How to evolve yourself into a perfectionist

Because after discovering the perfectionist symptoms that exist in my subconscious, I have been consciously observing and summarizing them recently.

How to solve the problem of perfectionists?

How to Be an Imperfectionist" mentions that thinking guides emotions, and emotions drive action.

But the reverse is also true, that is, behavior, in turn, affects emotions.

However, if the effect of thinking on emotions is 1, then the effect of behavior on emotions is 2 3

That is, when you feel like you can't find motivation, you can't keep going, and you don't know how to change.

Abandon the dynamics theory, or adopt a more effective approach, the reaction of behavior to emotions.

Start by getting yourself started, for example, get up +1, then go to the kitchen +1, pick up the broom +1, go to the bedroom +1, extend your forearm +1, and pull back +1. Then, these actions of yours will re-mobilize your emotions and allow you to move on with the housework.

And after you have done this, your sense of accomplishment is +10, your sense of pleasure is +10, and at this time, you will be more positive when you do anything else.

Behavioral Emotional Dynamics!

Perfectionists may care too much about other people's opinions, as far as my personal feelings are concerned, because they are afraid of others criticizing themselves before doing things, so they always want to do things perfectly, so that others have nothing to say, but in fact, there is no such thing as perfect, no matter how good you do. Therefore, the best way is to be more open and accepting to the people or things around you, and not to pay too much attention to the criticism of others. Accept the criticism with an open mind if it is reasonable, and ignore it with a smile if it is unreasonable.

As long as you are sincere enough and do things worthy of your heart.

This world is inherently imperfect, and to seek perfection in an imperfect world is to ask for trouble. Perfectionists are bound themselves, and they can also cause pain to those around them. It's okay to be strict with yourself, but you must be lenient with others.

Tolerate the defects of accepting personnel, including oneself. Learn from the sea and embrace everything.

There is no such thing as a perfectionist, maybe it's just that you're too controlling, too clean, or a person with aspirations.

There is no need to blame myself too much, and there is no need to put too much pressure on myself, but to tell myself that I am a pure person, not a person who has nothing to do, this is my unique personality.

Get along with people, do things all the time, live together inevitably have disputes, you can be more generous, more calm, more patient with people and things, more tolerant, you will find that your life is a different world.

The real people who are really strong and powerful are people who are tolerant and big, and we encourage them together. Maybe you are really a perfectionist, then maybe you should be lucky, because it is a pure, pure kind of person, but it is a pity that you have come to the world.

Perfectionists are easily hurt, and it is easy to get tired and sick and easily unable to sleep, this is no way to do things, the pursuit of perfection is everyone's best idea, but what, if put into practice people's energy is limited, it is impossible to do, so it hurts themselves, and as a result, how to change the body destroyed? That is, we must learn to tolerate mistakes, tolerate failures, tolerate the existence of those mistakes and shortcomings, and we do not pursue 100% success, but only pursue 70% or 80% success.

Why change, that's everyone's dream.

In doing anything, we must proceed from reality, especially from our own reality. What has been done in this way is commendable.

Don't blindly compare yourself to others. Excessive comparisons not only fail to make yourself perfect, but also easily make yourself tired.

When doing things, don't put too much pressure on yourself. If you stress too much, you can easily put yourself in a state of tension and anxiety.

When doing something, if you fail, you must not always care, and you must not blame yourself. Think more about the future, let yourself start the scum when you work hard, and be able to be relaxed and happy.

Live a down-to-earth life, live a sweet life, be satisfied with what should be satisfied, and don't think too much about the world. Live happily and easily.

Treat others, don't be compromised, don't be too demanding, and don't criticize others. Working on an equal footing with others and getting along with others as an equal is better than anything else.