Is it really good to suffer a loss? Is it really a blessing to suffer?

Through your description, I feel that you are a generous person, but what I want to say is that being kind to others is certainly a virtue and is conducive to the harmony of the environment, but the word "forbearance" should also be limited, and it is not tolerable in principle, otherwise it will be reduced to **.

One more point. I don't know which category you fall into.

Maybe some people feel that it is okay to suffer some losses, although they are sometimes not very happy, but they can exchange for everyone's harmony. But the question is whether this harmony is worth it. After all, not everyone will be kind to others, and there will always be some people who are more and more excessive.

Some people say that people who know how to endure are of high quality, but I don't know if you have found that the people who are often described in this way are people who can stand at a certain height, if you are tolerating people who are "higher" than you, then your behavior is not quality but a nest, so people have to stand at a certain height!

In the end, people's forbearance is indeed a virtue, but sometimes it is necessary to vent when it is time to vent, just like the song sings "shoot when you should act"!

Actually, we're quite alike. I don't like to mess with others. It can't be said that it's not good to suffer a loss, and if you suffer a loss, you have to remember it once and learn a lesson from it.

No matter what others say about you, those people are people who can't tolerate their own losses, and they calculate every day whether they are so tired of suffering losses, and the best way is to laugh and reduce the burden on themselves. But this does not mean that you are bullied, you have to look at the situation, look at what is going on, if you are really bullied by others, you can't laugh it off, that is cowardice. In short, it's good to be happy and relaxed.,Don't care what others say.,After all, they're not you.,Can't represent you.,Are you right?。。 Huh

No, in life, there are many places to suffer, but not to have a good relationship, you must suffer, the kind of person who gets benefits from you in order to make you suffer is not a good person, then there is no need to suffer losses and please.

Don't let people who love take advantage of you and hurt you again and again.

In the current said that the people who can endure it are better than the people who can't bear it, my friends around me have changed n jobs because they can't talk about the various bullying of the unit, and if you want to develop, you have to work for a long time in a place, and the people promoted by the unit are people who have to be experienced, and if you want to be long in a place, you have to rely on a word "forbearance", come on.

No, you just have to do what you want to do in your heart, and feel that it is right, what others say is her business, so there are fewer and fewer good people in the world, just because too many of them have been defeated by the world.

Don't care what people say, do it as long as you're right.

go！go！

There are good and bad losses, and I think honest people will reduce a lot of trouble. It's nothing, keep being a good person. Good people have good rewards, hehe.

In fact, it doesn't matter if it's for a little thing, but what kind of thing or person do you want to divide If a person is always scheming with you, it's a bit of a taste of finding fault In short, I feel that your popularity should be very good.

Remember, in modern society, you should cherish your friends when you meet them, cherish them when you meet them, learn to be calm when you meet enemies, learn to be grateful when you meet good people, and be flexible when you meet people you shouldn't meet.

Being kind to others is not the same as cowardice, and it is still necessary to "calculate" when it is important.

It also depends on why things matter, and small things just don't have to be compared to care.

If you have the ability, you should try to help the weak. Don't be inferior to others and add to the chaos.

It doesn't matter if it's a small thing, you have to take a stand when it's a big thing.

It's okay to suffer a loss, but it's not okay to lose a kidney!

Suffering a loss is not necessarily a blessing, but it is possible that he said so with the old man.

In fact, it doesn't mean that he doesn't care, it's how big his heart is, how big his ability is, his heart is big, his ability is big, his heart is small, and his ability is small. It's not that he doesn't mind suffering, it's that he doesn't bother to mind about him. These things, whether others take advantage of his interests, or steal his limelight, or let him carry the black pot.

He didn't think it was important, because he had more important things to do, and he didn't take these little things to heart.

If you are thick-skinned enough, you will find that there are always strange people and things around him。I thought that forbearance was calm for a while, and I took a step back to open the sea and the sky, but you will find that it became forbearance for a while. Take a step back and take an inch, and you will find that most of the forbearance is exchanged for the other party's unscrupulousness.

