I can t come to things, I m living a hard life, how can I learn to behave like people?

Learning to deal with others, although it takes a long-term effort, can start from now, start from the things around us, smile politely and warmly to the people around us, and do our best when others need help. As long as we are kind to others, the people around us will be kind to us in the same way.

Be kind to others, learn from your parents, learn from your parents, learn from your friends, learn from your colleagues, and learn to communicate with others.

Fight against yourself, do things according to your own ideas, even if others don't understand; When others agree with you, you learn how to behave.

Practice your interpersonal skills.

People are sophisticated, and they can't be learned.

People who don't come to things have some rare qualities: no scheming, easy to get along with, simple, friendly!

The people I understand are definitely not the kind of opportunists who have no bottom line, but people who can consider the feelings of others at any time, speak and do things very properly, and have a sense of proportion.

So if you want to train yourself in these areas, it's not difficult.

Affirm others, don't show off yourself, see a little bit of others from the bottom of your heart, and don't take it seriously.

When others speak, nod their heads more and affirm more, and then talk about themselves after being spoken.

Learn to deny yourself, some things are not thought out clearly or are not absolutely authoritative, and if you can, don't say it.

Spread more positive energy, just digest the negative energy by yourself, learn to share good things with others, and the most important thing is to cultivate the habit of communicating with others, don't close yourself off because of the appearance that nothing will happen.

Cultivate a hobby in your social circle and make yourself an authority in the field, even if it's cooking soup or something like that.

Read more classic literature books, the charm of classics is not how wonderful the story is, but the extremely high level of use of language and writing, and the accumulation of good vocabulary to lay the foundation for speaking.

If you do these well, then the people around you should like you very much, and then you will be a person who will come and have a bottom line!

For the boss--- more achievements and fewer mistakes.

Be more obedient to your male boss --- less confrontation.

Praise your female boss more --- less contact.

Praise subordinates more --- less criticism.

Listen more and give less advice to older colleagues---

---Be more enthusiastic about younger colleagues and less enthusiastic about younger colleagues.

--- be more naïve and less pretentious to male colleagues.

For female colleagues--- more alliances and fewer enemies.

Personnel disputes --- be observed more and less involved.

More contempt for villains --- less care.

Be more humble and less arrogant --- your competitors.

--- remind yourself more and encourage more. Be kind.

Around us, there are all kinds of people, who are not static things, but vivid and fresh like ourselves: people who need the care of others, who need to be respected and loved by others. "If you want others to treat you the way you want them to be treated, you have to treat them first."

This is a most basic principle. In addition, there are some principles to share with you here:

1. Sincerity. Maybe after seeing these two words, you will immediately sigh - "I am sincere to others, and I have not seen how sincere others are to me." "Don't care too much about what others think of you.

If you care too much, you will feel constrained when you are a person and do things. Just remember one thing: you have a clear conscience.

2. If you don't understand, just ask. Stepping into a new environment, I don't know a lot of things. At this time, you should humbly ask the "master" for advice. so as not to make mistakes. In addition, you can also get some "personal experience" from him by the way.

3. Don't bring personal emotions outside of business into your work. On the one hand, it ensures the normal progress of the work; On the other hand, others are "busy" and "troubled" just like us every day, and they also want to seek ease and happiness, so from the perspective of thinking about others, we should still put less personal emotions on others.

Fourth, self-confidence. Learn to cheer yourself up and believe in yourself. Imagine if a person doesn't even believe in himself, how can he trust others?

You should understand that at work, you are the same as others, the only difference is that you may come here later than him. So we have to learn to give ourselves courage to stand on the same level as others. In this way, you will find that you are getting closer and closer to success.

You are too inferior. The question is simple.

You think about it, you're a little sullen inside and you crave something, but in the end you don't get it. So, you will have some kind of peculiar sense of "inferiority".

In fact, others don't know about your sullenness and your low self-esteem. However, the pressure on yourself is increasing, living in your own world.

As for you being said to be mentally retarded, stupid, and unable to get a degree certificate, you will feel even more inferior, and you will have a little mental breakdown.

But you have to think of it this way: there is no problem with your IQ. It's just that psychologically, spiritually, there are too many differences between desire and reality, between ideals and practical actions.

Everyone wants to succeed. Everyone wants to be a great man. Even, some people have very, very strong desires. However, are China's 1.4 billion people all great and successful???

Adjust your mindset to balance. It's a good thing to have desires. Put it in your heart, it's not bad. But you don't want to put so much negativity, additional bad influence on yourself, that's what causes you to break down more and more.

If you just study step by step and don't have too much mental burden, it is very easy to get a degree certificate.

Think about it, do you have too many different psychological factors in your life? That's what you're trying to solve.

This person must be in black and white, get along with gray scale, must grasp this measure, advance and retreat in a certain way, abide by the principle, neither make simple words, nor secretively, know the world but not the world, out of the rivers and lakes and far away from the rivers and lakes.

Like me, I usually talk to my classmates more.

But in moderation. Don't let them find you annoying].

I usually mingle with my classmates.

Try to keep your emotions in check.

Don't lose your temper with your classmates or friends.

And be improvised.

Observe others more.

See what they can do to help.

Take the initiative to help them.

Be kind. Relax your heart.

Friend, you are maturing and beginning to realize the importance of these issues; It is very important to learn how to handle interpersonal relationships well in the times, and it should not be underestimated; Sometimes you have to learn to let go, otherwise nothing will be accomplished; Being a man is full of principle and flexibility, how to grasp the scale of the two, and deduce thousands of models of life.

Relax when you encounter things, in fact, there is not much difference between people, and the words are so simple; One by one.

To do things is to memorize English words, and if you remember them, you will have mastered them. Dealing with people is something that you don't understand until you've experienced something. For you who have just stepped out of school, you will definitely have to fall a few times, but this is not a bad thing.

