How to please a person, how to please others?

I often hear people sigh in the workplace: "It's so difficult to get along with xx!" "Someone who complains like this, I guess there's something wrong with the way he makes friends.

Maybe he wants everyone to be his confidant, or he has some kind of purpose to gain benefits, so he interacts with others, tries in every possible way to please them, panders to them, and hopes to make everyone like him and help him succeed. However, he unknowingly lost himself, and as time went by, there would be fewer and fewer friends around him. Think about it, who would take advantage of the person who uses them as a confidant?

And it's not possible for you to please everybody or make everybody happy with you. So I think it's better to please yourself than to work hard to please others. Pleasing yourself is not something that everyone can do, but it's also not unattainable.

In any case, pleasing yourself is a good medicine for mental adjustment, and it will make you happier, more fulfilling, and more confident in a boring career. None of us live in a vacuum, with setbacks in our academic careers, troubles in relationships, trivial matters in life, and health troubles ......You'll have one or two things on your shoulders, and these influences and pressures from the outside world are not a small blow to us. If we can't learn to please ourselves and develop a cheerful, confident, and optimistic state of mind to face reality, we don't know when we will be crushed by these influences and pressures.

Pleasing oneself is not blindly and unnecessarily boasting about oneself, doing so will only make "pleasing oneself" a mental narcotic, and even make oneself stagnant; There are also many ways to please yourself, and they vary from person to person. In general, to please yourself, you can set up a "soundproof wall" for yourself in the face of gossip; When you are lonely and lonely, you can find ways to make yourself happy; You can take a big meal or shout a few times to vent when you are sulking; When a friend leaves him, he can do everything he can to keep the friendship or simply find a new friend. After suffering a setback, you can cheer yourself up and "order" yourself not to shed another tear; When you first arrive in a new environment and "have no relatives", you can find a mirror and smile at yourself, comfort yourself, and say, "At least there is a smiling face that I am familiar with."

In short, there are too many ways to please yourself, and after reading my introduction, I believe your mood has suddenly opened up! Learn to please yourself, believe that lonely people can have true confidants, silent and autistic people can bravely walk in the eyes of others, and people who want to become "friends of the public" can also understand the truth of "haste is not enough" and the true meaning of friendship ......May everyone in the world learn to please themselves and have a cheerful, enthusiastic, confident and optimistic state of mind. Oh.

If the first method pleases people and does not play a good role, people with a city government will use the second method, which is called knowing what they like and satisfying their desires, which seems to be a simple method, but we use very little in ordinary times, for example, it is clear that listening to others is not very pleasant, it sounds very awkward, and does not agree with other people's ideas, and those who have a city government do it very simply, first agree with others, and then talk about yourself, and our approach is just the opposite of them, first to oppose others, and then to express yourself, the final result, As you can imagine, in this regard, we must learn from those who have a city government.