What do you do when your child says something that makes you sad?

My eldest occasionally says things that make me sad when I'm very angry, and to be honest, I feel a sense of loss in addition to being sad. I don't think the child has grown up and doesn't need himself. But then it turned out that his angry mood would soon pass.

So, now I'm going to deal with it like this: First, look at him very sincerely and say, "Mom is very sad when you talk like that," and let him know that his words hurt me. Then let him calm down, and I myself will calm down.

If two very angry people keep arguing, the result will definitely be very bad, so it's better to calm down and talk again. Finally, let's talk about why the child said such a thing.

Children's emotions come and go quickly, and some of the cruel things they say are nothing more than learning from adults. And there is a curse period for four or five-year-olds, who will be amazed at the power of words and will look for opportunities to test the damaging power of these words. We have to make them understand that hurting others is not fun.

Some of the problems in the parent-child relationship are caused by poor communication. Children are young, their language skills are not strong, and they may sometimes speak without words, which requires us to listen well and not get angry at children at every turn. The language is mutual, and we may also hurt the child unconsciously, so if we also say something that makes the child sad, remember to apologize sincerely.

In short, there must be a reason why a child says something sad. Whether it's our fault or the child's fault, the most important thing is to calm down and communicate and solve it well.

I think I'll laugh and cry when I can't contain my feelings.

In the future, there will definitely be various differences in the process of getting along with children because of the generation gap or different concepts, maybe I will speak too much, then I will definitely apologize to my children after reflection, after all, family members also need to apologize. But if the child says something that makes me sad, maybe my heart will chuckle.

A lot of words may not mean that, but some people just take it seriously. As a person, in fact, he is very innocent, especially if his own children say it, then I think the degree of sadness should be indescribable.

A lot of times I just want him to reflect and give me a satisfactory answer. Therefore, I think the most authentic reaction can cause him to think deeply.

If my child says something that makes me sad, what else can I explain? I can't complain anymore, I can only let him think about it, my parents don't mean that, I feel guilty and apologize to me, I think it's the best way to solve things, and at the same time I can reason with him.

I'll tell him plainly that this sentence makes me sad.

The child is just over three years old, but he can understand many things. He knows what makes me sad and don't say it next time.

I used to think that my child was still young and there was no need to let him know that there were some things he didn't do well. But one thing changed my mind.

My child has a stubborn personality, so I always thought that he was a person who couldn't pull back ten cows. After all, many times he will only come according to his ideas.

That time he was sick, and then he told me that he would rather die than take medicine. These were the words of a child, and I was very sad at the time.

The child's grandmother forced him to eat and poured everything down. But the child put his hand in his throat and vomited the medicine.

I was also sad to see his soft appearance, and I told him that I was really sad. At that time, I was directly angry and cried.

What I didn't expect was that the child was still comforting me when he was sick like that. Then I ate all the bitter ones directly.

It was only after this incident that I learned that my child told him that he would listen to me. As long as he knows that his mother is sad, then he will be sad too.

Every child is born with a blank slate. Children learn to say those sad words, and at first they actually overhear the people around them, feel curious and funny, and then follow suit. But some parents will show surprise when they say cruel things to their children and say to their children:

What's going on with this kid! Who let you talk like that" This kind of overreaction of parents will make the child realize that the original cruel words are so energetic. In that way, the child will be more fond of using harsh words.

There are also some parents who, when they say harsh things to their children, can be annoyed by their children's words, and then accuse and reprimand their children. However, this kind of coercive personal behavior will only reinforce the behavior of a child around the age of 3 to say harsh words. Since children around 3 years old are in the first rebellious period of their lives, the dissuasion of parents can only stimulate the child's rebellious psychology.

It can be seen that parents' incorrect emotional regulation will not only not make the child stop saying those sad words, but will make the child more and more happy.

When your child says these sad words, why don't parents try to communicate with them according to the following process? Gradually, guide your child to correct such incorrect speech and behavior. First of all, prevent overreaction and respond sensibly.

As we said before, when parents reflect too much, children will find that this kind of cruel words and bad reputations can actually manipulate the emotions of adults, so as to realize the power of such cruel words. When parents encounter their children and say cruel things, they must remain rational and calm. Gradually, the child will feel bored.

Then, give the child the right to take charge and look for the requirements behind the child's harsh words. Behind a child's harsh words, it is often because a certain request is not met, or the child feels that a certain type of personal behavior is not understood by the parents. At this time, if parents can first see the mentality behind their children's personal behavior, so that children feel understood, children will be willing to tell their parents the main reason for their anger.

When parents understand the main reasons for their children's anger, they can correctly guide their children on how to express their requirements correctly.

For example, when a child is angry and says to his mother, "You're a bad mother! "Mothers can say this to their children

Mommy feels your heartbreak. Everyone thinks that mom is not a good mother. Is it because the mother has done something to make the baby sad?

When children feel that their feelings are seen and understood by their parents, their anger and anger will be alleviated. It will also cause children to think about the reasons behind their words and behaviors. In the end, when the child's mentality recovers, express to the child the sad and sad experience of the parents after hearing the cruel words said by the child.

Emphasize to your child that you want to be able to express your expectations in positive language in the future.

The first brother should talk to the child that he is sad because of what he said, and let the child know that what he said makes him sad. Second, disrupt the tone to see if the child will come to comfort himself and what he will do to make himself happy.

First of all, avoid overreacting and face it calmly. As we mentioned earlier, when parents overreact, children will find that these cruel words can control the emotions of the big loss, and then feel the power of these cruel words. Therefore, when Yehan's parents encounter their children and say cruel things, they must remain calm and calm.

Slowly, the child will find Songkong laughing boringly.

Don't hit them, calm down and reflect on yourself, and take the initiative to talk to them.