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You're in the same situation as me, my boyfriend is also rural, and my parents are against it, but we have always insisted on it, and then my parents agreed, and I think first of all, my boyfriend's family is not important, he can be poor, but it would be good to be self-motivated, and the most important thing is to love me very much. I think it's for your good that his parents oppose it You think about his parents are both rural In the future, 4 old people will let you take care of them, so are you willing to help him take care of his parents, and give his parents living money every month without complaints? He is poor in the countryside, do you want not to compare with others?
For example, if your husband has the money to buy a house and a car, buy them so much jewelry and clothes, and your husband has no money to buy a house, you have to save money together to repay the loan, are you willing to join him? For example, if you marry him in the future, one of you has a personal account and you have to change. Are you willing to change the rural hukou for him?
There is a big gap between the countryside and the city, really, although I love my boyfriend, I also have deep feelings, first of all, he has a lot of relatives, and he has to promise to buy things for the children of relatives to buy things for his parents, and he also recognized his godfather and godmother. Do you think you can save money? Where will you live when you get married?
In short, you have to be mentally prepared to be with him, you have to have no vanity, even if you are laughed at by others, you can bear it. And your parents are city or judges, they may feel that they can't save face, and they may be afraid that you will suffer in the future, who doesn't want their children to find a good family? In fact, I used to think that it was enough to love each other, but now that I am growing up,,, I also know the difficulties of life in the future.
Up to now, in fact, I also think that only love is enough, as long as he loves me, including his parents who raised him without a job, I am also willing, but this depends on whether you can accept it in the future. But the living environment is different, there are many gaps, and you will understand after being together for a long time.
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Parents in rural areas generally do not have pension insurance and medical insurance, and the burden on your boyfriend will be heavier in the future.
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You are really carried away by love, do you know that now many rural people want to squeeze into the city, want to become urban people, they don't want the city people to look down on them, but they themselves look down on the rural people, look down on the poorer people than them. I don't teach you how to convince your parents, I advise you to listen to your parents obediently, after all, they eat more salt than you eat rice and have more experience than you.
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Are you married or are your parents married? When your husband becomes a billionaire, you will say that I made the right choice.
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Your parents are worried about your face, not your happiness. Your own happiness is your own decision, not someone else's. ***,**。
Which one is not a rural hukou! And aren't all the astronauts who go to space now? The key is in the person, not in the innate background.
Man always has to rely on himself!
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If you truly love each other, don't worry so much.
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The eyes are small, and this one is very funny to talk about...
However, your situation is really similar to mine in many places, except that the conditions of our two families should not be as good as those of yours, but the situation is similar.
Adults think so, we hope that love is just two loves, but this is impossible, in reality love is not just a matter of two people at all.
If you two are determined to be together, stick to it, and if you have other relatives in your family who can help you, try it too.
My boyfriend and I came over like this, and now we're finally getting engaged, and there's a lot of trouble. In short, if you choose to be with him, you will inevitably have to face a lot of things, what you think and what you don't expect, be positive. Come on, friends...
Hehe, I feel the same way with you, so I talk a little more.
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1. Ask yourself if you still want to go down with your boyfriend.
When your boyfriend is disliked by his parents, then he still has to make some efforts to save his boyfriend. And you must be clear about your goals now, whether you still want to develop with your boyfriend. You have to make some sacrifices on your own so that you can continue to develop with your boyfriend.
Second, you should communicate well with your parents.
In this world, you must know that the people who care about and love you the most are your parents. She is strict with your marriage partner and has a high vision, hoping that you will be able to live better after marriage in the future. If your parents dislike your boyfriend's family conditions, don't have an argument with them first, but communicate with your parents well and let them know what you really think.
You have to tell them: "People don't live for wealth many times, I know that you are all for my good, but if you can find a true love and really care about yourself, you won't care about material conditions, I hope I can always live with him, and I hope you can understand my .......""Matter is important, but it's not everything.
3. Be an ambitious person with your boyfriend.
If you want to earn the respect of others, you must first respect yourself. If you are ambitious in front of your parents, then even if your life is difficult now, then you have ambition, and your life will definitely get better in the future. Husband and wife will work hard together in the future.
If you want to get your boyfriend back, then you can be an ambitious man together, so that your parents can see your side, and I believe they will agree to be together as a hard-working couple. Rely on your own efforts to win the same from your parents, so that the redemption will be successful.
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Girl, it depends on your attitude and what are your criteria for choosing a mate? Your parents can't decide your life, communicate well with your parents, what do you think happiness is in your heart, as long as you don't dislike your boyfriend's poor conditions.
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Summary. Hello dear, your boyfriend's condition is poor, this is his own business, if your parents dislike him, then you have to communicate with him, if your parents don't like him, then you have to make it clear to him, after all, marriage is not child's play. Your boyfriend's conditions are not good, and your parents dislike him, so you have to tell your parents and let your parents stop embarrassing your boyfriend, after all, your parents should respect your opinions, if your parents don't respect your boyfriend, you can take your boyfriend home and talk to your parents.
What to do if your parents dislike your boyfriend and have poor conditions.