Those who are willing to suffer losses will not be able to suffer losses after all, and if they suffer too many losses, there will always be a good reward, and those who love to take advantage will definitely not be able to take advantage. In real life, there are always some people who are afraid of losing money, as long as there is a little advantage, they will take advantage of it. Just imagine, if in a relationship, one party keeps paying, and the other party has to take advantage of every inch, can such a relationship last?

The answer is self-evident.

It is a kind of value thinking, it is a trade-off, I am suffering now for the long-term interests of the future, and I can suffer a small loss for this benefit, so he has a bottom line. My interests are here, if it doesn't involve the bottom line, it's easy to say anything, but if it touches the bottom line, it definitely won't work.

But some people, suffering too much, they have no bottom line, and they have even become a habit. This is called the good old man. Then someone will definitely bully you.

Those who take advantage of everything will suffer in the end, but those who suffer losses often take advantage in the end. When you are with him, you let people take advantage of it, everyone will not be wary of you, it is good, they must think of you, you are taking advantage. You were very good at the beginning, everyone was afraid of you, and then you were alone.

The closer they get, the more they leave you behind. Therefore, people must remember that they cannot be shrewd, and they must not be shrewd.

The real loss is a blessing, it is that you can accept this loss, and eliminate the old karma with the fate, and you can only fully accept this glimpse from the heart to bring wisdom, and the troubles are Bodhi. When the essence is presented, it is the light of conscience, the flowers of all laws, and the good life is bliss.

I think soThere is a saying that "if you can't bear it, you will make a big plan", sometimes you can get more precious things by suffering a small loss, and suffering losses also makes people grow.

One. If you can't bear it, you will make a big plan

Sometimes in the face of a big game of chess, it doesn't matter if you lose one step or two steps, as long as the final result is to win, simply put, it is to focus on the overall situation, make a comprehensive decision, and win the final victory。For example, if the leader gives you a big project, you and your team work day and night for the project, but you still encounter difficulties, and when you are thinking about how to solve it, your competitors come to ridicule your ability to do so, I am afraid that you can't get such a big project, and you don't know what you have done behind the scenes to get this project, what should you do at this time? Furious and at war with each other for your so-called dignity?

Or do you ignore it and continue to focus on solving the problem? My choice is the latter,If you jump up and start a war with the other party, it will not only make people think that you are irritable, but also give the other party a grip, which is very detrimental to the whole big project. To know,Your ultimate goal is to get the project done well, instead of recovering your so-called dignity from the other party's mouth, others are scheming to slander you, you should not use your mouth to speak, but to use your strength to block their mouths.

Two. Eat a trench, grow a wisdom

Suffering losses is a must in life, sometimes suffering losses are caused by their own negligence or being young and ignorant, at this time there is no need to feel sorry for ourselves, because after suffering hardships, we will have unforgettable memories, and we will not make the same mistakes again in the future. The losses suffered by our own negligence let us learn to be careful, learn to think comprehensively and prudently; The disadvantages of being young and ignorant make us mature and grow mentally, and understand what a mature person needs. For example, because of their own negligence, the hard work of the whole team was in vain, at this time, in addition to self-blame, accept the negative energy of the team members, but also deeply learn a lesson, and will not do it again in the future.

When I was young, I confronted my elders, ran away from home, encountered difficulties on the way to work, and finally ran home in disgrace, in addition to feeling sorry for myself, I also branded my heart, and I grew up in the future, and I would not do the same stupid thing again.

Three. Summary

There is a certain truth in the sentence "Suffering a loss is a blessing", eating a small loss to get a big blessing, eating a trench to grow a wisdom,It is the losses that make us grow and mature, and become a cautious and thoughtful person.

<>We often hear others say that suffering is a blessing, and I never think that this sentence is circulated for the purpose of deceiving people, on the contrary, I very much agree with the saying that suffering a loss is a blessing. Suffering losses is not only a life strategy, but also a kind of life wisdom.

