Poor couples mourn, what is the most real thing you have ever seen?

The couple fought because of 200 yuan and almost divorced. In life, it is inevitable that the husband and wife will have bumps and bumps together, but after one thing is argued, the two are in a smooth mood, and they will be comfortable, and they will not keep arguing because of one thing, after all, the relationship between husband and wife is more important than anything. But then again, although they are husband and wife, there will still be many conflicts when it comes to money, especially poor couples like us.

Let me talk about the most real life of a poor couple around me, my classmate is a girl, very good-looking, tall, and very capable, when we went to school we all said that she was a rich woman, and she would definitely marry a good family in the future. But it backfired, she married an ordinary person, that person is a welder, the salary is not bad, five years older than her, and she is a hotel pastry chef, the salary is about 6000 a month, and the small life of the two couples is still very nourishing. But after marriage, they have to honor the old people on both sides, have children and raise children, and buy a house to pay for the mortgage, which invisibly increases the pressure and burden on themSo the husband and wife both quit their jobs and prepared to start a business.

Later, they opened a breakfast shop, and the business was very good at first, but as the business got better and better, the two became more and more dissatisfied, so they found a larger store again, ready to make catering again. But no one expected that business would slowly decline after a few months of improvementAnd the restaurant spent all of the couple's savings and let them take out a loan.

Later, I couldn't continue to operate, so I had to transfer the storeAfter the transfer of the store, there are more and more contradictions between the two, and most of the contradictions are because of moneyBecause it was my classmate's idea to expand the store to do catering, so her husband always used this matter to ridicule her, and her husband didn't know if it was to anger her or what, he was either playing cards or going out to drink with friends all day long, and asked him to find a job, he said that the salary was low, or he said that it was too far away from home, anyway, he didn't want to go out to work, and then his classmates didn't care about him, and he came to Chengdu from Mianyang alone, and rarely went home, and he wanted to play ** to go back to see the child.

Later, an incident happened that made their relationship between husband and wife almost come to an end, when one of her husband's aunts had a birthday, and his aunt was also in Chengdu, so her husband also came to Chengdu to celebrate his aunt's birthday, and when he gave the gift, her husband wanted to follow 800, the reason was that he lived in his aunt's house for a year when he was a child, and she only followed 600, the reason is that when their restaurant was facing financial difficulties, her aunt not only did not pull a hand, but also sarcastically mocked themSo because of the difference of two hundred, the two had a lot of trouble, and even had a big fightShe cried and asked for a divorce, the man did not agree, and finally the man went to Guangzhou by himself in order not to divorce, but although the two are now separated from each other, as long as they pass **, they will mention the financial burden of the family.

A husband and wife were under too much pressure due to low wages and too much pressure in their lives, and later due to an accident, the man was dismissed by the company, but unfortunately the woman was pregnant. Because she can't afford it, she can only **, **have no money to go to a regular hospital and go to a black clinic**, resulting in the loss of fertility of the woman. And the man can't even afford supplements.

The most real thing I have ever seen is that the family was relatively poor, but a sudden fire broke out in the house, which caused serious property damage.

After 8 years of marriage and 2 children, his wife was suddenly paralyzed, and her husband wanted to go out to work to make money, so her mother-in-law took 30 catties of rice and sent her back to her parents' house, stayed in her mother's house for 1 week, and was sent to her mother-in-law's house by her mother.

In this cycle, both sides said that their families were poor and could not afford to support her, pushing and pushing, and her husband only came back once a year.

When I was a child, my family was very poor, and my memory was that my family was surrounded by four walls, and my parents always quarreled because of money, and even fought big, and even when I needed money to go to school, I asked others to borrow it again and again.

The mourning of poor and lowly couples comes from the Tang Dynasty poet Yuan Zhen's "Sending Grief Huai", the main purpose of this poem is to mourn the deceased wife. The original sentence is "Honest socks are rotten and everyone knows that everyone has this hatred, and poor couples mourn everything", which translates to the meaning: I sincerely know that the hatred of death is shared by everyone in the world; But recalling that our husband and wife shared weal and woe in the days of poverty, I feel even more sad.

Obviously, the pretending Yuan Zhen is not lamenting that the life of the poor couple is very sad, so he feels that everything is going well and sad. Yuan Zhen lost his father since he was a child, his family was poor, he was angry and studied, and he successfully won the fame; But after he became rich and rich, he still did not forget his bad wife, and the couple had a deep affection. It's a pity that his wife died early, and Yuan Zhen remembered that his wife had suffered so much with him, but he had not had time to enjoy a good life, so he died.

Therefore, he felt very sorry, so he issued a lament of "poor and lowly couples mourn everything".

The so-called poverty refers to sharing weal and woe, and the so-called Pepsi refers to a hundred years later, that is, after death. It is sad that couples who once shared weal and woe will eventually say goodbye to life and death. For example:

1. If you don't have money, you are worried about firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea all day long, and some trivial things will cause you to quarrel, so it is said that poor couples mourn everything.

2. There are many girls in society who are bent on marrying a golden beetle son-in-law, and put all their hopes on it to relieve themselves. After all, no one wants to live a poor life. He Zhi saw that some people persuaded girls to marry rich people, and proved their point by saying that poor couples mourn everything, saying that the life of a couple without money must be sad.

3. The trivial things in life need to spend money, and it is difficult to move an inch without money, as the saying goes, money is not everything, but no money is everything. Where does happiness come from without money, and the source of happiness comes from money, so it is said that poor couples mourn everything.

In fact, the true meaning of this sentence is not so!

This is the Tang Dynasty poet Yuan Zhi mourning his wife's poem written, "I know that everyone has this hatred, poor couples mourn everything", everyone will experience the great sorrow of life and death, but we have suffered together husband and wife, death is more sad, and the love that has experienced poverty is more precious. I agree with this sentence, marriage needs material things to maintain, if two people struggle with the food and clothing line for a long time, then what happiness can their marriage have.

The correct understanding of "poor and lowly couples mourn everything" refers to the fact that when the husband and wife were poor, there are still shadows of deceased wives everywhere in life, as if everything can be associated with her, and the heart is full of endless sorrow.

I sincerely know that everyone has this hatred, and poor couples mourn everything, what kind of hatred is "this hatred"? This is about the "death farewell" of husband and wife, no one can avoid it, and one of them will leave first.

"Poor and lowly husband and wife mourn" continues from the previous sentence, referring to the poor and lowly husband and wife are in love with each other, and now there is the shadow of the deceased wife everywhere in life, as if everything can be connected to think of her, and the heart is full of endless sorrow.

This is the true meaning of "poor and lowly couples mourning".

The husband and wife of the rich and noble families have never been in love with each other, have never chopped firewood together, fed pigs together, and ...... kitchen togetherThey can't understand what it means to be "a poor couple mourning".

Now the meaning of "taking a boring year, poor and lowly couples mourn everything".

In the process of circulation, "poor and lowly couples mourn" was taken out of context, and it was understood that the husband and wife were full of grief because of their poor lives, which can be said to be completely understood.

My understanding: There is some truth in this poem.

People in the world look forward to the righteousness and understand that "poor and lowly couples mourn everything" to mean that the husband and wife have no stable economic foundation, which is very unfortunate, and it is easy to produce pain and disputes in life, which makes people sympathize. Some people even say: "The rich are happy for a thousand years, and the poor and lowly couples mourn everything".

It's not just Liu Xiang who doesn't read!

However, perhaps the pressure of life makes people more willing to look at this poem from another angle, Yuan Zhen did not expect that this famous sentence he wrote casually is precisely the voice of the life of poor couples in the world.