What do you think of confessing to his ex?

First of all you confessed to his ex-girlfriend, which I appreciated. This shows that you are a kind girl in your bones, and as for knowing that he has a girlfriend at the beginning, but still falling in love with him, it is not possible to comment on him with right and wrong. It can only be said that you are still young, and he is not mature.

In the end, you have come to the situation you are in, it is a small chapter in your growth, don't magnify it, it will increase your psychological burden. That girl can curse him or you like this, it also shows that she is not a rational woman, even if she goes abroad, she is more naïve and empty in her heart, and I don't know if she can get what she needs. This boy is willing to give her up for you now, and she should also understand that this boy can't be wanted.

And you also advise you to see your future as soon as possible, whether it is difficult to choose, to take your current age and circumstances as the line. If you're in your early 20s, I can tell you that sooner or later you'll find another boyfriend, or even more than one. It's not that you have a lot of heart, but everyone has to go through a fate destined in a previous life, deep and shallow aside, at least you should weigh it well, whether such a boy is so good that it is worth your grasp.

Let's go. Also, you're a third party, I'm not hurting you, I'm not meaning that...

Girls tend to be selfish in their relationships. Weigh them up.

Maybe you'll find someone better than him in the future, and it's only a matter of time.

You will be like the woman who will be dumped by the man.

Tell it. The ex is of course angry.

Stuffy.. It's like my ex-girlfriend...

I think, you, play when you start playing, don't forget if you can't afford to play, what age is ink jj going to die or live Sleep is over.

...I know you're very bitter in your heart, I think, it's the man's fault at all, since he has a girlfriend and still chases you, it's really a heart, in fact, a man loves a woman, he should be single-minded, like him, day and night, be careful that he also dumped you. Besides, since you know what is going on, you shouldn't agree to him.

Love is something that you can afford to let go, maybe after he broke up with his girlfriend, it's better to have a better relationship, people are selfish, not all of you are like this, not to mention who will tolerate betrayal in the face of love! Your boyfriend is more eager for the love you give him than you, and if you don't want to hurt him, you can only hurt that woman, but since everything is at this point, let's live with your boyfriend well! It's only a matter of time before that girl breaks up with your boyfriend abroad!

He shouldn't blame you, but he might be unhappy, after all, he loved her, and loved her.

I think the man has a lot of responsibility in this matter, since he has a girlfriend, why do he want to chase you, since he is with you, he should handle their relationship clearly. I think it's better to tell him, since you're mentally prepared, it will happen sooner or later, and if that man blames you, then I really have to suspect this man's character!

Really measure your feelings, and if you are sure of your feelings, he is also single-minded about you. That's not too hard. Find her ex-girlfriend and talk to her, tell her that you are in love, that some things are providential, that you bless her, and then start your life.

The previous things can never be said clearly, just a waste of everyone's time, do something meaningless, cut through the mess quickly, and end it early, of course, either he chooses you, or you give up, think it through yourself, and bless you

In the process of falling in love, as we get to know each other better, we will be curious about each other's past, and even secretly compare ourselves and our ex, which one is heavier in the hearts of lovers.

Presumably, the other party will feel the same way. Think about it from another perspective, when talking about this topic, should we confess our past love history to our lovers?

Whether you confess or not depends on the choice.

Point 1: Only by knowing each other honestly can we love each other better.

Xiaoyu: You should be frank, the important thing in love is to be honest. My girlfriend and I don't shy away from talking about our exes.

Because the most feared thing in the relationship is suspicion, instead of letting the other party guess, it is better to confess directly and give the other party enough trust and peace of mind. is like Chen Ming said in "Wonderful Story": "Maybe the beauty in love words is illusory, but the truth can stay together for a lifetime." ”

Viewpoint 2: Being too honest is not beautiful.

Dusk Ancient Seven: It's better not to confess, after all, the past has passed, and the important thing is the present of you and TA. What's more, even if you confess, the other party may not appreciate it.

You said it in detail, and the other party thought that you were in love with your ex, and even remembered the details clearly; You are vague, the other party may think that you have not crossed the hurdle of your ex, is there still reluctance to your ex?

Shallow water: Love that is too frank is dangerous. Many girls tend to maintain absolute honesty in love, and at the same time, they also use such standards to ask their partners to get to the bottom of the past, which can only make both parties miserable and exacerbate the outbreak of conflicts.

Therefore, Qiqi feels that as long as your ultimate goal is not to hurt each other, but also to make this love develop healthier and longer, then no matter which choice you make, it is okay.

The timing and skill of the confession are important.

If you can't avoid talking about the topic of past love history, Qiqi recommends that you pay attention to a few details:

1. Understand the other person's thoughts first.

If the other party always mentions it, it means that they care a lot about your past story, and it is not worth it to think about whether you have given the other party enough security, perhaps the important thing is not your past relationship experience, but how you express your care for him with your heart.

Especially for girls, what they often want is not the truth, but the attitude behind it.

If the other party doesn't ask, then there is no need to mention it. There is no need to entangle some irrelevant issues, so that a person who gradually fades out of life will affect the feelings that are difficult to manage at the moment.

2. It's okay to confess that you have a few love histories, but you don't need to say more details.

For example, what surprises have you prepared for your ex, where have you left memories, whether you have sexual experiences and other relatively private memories. Not only is there no need to say, but there is no need to ask the other party, not to get to the bottom of it, and not to involve the other party's scars, in fact, it is a kind of respect and understanding

3. When it comes to key issues, it needs to be explained clearly.

The so-called focus is the problem that the development of the relationship in the future cannot be bypassed, and the problem of worrying about which day it will be exposed in the future, and these problems will obviously become a relationship.