Give you a more practical advice, whenever you are ready to do something or talk to someone, think clearly in advance, don't go as soon as your brain is hot, and try to empathize, that is, think more about the other person, and slowly you will grow up in interpersonal communication.

Reach out to more.

Relax and don't be nervous.

Actually, I hate people too, so I won't give you more experience.

In April 1927, Du Yuesheng, ** Rong and Zhang Xiaolin organized the Chinese Communist Association. On the evening of April 11, he booby-trapped Wang Shouhua, the leader of the Communist Party workers in Shanghai, so that the Communist workers' armed forces were quickly suppressed the next day, that is, the purging of the party, which the Communist Party called the "April 12 Incident".

Setbacks in life are inevitable, stemming from the inevitable contradictions in life. Because people always have limitations in understanding things, and they are always in a state of knowing little about the contradictions of the objective world, and there are many people who do not know, they may not be able to deal with things well, and there are always more curves and fewer straight roads in front of us, and there are more adversities and fewer good times.

Once a setback occurs, if it is handled well, it can provide an opportunity for us to deepen our understanding, and by resolving doubts, it can make people more mature and bring about a turnaround in the development of things.

The ancient precept that Saion loses his horse and knows whether it is a blessing or a blessing tells us this philosophy of life: gain and loss is a dialectical and unified relationship, which embodies the complementary law in the fate of human beings.

Lu Xun believes: If you can't really receive the pain, it will be difficult to have the hope of a new life!

Ostrovsky also said: Human life is like a flood, and it is difficult to stir up beautiful waves without encountering islands and reefs!

The most important thing in life is how you treat it!

Nozomi, huh? From the psychological point of view, you don't know why you have low self-esteem and then continue to make psychological hints of inferiority, it can be seen that your heart is more beautiful or kinder. The method of correction is actually very simple, and the various methods upstairs are also very good, but they are not fundamentally corrected.

You have to step out of the framework of your current life and make changes. For example, I have also had the situation of the landlord, low self-esteem, not good after communicating with people, and it is not good to think about various ways to correct it, and then, I have used this method, and I have talked to a hundred people on the road for a minute. Twenty a day, a little shy on the first day, I feel like myself, and the second day I get used to it a little bit, I feel like a passerby, isn't it that hard?!

On the third day, I was already getting used to it. By the time I finished the task, I realized that I had become a different person when I communicated with others. Because when you get used to it, you'll find that it's really nothing!

This is just an example, but useful! This is a method that was learned from a psychology book.

It's about discovering your own strengths. The college entrance examination is over, I am about to step into the university, everything is a new beginning, I am very introverted, I usually surf the Internet at home, read books, and rarely make new friends. In the blink of an eye, high school is over, and I am not familiar with my high school classmates, just like strangers.

In order to increase your self-confidence, be cheerful, and change it a little. I walked around the ** network and saw a store that helps you make a fortune, Fan Fei and Yuan Ying's shopkeeper were very enthusiastic about it, I bought a red rope, or I have opened it. If you want to change yourself, the shopkeeper said that this item can attract people's attention and make many friends come to you closely, so that you will not be so introverted.

Follow the local customs, be approachable, and be humble.

Light wealth is enough to gather people, self-discipline is enough to convince others, generosity is enough to win people, and being the first is enough to lead people. Do not act willfully, and do not speak willfully. Whether it is okay or not, it should be judged by reason, and it will be angry, but it will be bad. - Zeng Guofan.

Read more communication books, and don't be timid, everyone is the same. Try to communicate more, hehe, be thick-skinned, don't be embarrassed. You still have to be confident!

Also, think about why you are so sensitive and cowardly, is it low self-esteem? What causes you to be like this. Is it the parents who are too well protected?

Only by finding the root cause of the problem can we solve the problem!

Try to communicate with others and be confident.

Find a confident friend and be with him every day, and you will gradually become confident.

Be self-confident and have your own bottom line principles of doing things.

Exercise more, such as being a waiter.

I feel so bad, I probably won't. UBS, I don't think that's possible, everybody will behave in the world. You and you are very uncomfortable now, but you can learn to behave in the world, although you still can't come in, I think you are still a very old person, I think you are not a simple person.

To be a real person, to be a person who can deal with people, I think you are still quite a good person, and you can't be discouraged. If you want to ask me to learn from others before, and others to see how others behave in other people, you can learn from others, then you can learn from other people's strengths. If you don't have your own shortcomings, you may be stronger and braver than others, and I think in this way, you may be able to do a better and better job in dealing with others.

Why should people help you if they don't know you well? Be more active and don't lose yourself because you're left out.

I can only say that your colleagues in your company are too cold, and I don't blame you!

And you've only been in the company for three months, depending on the situation, you still know how to get along with people, but there may be a point, your company is too big, there are a lot of people, and your position is not very important, so no one cares about you!

All you have to do is be yourself, don't care what other people think, they ignore you, you can ignore them.

Just do the work assigned to you by your boss!

Let's go out shopping with friends and get along with male colleagues first.

Dealing with people is indeed a science, and there should be many reasons why your colleagues don't care about you.

1. Is it your work that will offend people, involve personal interests or trouble others, and have an impact on others, in short, it is to make others feel bad about you.

2. Emotional intelligence: People with low emotional intelligence are also one of the reasons why others don't want to play and chat with you.

3. The tone of speech is very important, it must be affinity, not too blunt, which makes people disgusted when they listen to it.

In fact, we are all about feelings, no one will get along with you for no reason, it's no big deal, do your best, slowly try to communicate with others, and learn how others get along. Believe in yourself, give yourself confidence, you are sunny, and when you are confident, others will naturally play with you, chat with you, and naturally like you.