Aren t you good enough there? Why does it always feel like I m not as good as my girlfriend s ex boy

It's not that I'm not good enough, but love is a thing, and when I get into my heart, I'm obsessed, which is good and which is not good, depending on who I sit with. Only if she forgets him will she see all the kindness you have done to him. Therefore, if you like her, take your time, and tell her that you love her very much, and she will not be able to go back to the past after all, and cherish the person in front of you the most.

If, if you still can't move her, then you can only change yourself. To give up someone who doesn't love you is to fulfill the other person, to fulfill yourself, and to fulfill the future.

Feelings are a very strange thing, she has someone else in her heart, it is difficult to tolerate you anymore But if you think she is worth your attention to her, stick to your own ideas, emotional problems are not fair at all, but one person discards another person to pick up the matter

People's hearts are always made of meat, since the previous boyfriend is not worthy of her liking, then one day she will want to open it, and then she will find that you are the person who is good to her, and she is the person who is worthy of liking

I wish all my wishes come true, and love will come to fruition as soon as possible

If you don't say it, we can't really tell she's your girlfriend.

Are you sure she's your girlfriend?

You knew in your heart from the beginning that she didn't like you, at least you know now.

No way, it's your choice.

If you want to continue, don't talk about it, and if you don't want to accept it, then retreat as soon as possible.

Alas, why do people like to live in memories and don't know how to cherish ...... in front of themIt's not that you're not good enough, it's that you're not good enough at the time you show up.

yes, Chu.

Bai Lian is the most unforgettable, and she can't be blamed for this.

zhi, because the first dao, she learned how.

Love a person inside, and then there is no reason to be good to a person, but when her first love fails, she will unnaturally form a form of self-protection, will not take the initiative to be good to a person, will not easily open her heart to accept a person, the landlord should not be sad, it will be fine, but it takes a lot of effort, I can see that you must love your girlfriend very much, since this is the case, don't give up, be tolerant, and enter her heart little by little.

There is nothing in the world that can't be put down, that person said: I just can't let go, and then the host took a cup to him, let him hold it, the host poured hot water into the cup, until the hot water overflowed, the person instinctively threw the cup, the host said: There is nothing that can't be put down, and you will naturally let go when it hurts.

She copied it in front of you.

Mention her ex-man.

Another possibility is that she wants you to learn from her ex-boyfriend, or that she makes you jealous. But it's just a possibility, and it's not good if it's over. You can talk to her and tell her that if this is the goal, then the goal has been achieved, and you are envious, jealous and hateful, otherwise, if you want to be together, you can mention it less After all, no one wants to always mention the past, and it is acceptable that the past and the present can coexist, just keep the memories, it is useless to talk more!

This is to find someone who loves himself.

Bai is still a good question of finding someone you love, now zhi

Your situation is obvious, you love her more than she loves you, naturally she takes the initiative, while your girlfriend and her ex-boyfriend are the opposite, the easier it is to get, the more you don't know how to cherish it, or the more you pay, the more you don't necessarily get in return! Since you love her, give her some time, and she will slowly forget and change.

Respect the woman's feelings, work hard to improve yourself, life is not just by feelings, some people can't forget it is better to keep in mind, in fact, you need to adjust your mentality, ask yourself what you need, and then you will know how to do it. Good luck with the relationship!

Find a time, it's time for the two to have a good talk Ask her if she has been with you or her ex-boyfriend If it doesn't work out, just split up and find someone else Why do you have to pay so much for someone who doesn't love you, she still doesn't appreciate it Although you love her, But the long pain is better than the short pain, what do you think.

What are you crying about, you haven't grown up yet.

Is it a man crying. No matter how important the ex-boyfriend is, it's okay, the former word is put there,

It's always normal for girls to talk about their ex-boyfriends, it's a disguised show-off, which means that my ex-boyfriend is so good, if you don't treat me well, I'll change boyfriends right away.

Why is that? Why are we sometimes so eager to blacken ourselves?

Use the ideal self to demand the real self.

Psychologist Rogers once divided the self into two types: the ideal self and the actual self.

The ideal self is the desired self, and this self is perfect and idealized in every way. The real self is what we appear in real life, and this self is often flawed and imperfect.

Because we are not perfect, we are dissatisfied with our realistic selves and have expectations for our ideal selves. Therefore, whether it is work, family, or interpersonal relationships, you will unconsciously set a goal for yourself. For example, what kind of achievement should be achieved, what kind of happy family should be had, what kind of popular person should be in the eyes of others, and so on.

When a person always demands the real self with the ideal self, it is inevitable that he feels that he is not good enough.

Focus on delusions. In life, we often have the feeling that we can easily find the good in others: feel that others are happier, others are more confident, others are more popular, and so on. Then look back at yourself, this is not good and that is not good, you will feel a kind of gap and pressure, and even feel inferior.

The crux of the matter lies in selective cognition.

In the hectic and busy life every day, most of our time and energy are actually focused on ourselves, and for others, it is only when we occasionally interact that we will have a little fragmented understanding. Moreover, the psychological characteristics of people also determine that we are more likely to be attracted by the shining points of others, and for the shortcomings of others, we will ignore them because we feel that they have nothing to do with ourselves, so we will subconsciously mistakenly think that this is what the other party is all like.

Such a cognitive bias is the delusion of attention.

Whether it is too high expectations of ourselves or the illusion of attention, it is a trap that we are easy to fall into in our daily life. But if you think about it more deeply, you will find that, fundamentally, all this is due to our low sense of self-worth.

Everyone has their own path to follow, and the most important thing is to focus on how to achieve their goals.

Only those who have their own goals can establish their own values. The so-called values are those that are good and suitable for you in your opinion; Those are bad and not for themselves. People who have their own values are more likely to understand their own needs and are less likely to be influenced and misled by the apparent merits of others.

People who are calm in their hearts are not because they are so perfect in reality, but because they know how to accept the imperfect part of themselves. Deficiencies are a part of life, you don't have to solve all the problems, you only need to solve the few problems that are important to you.

You have to tell yourself that all the time