When do you feel most powerless?

The time when I feel powerless the most is when a loved one falls ill and I have no money or ability, and everyone who has experienced it knows how desperate it is. I am a rural person, is a real poor middle peasant, when I was a child, my father was in a car accident, and the life of the family was even worse, because the conditions were not good, although the study has been good, but I didn't read much to come out to work. At that time, the development of the Internet entered the era of rapid development, and I, like many post-90s and post-80s, was addicted to online games.

Until one day, my mother was unwell and went to the hospital for examination, and found out that she had a serious heart attack, and she had to undergo heart surgery immediately, but the operation cost alone was more than 100,000 yuan, and the follow-up costs were countless. With my conditions at the time, let alone more than 100,000 yuan, I couldn't take out a few thousand yuan, so I had to beg people everywhere to borrow money. It's really a response:

Poor in the downtown no one asks", even if he knelt on the ground like a dog, he couldn't kneel for a few dollars, and he was abused and driven away by his usually good relatives and relatives. Really, don't try people's hearts, no matter how good your relatives are, you borrow money to try? At that time, I really felt useless, hopeless and powerless, why didn't I work hard to make money, why did I indulge in games?

If you are willing to work hard to learn some skills, you will not be able to make money desperately. In desperation, I thought about selling the property in my hometown but no one took over, and there was not so much crowdfunding at that time, so it dragged on for a few months, and my mother died of illness. Until now, every time I think of her painful expression when she was sick, and the line of tears in front of her eyes, I blame myself in my heart except for self-blame.

If you are still young, please don't waste any time and opportunities, and work hard to make money.

Whenever I encounter difficulties or feel very depressed, I will think that no matter what I have lost, I still have my family by my side, as long as they are healthy and healthy, everything else is not important. Yes, the green mountains left are not afraid of no firewood, as long as people are still healthy and healthy, everything is not difficult, and it is not a problem. So, what if a family member is sick and doesn't get medical treatment?

This is the most helpless and helpless moment. I clearly remember when my father was diagnosed with terminal cancer, I felt that the sky of the whole person suddenly darkened, from the hospital on the way to the diagnosis, I saw the vehicles shuttling around me, one after another traffic lights, I felt that I encountered a red light and stopped at a green light, if I drove like this forever, I didn't have to go home, I didn't have to face the inquiries and worries of my family. When you find out that your family member is sick and still has an incurable disease, you will find that everything in life is meaningless, because in the face of a terminal illness, everything is futile and helpless.

I used to fantasize that this could be done, and when I saw that my father was getting better and eating more, I excitedly went to the doctor's office to ask the doctor, is cancer okay? The doctor just smiled. I heard that boiling walnut skin and soaking eggs can be **, so I asked my aunt in the northeast to send walnut skin, watching my father's painful swallowing is really unbearable, but there is still a lot of hope in my heart, I hope to extend my father's life as much as possible.

When you have tried all the methods and found that they are ultimately in vain, you are the most helpless.

When you are sick. Because when you are sick, you are most vulnerable and need the company of your parents and loved ones. And when you're sick, you can't do whatever you want, even if you want to, your body doesn't allow it, so don't be sick if you have anything, and don't die if you don't have anything.

So I feel that I have experienced the pain and suffering of my life, and I admire the person who has cancer, who has no chemotherapy and no drugs. Their willpower is really strong, they can even face life and death so calmly, what difficulties can stump them in the future, they are already great.

That year, my parents in their eighties were hospitalized due to illness, five brothers and sisters, the eldest brother and sister retired but did not want to go to the hospital to take care of them, the younger brother was out of town and could not come back often, and the second sister did not want to stay in the hospital under the pretext of not sleeping well in another place, and all the responsibility fell on me. I rushed to the hospital after work every day, came out of the hospital at 11 or 2 o'clock in the evening, and got up at 5 o'clock in the morning to rush to the hospital. Not only that, but the eldest brother and sister saw that I tried my best to take care of my parents in order to get my father's property, and suspected that my parents gave me money, so they went to the hospital and injured me.

Newspaper 110, because of internal conflicts in the family, is just an understatement. I have been divorced for many years, I have no man or son, and only one daughter is going to college in another place. At that moment, I felt so helpless, I thought, if I had a husband, or if I had a son, they wouldn't dare to be so rampant.