Suffering is the true meaning of blessing

We can always learn more from the losses we have suffered, so as to achieve the effect of prevention. As the old saying goes, "if you eat a trench, you will grow a wisdom", which reflects that we are not without benefits, or that suffering losses are not all bad, on the contrary, if we make reasonable use of the "wisdom" we get in our lives, it will be of greater help to improve ourselves. Another example is "failure is the mother of success", failure is not a kind of "loss", after we have paid time, energy or money but do not get the expected return, but the tribulation brings us not only the tribulation itself, which contains the truth of success, and we have made sufficient preparations in advance for better in the future.

Success is not achieved overnight, life is not smooth sailing, people are floating in the rivers and lakes, where can not be knifed, where can not suffer, but more importantly, what we see and feel from it is really precious, is the loss of the precious wealth.

Suffering losses is not blind

We can't blindly suffer losses, we should shoot when we should shoot, it doesn't matter if we suffer losses, but if the other party has to make an inch or let us suffer a loss in vain, this cannot be said to be a loss, the nature of things has changed, broad-mindedness can not be regarded as the other party's presumptuous capital, this kind of blessing can not stand it, then we have to start to fight back, after all, for this kind of "loss" The final result is not in silence The method is to perish in silence, why do we definitely have to break out. It is necessary to know how to reasonably distinguish between the kind of loss and the kind of "loss" that is completely unreasonable, and stop this kind of meaningless loss in a timely manner, which cannot be called a loss.

Refuse to suffer blindly.

In life, we will encounter all kinds of problems, we might as well suffer losses, take a step back, maybe see the scenery is more beautiful, we get more, but also make our mood more beautiful, but if we encounter unreasonable losses, we must shoot when we should shoot, and we must not accept the unclear "loss".

Resist unwarranted losses.

Finally, I hope you all have a happy life.

The ancients often said that "suffering is a blessing", but in our reality, people who are willing to suffer losses and be fooled are often considered stupid. Now everyone generally thinks that it is shrewd to be able to get cheap, to get something for nothing, and to make money, which is a blessing. At the end of today, I will talk about the topic of "suffering losses are blessings", and it is estimated that I will risk the condemnation of the world and be scolded by many people, but the reason for scolding is still to be scolded.

Many people eat public meals, can get a little cheap from the unit, take something to the house, use the public car to do private affairs, or use the convenience of the public to find some benefits for themselves, such people, everyone is often very envious, feel that people have the ability and ability. There is also a kind of person who is particularly shrewd, can speak well, speaks eloquently, and is good at deceiving other vertical wheel people, and has made a fortune for a while and has become a "gong", and everyone is also very envious, thinking that this is also a capable person.

There is another kind of person, that is, loyal and honest, sincere and realistic, he believes what others say, he is often deceived, and he is often deceived, and he is often deceived.

This may be the current mainstream values and outlook on life, and being able to seek benefits for oneself by unscrupulous means is the pursuit of life, and it is considered shameful and shameful to be fooled. So why did the ancients still say that suffering is a blessing? Are they all stupider than us moderns?

No, it's our modern people who are confused and upside down.

The ancients said that "being clever is mistaken by being smart", and in ancient times, to say that a person is very shrewd, that is not a word of praise. Imagine if a person is very shrewd, calculates others everywhere, and is bent on taking advantage of himself and making people unguardable, are you willing to be friends with such a person and deal with it? I'm sure you won't!

Since you won't, others won't, so even if a shrewd person takes advantage of it for a while and makes some benefits, but after a long time, people will recognize his true face, and they will avoid it, and this kind of person's popularity will get worse and worse, there will be fewer and fewer opportunities, and the road of life will become narrower and narrower, so what is there to envy such a person?

So why is it said that suffering is a blessing? Who are the people who are willing to suffer? Generally honest people!

Loyal and honest, honest and reliable, easy to believe in others, it is easy to suffer, he does not plan for his own interests, always for the sake of others, such people, not only ** like, who of us does not like it? Therefore, although this kind of person often suffers losses on the surface, his popularity will get better and better, and there will be more and more people who like to associate with him, and there will be more and more opportunities in life, and his blessings and luck will be better and better in the future, so the person who can suffer is really blessed.