My boyfriend and I are planning to get married, but his parents said that they can t afford to get e

Marriage is a necessity to spend money. And everyone wants to be able to spend more, and they wish that part of their hard-earned money in the next few decades could be advanced to the marriage to consume. Because the certainty of marriage is a lifetime, everyone is looking forward to happiness after marriage, and at the same time, it is inevitable to yearn for thousands of blessings in the wedding.

And economic pressure has always been a step in the marriage of young people, and even the most important benchmark for a parent's generation, which is the so-called family pair.

However, young people do not think about what is right for each other, but think about how we love each other, and with love we can resist everything, including parental opposition and worldly unbearableness.

It can only be said that everyone is right.

Believing in love and ideals is the most beautiful thing. It is also the most basic foundation of marriage. Otherwise, a marriage based on a purely economic basis also stenges of copper.

The key to pursuing the right family and hoping that children will live a prosperous life is not to look at money, but to look at different living habits and quality of life requirements. I hope that my children will have a good life, not that I simply ask for more money.

We can all understand this.

Therefore, for engagement and marriage, if you need to spend money, then find a way to spend money, understand your parents and each other's parents, and every parent's heart is based on love.

Moreover, if every parent is not excessively old-fashioned, he generally will not say that it is okay to obstruct and oppose the marriage of his children, after all, the current era does not understand that kind of action.

Therefore, you don't need to take into account the negative intentions of the other parent, their intentions are definitely good. If you don't agree to give money to your son to get engaged and married, there are generally two possibilities, one is that you really don't have money, and the other is that there must be some places that are not in place, and as an elder, you are embarrassed to put it forward positively.

Then it is necessary for you to learn more about some basic etiquette and customs required for engagement in the other party's family environment, and work together to find the shortcomings and do it as soon as possible.

Understand each other. Working together towards union is the most perfect way. After all, it's two families who want to live together in the future, not two people...

Don't think about it so much, that is, let's tell the truth, the economic conditions are clear at a glance, no money is no money, then there is no way. In fact, it is not difficult to get married, the difficulty is to invite wine or something, these are all expenses, if you don't get all of these, won't you save a pen! Getting married is a hassle, and different places have different customs, so getting married once is annoying enough.

I'm in a very similar situation to you, the only thing that is not similar is that he is the only seedling at home, but his family is not rich, just two ordinary young people with low salaries, it is not good, and the parents must sponsor it, almost enough.

The Chinese-style wedding banquet is super wasteful!

How's your boyfriend at home? The relationship between his parents and elders should be clarified before marriage.

Marriage in China is a connection between two big families, not just the two of you.

If the other party's family relationship is cold, then you will have a heavy burden of married life in the future, and conflicts between you will continue to emerge.

Love can be a short-lived feeling without thinking about the future. But marriage is not, marriage must be treated rationally.

What your relatives and friends say about your boyfriend, you have to know early and plan early.

Meet your parents, it's good for you and it will help you see a lot.

Summary. Dear, it can be like this: I don't have money to get engaged, even if I agree, how can my parents explain it? What do relatives and friends think? In ancient times, the engagement led a cow and sent two bags of grain...

What should I do if I talk to my boyfriend about getting engaged and he says he has no money.

Dear, it can be like this: I don't have money to get engaged, even if I agree, how can my parents explain it? What do relatives and friends think? In ancient times, the engagement led a cow and sent two bags of grain...

Your boyfriend can have no money, but the engagement still needs to take the bride price, if you really don't have money, then you can borrow, if you can't borrow, then you can only slow down.

The situation in the teacher's hometown is also like this: the man has no money at home, so he borrows it, and sometimes the woman also helps a little. The purpose is to let relatives and neighbors know that they will not let others gossip, such as marrying their daughters....

How did you and your boyfriend meet? When talking about marriage, you have to prepare in advance...If you look at a marriage without paying, you will inevitably not be cherished.

