When a child is lost and angry, it is better for parents to deal with it

Ask her what's going on, and then tell him the truth.

After getting angry with the child, parents should quickly apologize and carefully explain the mistakes they made so that the child can understand. The next time you get angry, you can calm down your emotions outside the house and then go home, put on a smiling face at your child, and don't be too indifferent. Because children like their parents very much, they don't know why they are scolded by their parents.

If you are often blamed by your parents for no reason, it will make your child afraid of your parents, and it will also make your child's character weaker.

Children actually understand some things in their hearts, they know that it is not easy for their parents to work outside to earn money, and they also want to behave well, so that their parents will be more relaxed. After being angry by his parents, the child is very aggrieved, but he does not dare to raise his parents' eyebrows, so he will play alone in the room, or cry alone, and dare not make a sound. Parents should quickly collect their emotions and give comfort to their children, just like the above.

After that, you should take your child out to play, such as an amusement park or a fast food restaurant for a good meal, which will make your child forget the unpleasantness just now. Because a child's heart can't hold too many things, and after having happy things, they will forget all the unhappiness.

Some parents always think that their children are their own accessories, and if their children are disobedient, they should be beaten directly, and they don't care about their children's spiritual world at all. Such parents are not worthy of being parents, this netizen also realized his mistakes, indicating that he still thinks about his children, but he can't control his temper a little, and he hopes to correct it next time. Parents can also buy some emotional vents, such as pinching balls or sandbags, and when they are particularly angry, they can play sandbags or pinch some stress-relieving toys to make their mood better.

If you really can't help it, you have to leave the house quickly, and then take a deep breath and tell yourself that the child was born by yourself, if you hit or scold the child, it will hurt the child's heart, and it will also make the relationship between yourself and the child even less close.

It is not easy to raise a child, and the parents must have a better temper and be patient with their children.

At this time, parents should calm their minds, and then apologize to their children, take the initiative to admit their mistakes to their children, and communicate and exchange with their children, which will only be more conducive to getting along with parents and children.

For such a situation, parents should strive to adjust their bad state, appropriately divert attention, always pay attention to the changes of their children, adopt a flexible way, and then set up a series of incentives to effectively establish a correct outlook on life.

Everyone in life will have different emotions when they encounter different things, and I have a deep impression of my impression and my cousin's anger.

My cousin came to my house that day, and I wanted to tease him, so I strode up to him. He must have thought I had come to meet him, and he ran towards me. I gave him an affectionate hug and took his hat off.

He hadn't noticed anything unusual, and after a while he realized that the hat was gone. Looking back, hey, how did the hat get into your hand? At first, he calmly told me:

Brother, give me the hat. "Don't give, don't give, you take it yourself!" I teased him, and when I said that, he got a little angry.

A warning was issued: "You still haven't given me back the hat?" "If you don't pay it back, you won't pay it back."

I want to see what you do. My brother seemed to see that I deliberately corrected him, and now he was really angry, his little face was flushed, and his eyes seemed to be flashing with fire, and he said to me again in a threatening tone: "Last time, you still haven't given me back the hat?"

As soon as I heard his tone, I took my hat and ran, and when he saw me doing this, he was enraged, stamped his feet, and shouted, "Give it to me, give it to me," and when he saw that I ignored him, he came like a little tiger and snatched my hat from my hand.

He jumped first and snatched my hat from my hand, and I raised it high. He tried to push me down again to grab the hat. But I didn't expect that I was a heavyweight, and I couldn't push it at all. My brother bit his lip and pushed me hard. But it didn't work.

When my cousin saw that the hard one didn't work, he came to the soft one. He used his special move. I saw his big mouth.

Wow cried out. Tears flowed down like beads of broken thread, and I had to quickly admit defeat and return the hat to him. He took the hat and burst into tears and laughed.

He's really my cute little cousin socks big.

Every child will not lose his temper for no reason, when the child is young, he does not have a strong cognition, and is used to expressing his demands and dissatisfaction in the most direct way.

Every time a child loses his temper, he will experience a feeling of disappointment in himself and a feeling of collapse. And every time these feelings of brokenness are stitched up and the sense of control is re-experienced, the individual's sense of security, self-confidence and self-esteem will be strengthened and upgraded.

Therefore, it is important to allow the child to experience such a complete process. If you try to stop a child who has a tantrum, not only will it not help, but it will make it worse. If the child's emotions are not relieved and the backlog is there, it will be difficult for him to really have the psychological space to learn to "have something to say".

In the future, the child's emotions will be controlled and not seen by the parents, and the grievances and anger will be doubled. Children whose emotions have not been seen for a long time, or even suppressed and denied, may return to the situation of their early years when they encounter problems when they grow up, and they are accustomed to responding to actions such as crying, splattering, being arrogant and unreasonable, and even smashing things.