Hello, I think it is necessary to confess.

First of all, a romantic relationship is a very intimate two-room relationship. And the basis of any "intimacy" is to treat each other with sincerity. "Sincerity" is a matter of attitude.

Everything you've experienced before has made you who you are now. Lovers love you as a person, and of course they have the right to know what happened to you before. I think that out of respect for the other party, it is really necessary to briefly inform yourself of the basic situation, including the emotional experience, before establishing the department.

If you want to say it, then to what extent? Try to be concise and not detailed.

At the same time, it is advisable to control your emotions and ensure that the other party is not disgusted. Having said that, pretending to be a very honest person is a very honest person, which is a plus. But don't overdescribe the details of your previous relationship.

For example: how good my ex-boyfriend was to me, he bought milk tea and waited for me at the school gate every day. Etcetera.

It seems to you that you are reminiscing about the sweetness of the past; The incumbent sounds, piercing to death, and the fire of jealousy is burning. Maybe, you will be suspected of "unforgettable old love" and "broken threads". Since he was so good to you, why did you break up?

Therefore, it is good to be bland, not to describe specific details, and not to show any emotion. Whether it's nostalgia or resentment, it will make the other person feel that you haven't stepped out of the past. Doing so will only affect your current relationship.

Hope mine is helpful to you.

Let's not talk about it yet. If the other person is trustworthy in the relationship, he will be tolerant of your past. If the other person is narrow-minded, it will become your pigtail.

1. Confession means having faith in the relationship.

Imagine if you are insecure with each other in a relationship, and you always suffer from gains and losses, then I think both parties must lack honesty. I am afraid to tell the other party about my love history, and I am afraid that the other party will be prejudiced against me because of this. In fact, this is not only a sign of insecurity, but also a constraint on oneself.

Because you can't let go of the past, it's hard to invest in a new relationship, so that the other party can't feel your love.

Therefore, only if you feel confident in your current relationship, you will be honest about sharing everything about your past with the other person. I believe that this will only lead to a better understanding of each other, and will not lead to the breakdown of a relationship.

2. Confessing means that you have let go of the past.

I believe that the most taboo thing in a relationship is that the other party can't let go of the past, so that in the current relationship, it has been difficult to invest. Life examples tell us that there are many men and women who break up because they stay in touch with their ex, or even remain friends, which makes it difficult for a new relationship to last long.

In fact, most of the reasons for this ending are when we start a new relationship, we don't clarify the relationship with our ex and talk about our relationship with each other, and talk about our love history. When the other person suddenly knows that you are in contact with your ex, it is sure to have emotional swings, because the presence of any unknown third party can be an obstacle to a relationship.

If you can't let go of the past, it will definitely hurt the current one, and if you can let go completely, then you should calm down and have a good talk with the current one and confess your love history, which will undoubtedly be a way to bring your relationship closer to each other, rather than hindering it.

Man is a paradoxical organism, on the one hand, entangled in the past efforts, and on the other hand, looking forward to future happiness, always thinking of both. But in reality, this is unrealistic. Our obsession with the past, but unwilling to pay for their own no return, perhaps we are nostalgic for the past lovers, the people we love have always been themselves.

Maybe it's our freedom to confess our love history to our lovers, but have you ever thought that there are fairness and unfairness in a new love? Hiding a love history is equivalent to hiding a part of your experience, which makes the other party lack a part of your understanding, and it is difficult for the other party to see your truth.

I think this has to be confessed, if you don't want your current current to become your ex again, then you should never hide from your current that your ex contacted you！Almost everyone has an ex. Some exes leave scars, some have good memories, and some are thoughts, but in fact, what kind of existence and influence your ex has on you depends entirely on how you look at it.

Some people think that love is to confess everything, and some people think that love is to not blame the past. But to be completely confessed is to bear the price of total confession, and to avoid talking is to bear the price of avoiding it, because there is a price to be paid anyway.

In my opinion, your current has the right to ask you about your love history, not to mention that your ex is still coming to youIf you don't mention the current one, you will feel that you are hiding a lot of secrets, and the two of them have taboos on the topic, and they never mention the past love story to each other. While we all know that everyone has a past and should be considerate and tolerant, it's easier said than done. Many people choose to keep silent about their ex and past at first, but suddenly one day their current person learns about their past from the mouth of others, and the result will be even more unbearable

Of course, if you want to be honest with your partner, then you must pay attention to the meaning of honesty, which means that you have to be honest with every relationship, but you don't necessarily have to be honest with each other, and you have to confess everything. Honesty refers to being sincere in love, not to distort the facts, not to deceive, not to deliberately conceal, not to pretend to cover up, to be frank and honest, to love genuinely.

In fact, when a relationship ends, we don't need to remember too much, after all, the past is irretrievableIf we dwell too much on each other's past, let possessiveness and control entangle our words, whether we say or not, say more or less, may lead to each other being hurt, but if we can tolerate each other, know how to get along, how to communicate, the above problems are no longer a problem.

The incumbent should be told frankly that as long as so many interactions are sunny. Because after all, the current incumbent cares more about these, so you must tell the incumbent frankly and get the understanding and trust of the incumbent, otherwise there will be misunderstandings and affect the normal work and life now.