Even the eldest brother and sister went to the intensive care unit to persecute the critically ill father, the father was very pitiful, and in order to protect my father, I could only say: I just got married, I will not let them go! Listening devices have been installed in the hospital to detect whether they are at the hospital at any time.

But in the end, my father left because he was angry. During that time, I felt very powerless and helpless.

Everyone has to go through a lot of ups and downs and tribulations in their lives, and not every time there is a way to solve it, especially death, I have an uncle, the army was demobilized to serve at the deputy county level, the person is very good, the personality is bold, friends must drink enough, on January 10 last year, the family is not around, the daughter went to Beijing, the aunt accompanied the study, that day others beat him ** he didn't answer, didn't care, the next day there was a unit looking for him to sign and couldn't find anyone, the driver contacted me downstairs, because we are usually together, The driver and I know very well, but that day he was afraid to go to his uncle's house, said that he was inexplicably afraid, so he contacted me, the two of us went to my uncle's house together, knocked on the door and no one said, the driver had the key, opened the door, I saw two feet at the bedroom door, I felt that the sky was falling, I ran in and saw my uncle lying on the ground and it was cold, when I informed my aunt at that moment, I felt helpless and helpless, my uncle was only 47 years old.

The most powerless time is now, I am unemployed, I have two children, the younger one is only two years old, and there is a bank loan, my mother suddenly got a disease that can not be maintained at this time, I have to take care of the family, but also find a way to earn money.

It was every time I passed by the door of the RT-Mart supermarket in the county seat, when the man who had lost both lower limbs was lying on the ground, begging from the world with a teacup in his hand, I really wanted and wanted to adopt him, however, in real life, I was roughly the same mood, thoughts and situation as the author Russell poured out in the article "Why I Live"! The reason why I am so sympathetic and want to help them relieve these pains is because I am deeply involved in them.

No matter what you do, whether you want to help others or do things yourself, if you exceed your own capacity, you are powerless. The strength is weak and reciprocal to each other, and the words are not persuasive.

I want to change the status quo, but I feel powerless. After floating outside for so many years, although the salary is good, there is still something missing, and there is a job and a life of one's own. This time, I finally made up my mind to leave my job and go home next year!

I think it's the most powerless to convince some stubborn people.

Some bad things happened, but I was powerless to change them, so I could only accept them silently.

It depends on the specific situation, and there is no definite answer.

Everyone's ability is limited, and when you encounter a problem that you can't do anything about, you need to find someone for help. ......When you are helpless, the first thing you think of is the person who is closest to you and can provide you with the most help. For me, this person is my lover.

The reason why I think of my lover first when I am helpless is because my lover has the closest relationship with me, my lover can provide you with the greatest help, and your lover can help you at the first time.

1. Your lover is the closest to you, so you will think of him first when you are helpless.

The reason why I think of my lover first when I am helpless is because he has the closest relationship with him. ......Specifically, the lover who laughs at himself is the closest person to him, and he has the closest relationship and deepest feelings with him. Because of this, when you are helpless, you will naturally think of him first.

2. The reason why I think of my lover first when I am helpless is because he can give him the greatest help.

Your lover is the closest to you and cares about yourself the most. Because of this, when he is helpless, he will do his best to help himself Pei Yan and give himself the greatest help, so as to get himself out of trouble. This is also the fundamental reason why I think of him first when I encounter difficulties.

3. Your lover can help you in the first time.

When you encounter difficulties and are in trouble, you will very much hope that someone can come to help you as soon as possible. And among the people who can help themselves, their lover is the one who can come to help them at the first time. ......Because of this, I think of him first in times of helplessness in difficulties, and he is the best person who can really help him.

There are always things in life that make you powerless, such as the aging of your parents, such as the unfilial piety of your children, such as the lost youth, such as ......

My sister went home to see her parents yesterday! Recently, Wuhan has been rainy and rainy, and there are plants in front of and behind the house, which is relatively humid! Dad's rheumatism and stones are sick at this time, but he still hides from us, and doesn't let Mom say that he will lie down at home if he eats something!

Listening to my sister's description, I feel ashamed, how long has it been since I carefully cared about my parents' bodies!

