasize about whether my biological parents are in a foreign country? I only looked forward to growing up quickly and escaped.

Parents are not like parents, relatives are not relatives, and they are an outsider living in someone else's house, without the warmth of home, only daily greetings between strangers.

Living in a family without love, you may not love in this life, and you may not get the love you want in your life, and you will live in the thirst of childhood all your life, and there will always be a fragile and sad child living in your heart.

When I was a child, every Spring Festival, I could always hear the sound of crackling and smashing things next door. You don't have to think about this picture to know that there is another quarrel next door. The uncle next door is the kind of typical lazy eater, who only knows how to get drunk and beat his wife every day.

When I was a child, the most distressing thing was their son, we all called him Brother Long. When encountering things, I like to look at problems from a one-sided point of view, black is black, white is white, and when I encounter a little thing, I will blow up.

I remember that in high school, it was the beginning of love. Brother Long caught the last train of early love, and all kinds of love letters and snacks sent warmth and finally hugged the beauty. But after a while, he always said that he broke up in various ways, and his girlfriend changed five or six in high school.

At work, a girl finally died in love, and the final outcome was to break up.

During the Chinese New Year, we get together to chat. I asked Brother Long why girls are so good, but you don't cherish them? Brother Long said something that impressed me deeply:

Do you know? I really like every girl. But when I think about marriage, I feel a deep sense of rejection and powerlessness.

Any relationship is not long-lasting, I am insecure, what can I rely on her? ”

Although it is a typical scumbag quote, such a reason can be traced in Brother Long's growth process.

The failed marriage of his parents and the loveless family environment have caused him to have such a loveless character. He needs to prove that he is loved by constantly changing girlfriends. The loss of inner security made him no longer able to believe in himself and in others.

Even if there is a small conflict with a friend, then this friendship is dead.

Brother Long's personality is the same as most people who lose their sense of security, and the harm of their original family may not be able to get out of it for the rest of their lives. They wrap themselves in sturdy armor, and the blades that hurt others are razor-sharp. If there is no opportunity for change, this tragedy can only continue in an infinite cycle.

Conversely, what would it be like to grow up in a loving family? Such children tend to be more friendly, strong, and optimistic. The first step in encountering a problem is to reflect on your own way of doing things, rather than condemning yourself.

The ability to be happy is an amazing skill.

They will feel that they have no meaning to exist, or that they may have been picked up by their parents, and in the long run, people tend to become irritable and even take revenge on society.

I don't know what it's like to love and be loved, I always feel that no one will notice even if I suddenly disappear, I don't know how to express my emotions, and I don't know how to vent my emotions.

Maybe it's because the people in the family don't like to express their true thoughts very much, they always suppress themselves, it seems that everyone is not interested in anything, there is little communication between family members, and what they say to each other for a few months is not as good as what they say with friends at school.

But, Mom, don't you think that you also have a certain responsibility for the reason why we children are like this, if you discipline us well when we were young, we will not be better off today.

Instead of being like today, as soon as they got home, everyone went back to their rooms and played with their phones. Living different lives in the same space, unless it's time to eat, they will gather together, and in ordinary times, even if they sit together, they will feel extremely embarrassed and embarrassed? A lot of times I feel sad about what kind of life I'm living.

When I was living on campus in high school, there was a holiday every weekend, and there were several times when I didn't go back, telling my family that I didn't want to run around and waste the bus fare, so I might as well stay in school and wait until next weekend to go back.

But I know ... I can't say ... I have suppressed a lot, and many of the unspoken things I want to say have now become unspeakable, unspeakable, whether it is happiness or pain, just hide it yourself, and no one will care what you really think.

I hope that you can also live in a family without love and meet your happiness sooner.