Kiss, the engagement money is for you, and also for your parents to prepare red envelopes, if your parents want your engagement money, to squander or subsidize your siblings, the in-laws are against it.

My parents kept the engagement money for my brother.

It's because they feel that the money is going to be brought back to their mother-in-law's house.

I just know.

Because this money is for you and your husband's small family.

The rules on my side are different from my boyfriend's side, and the minimum on my side is that my boyfriend is 10,000 engaged.

Because, in general, there are not so many engagements.

Only when you get married, the bride price will be more.

Now I'm trying to convince my parents not to give them my engagement money, because I don't want to give it myself, they don't want to give the dowry, they don't want my engagement money to my brother, I don't want to be that stepping stone.

Dear, you can say something like this: Mom and Dad, I know you all want me to leave some money for my brother, but you have to think about it, I just got married, our small family also needs less, I am pregnant with children, these are all need money, you have to think about it for me.

Summary. Hello dear, at this time I think that engagement is a matter of two people, but also a matter of two families, if your boyfriend's parents do not agree, then at this time I think there should be a negotiation to solve it.

My parents want my engagement money, my boyfriend, and his parents don't agree.

Hello dear, at this time I think that engagement is a matter of two people, but also a matter of two families, if your boyfriend's parents do not agree, then at this time I think there should be a negotiation to solve it.

You are equivalent to saying that your parents want you to get engaged, but your boyfriend's parents don't agree, then you can't get engaged, so you should tell your parents about this situation, and it is better to get engaged after solving the problems between them.

Now I'm trying to convince my parents not to give them my engagement money, because I don't want to give it myself, they don't want to give the dowry, they don't want my engagement money to my brother, I don't want to be that stepping stone.

Oh, I see.

I'll take a look. Then you directly told your parents about this kind of thing, and your parents actually understand it very well.

I'm sure your parents aren't stupid.

If my parents were good at communicating, I wouldn't have to worry about it.

If you don't communicate with your parents, then there is no way.

Why did your parents have to let you marry him?

Summary. Hello dear, for this situation, the best thing is that both parents and children should discuss it together, no matter who the bride price money is, the two parties should negotiate and make it clear.

My parents want my engagement money, my boyfriend, and his parents don't agree.

Hello dear, for this situation, the best thing is that both parents and children should discuss it together, no matter who the bride price money is, the two parties should negotiate and make it clear.

Now I'm trying to convince my parents not to give them my engagement money, because I don't want to give it myself, they don't want to give the dowry, they don't want my engagement money to my brother, I don't want to be that stepping stone.

Do your parents mean that they won't leave you at all?

Then your parents are purely trying to give money to your brother, are your parents patriarchal?

Engaged, they mean not to give me, and they think it's right to raise me so big.

How much is the bride price?

The bride price, we want 200,000 yuan, and my boyfriend's family is willing to give it, and I won't give it to them, and now it's the engagement money, and they mean they don't want to give it to me.

Then your parents are too much.

Grandparents and grandparents at home.

Ask them for help if you're there.

Seriously, it's hard to convince them.

You have to find someone to help you.

To be honest, I didn't have a lot of people at home, and my relatives thought it was a big deal in my life, and they wouldn't get involved.

But your grandparents always care about you.

Now your parents have taken the money for the engagement, right?

Summary. Hello, I'm Yuzu teacher, and I'm honored to answer for you.

In fact, your boyfriend told you not to worry, because he is not ready so soon now, and it is his idea to tell you that the engagement is his idea, but there are many things to prepare after that, first of all, he has to wait for him to tell his parents, and then you will tell your parents about it.

If my boyfriend says he's engaged to me and I say he's talking to my mom, he says he's not going to worry about me.

Hello, I'm Yuzu teacher, and I'm honored to answer for you. In fact, your boyfriend told you not to worry, because he is not ready so soon now, and it is his idea to tell you that the engagement is his idea, but there are many things to prepare after that, first of all, he has to wait for him to tell his parents, and then you will tell your parents about it.

Hope mine can help you! (｡