Dad was very hard-working when he was young, and often stayed up late to work in the water, in order to feed us and bring enough comfort and satisfaction to our lives! also because of the long hours of work in the water, I left my father with the root of rheumatism forever! Dad's body is the best weather forecast!

The weather is going to change, and Dad's rheumatism will definitely be predicted in advance!

I always thought that working hard, working hard to make money, and giving my parents the best life should be the best way to repay them! So after coming out to work, it will be very hard! The time spent with my parents is numbered!

When I saw my father, who had always been strong, lying down, I suddenly felt that all my previous efforts were pale and weak, and the cold instrument was still operating in my father's thin body! The gray hair of the sideburns has climbed up to the forehead of my father, the male god who will never be old!

I still remember when I was a child, I had things on my mind and whispers, and I liked to talk to my father the most, and my mother called it a little talk from my father! But I don't know when it started, and the communication with my dad is so simple that the call doesn't take more than three minutes to hang up! I don't know exactly when I started to be estranged, but I only know that the most beautiful memory is always ...... when I talked to my father about 100,000 whys

We have been looking forward to tomorrow and have been chasing tomorrow! In this way, the most important and beautiful things in life have been inadvertently stolen!

At this moment, I found that the most powerless thing in life is the gradual aging of my parents! Gone Yesterday! And what has already happened! So how do we keep it?

A lot of companionship, to live every day, every hour, every moment, no waste, no regrets!

Live with your heart, love with your heart, and prove it with your actions! Good! Let's do it now!

The picture that came to my mind was that I was a senior in college that year, and one day, in the hallway to my 301 dormitory, my mother called my name, and I felt very incredible, but I could almost guess why she called me.

It was a small office where you could talk through the window, and there was a small bed in it. She said Li Jutong, is it that you haven't paid your dormitory fee yet?

Before she could finish her words, tears came out of my eyes. She hurriedly said, "I'm not trying to rush you, it's because the school is urging me."

The situation in Chazhou is that I have reached my senior year, and I have not even paid the tuition fee for my junior year, the tuition fee for the outer courtyard is 3,000, the tuition fee for two years is 6,000, and the accommodation fee for my senior year is 700, these astronomical numbers often hover in my mind. Like a ticking time bomb, it can ignite at any time.

My mother's brief question that day lit my button, she didn't say anything, and my later decision was that if I was in the dormitory, I wouldn't go out if I could, and if I had classes, I wouldn't go back to the dormitory.

Whenever I passed by the window where Lou's mother was, I felt like she was staring at me and said Li Jutong, you haven't paid your fee yet. This feeling of torment, helplessness, like being fried in a frying pan, made me collapse several times.

I can't ask anyone for help, I don't have a bank card, I can't write to my parents asking for money, I know my parents can't help it, my sisters are also in school. The cost of my tutor is only enough to cover my living expenses.

I was also worried that my classmates would find out that they looked down on me and would exclude me, and I would be even more lonely. It's like falling into the bottomless pit of the dark abyss, stretching out your hand and not being able to shout out your helplessness.

At this time, the cry for help in my heart was seen, and God sent an angel to give me 7,000 yuan.

Later, after various ideological struggles and the instability of not paying the tuition, I accepted it. I paid all the tuition and dormitory fees, and there was an extra 300 yuan.

At this point, I feel like I have been liberated, and I no longer have to worry about my mother staring at me on the way to and from the dormitory.

When I quit my job at school in 2019, every time someone says that I lost my job, or who didn't have a job, it makes me highly alert and sensitive, as if I am back in that predicament.

But soon, I will be aware and bring myself out again, and a few words like a magic weapon will automatically jump out and give me strength.

For example: Jutong, you are very noble, you are very important, you are more than 10,000 gold.

Jutong, suffering is also a blessing, you have the ability to change your mind and turn them into resources.

There was also a very big shift that I started to learn to ask for help, and there were a lot of people who helped me, and it gave me a belief that at every critical moment, I was always helped, that I was loved, and that I was worth having.

Thank you Mr. Lu for your guidance in asking questions, and I found that asking questions can be very good and bring out everyone's thinking and sharing. In the future, it seems that the reading club can do this [love] [love] [love].

Let me be seen again and be healed in a safe sharing.

It is a kind of "replicable servant leadership" [rose] [rose] [rose].