Jialai Education Family School Lecture suggests that parents should try to understand the causes of their children's emotions, but there is no need to be overly surprised or cared for, don't give him a tantrum to get all the illusions. Once parents understand why, give their children a space to vent their emotions. When he has calmed down, you can say to him:

Mom knows that you are unhappy, if there is anything you can do to tell Mom, we can solve it together.

If the child is very vexatious, parents should not blindly blame, in fact, the child is aware of his mistakes, but the strong self-esteem of childhood makes them not easily admit their mistakes, you can give an example of a few people, through other people's stories to tell him, you can express emotions, but you have to slowly learn to release emotions correctly, instead of thinking that you will cry and eat candy.

Before our children grow into reckless, emotional creatures, give them more acceptance and empathy. From the child's point of view, it is easier to comfort the other party and make the bridge calm down quickly.

When the child has shown that he has realized his mistakes, we should give him a hug in time and tell him that in fact, we are all in the same place, and we will face the mistakes together. In other words, in this process, the role of parents is to exist as a reliable and loving container for their children, which can temporarily store children's emotions and provide a safe and controllable buffer space for children to groom themselves.

In this space, the gentle and firm attitude of parents, the act of accepting children's emotions itself, children will gradually absorb and internalize the power of their own acceptance and growth.

In many cases, the emotions of parents and children can easily affect each other, so that things are small but ferment to the point of being out of control. Or in the end, even if the matter is resolved, but the period of shaping the child's character is missed.

As parents, we must learn to relieve our emotions and play a role in teaching our children, so that children can see that parents also have emotions, but they solve and adjust in this way, which is a very valuable lesson in life.

1. Parents are emotionally stable, and children have a greater sense of happiness and security.

When I was young, I met a boy who used to go to an interest class together. He sat behind me, and every day he was happy, and would secretly pull my braids; At the end of class, I took my pen and ran around the world, saying loudly, "You came to chase me"; Stuffed notes were given to me with "pigs" and "bears" drawn on them, with my name written next to them.

I didn't like him because he was messing around without giving face, and the whole class knew that my name was "Pig". This boy, who was smiling all over the ground in front of me every time, suddenly disappeared one day.

Two weeks later, he came back behind me and stopped talking. He was as silent as a warrior, reading quietly after every class, and he would not pull my braids in class. Occasionally, his eyes were red, and he was lying on the table.

I also asked him cautiously, and he said that he was picking up, and he said that his parents were divorcing, and he had no way to go home. We were both thirteen or fourteen years old. The first time I walked home with him, he said he wanted to kill himself.

The two of them weren't like that before.

2. Parents' emotional stability is sometimes more important than parental affection.

One of the contrasts is that at the time, one of my childhood neighbors had divorced parents. But her emotions didn't seem to be affected in any way, and I almost witnessed her go from being a parent to a single parent.

Her parents emotionally divorced like a breakup, quietly, and did not quarrel in front of their children. The child followed his mother, and his father sorted out a lot of clothes, and his mother helped him sort them out, and when he left, he told each other to take care. After that, his father would visit them every week, and occasionally take her out alone.

This child's mood has not been greatly affected, and he still happily goes to and from school every day, and plays a lot of games with me.

Emotional stability is sometimes more important than parental affection.

Parents should tell their children that it is normal to have emotions and that no one will not be angry. Telling the child in this way is to help the child face up to emotional problems, so that when he has emotional problems, he will not feel afraid and guilty, and he will not use emotions as ** to attack others. Instead, it is about facing up to your own inner feelings and emotions, which is the basis for helping children solve emotional problems.

Tell your child to be clear about his boundaries and to be clear about them. The so-called boundary is the bottom line of one's emotional problems, but when you don't touch this line, it will stimulate feelings of anger and discomfort in your heart. Tell the child that in the process of getting along with his mother, he should tell his parents that his boundaries are hidden in the ** late limb hall, and in the process of getting along with others (friends, classmates), he should also tell others that your boundaries are in**, so that he will not be easily offended by others and reduce the conflict of emotional problems.

Tell your child that when he has emotions, he should vent them in a suitable way. When children are young, they will be able to vent their emotions in appropriate ways, which will help them develop emotional intelligence. The so-called suitable way, such as playing sports when you are angry, shouting at the woods in the field, throwing a ball far away, ......These methods will not affect other people, but they will make your body and mind feel happy, and you will have a sense of venting.

But tell your child that when he is emotional, he should not be angry with others and should correct and apologize in time if he has offended others because of his emotional problems.