Hello dear, your boyfriend's condition is poor, this is his own business, if your parents dislike him, then you have to communicate with him, if your parents don't like him, then you have to make it clear to him, after all, marriage is not child's play. Your boyfriend's conditions are not good, and your parents dislike him, so you have to tell your parents and let your parents stop embarrassing your boyfriend, after all, your parents should respect your opinions, if your parents don't respect your boyfriend, you can take your boyfriend home and talk to your parents.
It's a situation where both of us are sophomores. We were together in high school. Let's talk about the family conditions of the two of us, his family has a self-built house in the countryside.
It was newly renovated last year. Both parents work part-time, and an older sister works as an accountant in a second-tier city. He himself went to university in Yunnan and often received scholarships.
My family's situation is that my grandmother used to be in the countryside and got a house because of the construction of the building. My mother bought a house of more than 30 square meters in the city. Neither is our family.
Particularly wealthy is a lower-middle-class family. But because I have a good appearance and figure, my father hopes that I can find someone who is a little richer than his own family.
When my boyfriend and my dad first met, my boyfriend bought it for my dad. Some Yunnan specialties, my dad didn't know about my boyfriend's house at the time. So he was still complimenting my boyfriend in front of me at the time.
When I told my dad that my boyfriend was rural, there was a bit of a shift in his attitude. I would even get angry at him for saying hello to my boyfriend first and my boyfriend saying hello to him later.
You put sure angry.
He's sure he should have greeted you first.
But he just didn't hear it at the time, and then he replied to my dad, and he didn't look at it without anyone else, and he used to buy things for my dad, and he knew how to say hello.
Don't think about it.
All you have to do now is get your boyfriend to behave well.
Everything else is in vain.
Multi-performance. Cigarettes and alcohol will be sent to you.
You have to know how to do it.
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Feelings are not an easy problem to solve, but they are not completely unsolvable.
Here are some suggestions that might be useful to you:
Understand each other's life background: Although the lack of a home is a factor that is likely to lead to conflict, it is not the only factor that determines the success or failure of a relationship. You can learn more about each other's family, culture, etc., and build empathy and understanding to resolve conflicts.
Maintain balance in your relationship: Don't go to extremes and don't choose between your family and your significant other. Let your love life and family life develop in a balanced way, and make sure that your significant other is well understood and supported in the process.
Hospitality problems: Keep calm, rational and pure rent a stool, don't think that the other party doesn't love you enough or can't be your future partner because of the problem of not being the right door. Together, you can work hard to overcome difficulties and build a stable and healthy relationship.
Seek help: If the problem is really serious, you can seek help from a counsellor or family counselor to help you better resolve the conflicts caused by the lack of access and build a stronger emotional foundation.
If you still haven't resolved the problem after many attempts and compromises, then you may want to consider giving up on the relationship.
If you are unable to reconcile the differences between the two parties on this issue, or even affect the lives and happiness of both parties, then you may lose more if you try to pursue the perfect love.
Giving up on a relationship is certainly breaking an expectation and making people feel lost and miserable.
But sometimes, giving up is also a brave choice. If it is true that you are not able to achieve your own happiness, or if you have tried your best to reconcile but it still causes more unhappiness and pain for both parties, then giving up is not necessarily a wrong choice, you can take a trip to find your inner balance and believe that the next relationship will be better.
Faced with the problem of not being at the door, it takes a lot of thinking and trying, if the problem can be resolved, then there is still hope for this relationship; But if the problem can't be solved, then giving up is also a risky and mature option.
In short, although there are some difficulties and challenges, as long as you are willing to work together and manage with your heart, I believe that you can eventually overcome the difficulties and achieve happiness.
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Your parents think about it a lot.
It is true that the rural hukou is not as good as that in the city, and all kinds of interests will be revealed in the future, and your parents are also worried about her education, after all, the living habits and ideas of people from the city and the countryside are different.
Your parents may have high expectations of you and think that their son is very good, but of course they must find someone who is right in the city and is prejudiced against rural people.
Actually, if this girl is gentle and willing to endure hardships, as long as she has a good personality, the other is not so important, if you have a rural hukou, your children should still be able to follow you, who said that she will also have a rural hukou in the future? But it's true that the two of you will have a big difference in concept in your later life.
As for what it is, don't care about it, it's not allowed, it's just superstition.
But as for saying she's crazy or something, it's up to ...... to figure out whether it's true or not
In addition, the work of the electromagnetic factory does have radiation, which may have a bad impact on your children in the future. If you decide to have a baby in the future, it is best to change jobs a few months before you get pregnant and find a job with little or no radiation.
PS: In the end, your parents also care about you and love you, so they interfere too much with the partner you are looking for. If you really love your girlfriend, then you can't have a stiff relationship with your parents because of this, otherwise even if you get married in the future, your girlfriend's life will be difficult, because your mother-in-law and father-in-law always have a pimple in her heart, and your daughter-in-law also has a pimple, after all, she has been so strongly opposed.
You have to coordinate the relationship between the two, coax your parents more, if the girl is really good, after a long time, as long as your mother understands how much the girl cares about and loves you, is hardworking, and filial to her elders, she will naturally accept it slowly. After all, most people may instinctively still want to find the kind of in-laws who have some family background, but you must know that people with family background are generally a little arrogant, so the real family harmony does not look at external factors such as economic conditions, but looks at character.
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