I m tired of getting married for a year, how can I change my mentality?

If it were me, I might have adjusted my mindset first. Think about it first, why do you think this way? There must be a reason.

Then find out the problem and solve it. If you just feel that you have no topic with your husband, then you can find one! You can take the initiative to observe him and try to get close to him, maybe your husband is boring, but there is nothing wrong with it, I think it can be done, after all, not everyone can talk about romance, I think this state can be changed appropriately.

When you're in this state, the first thing you think about is, what makes you feel this way? Is it rejection of the husband? That's just because life is boring, that's why I feel like it.

If it's just the former, I suggest you adjust it first, you really can't get by, so you have to take the initiative to say it. If it's the latter, you can find something new on your own, you can go to a skills class, and if you don't have anything to talk to your husband, I think it's perfectly fine. After all, your life shouldn't be the only one.

However, if you want to get close to him, you can also take the initiative to join by observing his interests, so that you have a topic of conversation. You won't get bored. Of course, I think the problem may also be with the husband, so you can talk to him about it, and if he is willing to change, then you will be fine.

If you don't, go find something that interests you. Leave him alone. Only then will you live a happier life, and there is no need to revolve around him, especially if the other person doesn't care<>

But sometimes, we also have to remember a little measured, no matter when, if the other party has not made a big mistake, you are just tired, you can adjust your mentality first, don't go outside to find someone, you can take the initiative to sign up for skills classes, meet more friends, so that life will not be too boring, as for the husband, also tell him honestly, if he is willing to change, then it is good. If not, then we can live our own lives, in fact, there are many things to care about, so there is no need to only care about him, we can completely jump out of marriage and look outside.

I think you should communicate with the other person often, or simply go on a trip, which will promote the relationship between you and change your tired mindset.

The first thing to do is to adjust your emotions, and then two people can be separated for a while, so that you can also change this mentality of yourself.

Change your mind, let yourself be more tolerant of each other, find out more good about each other, and when your perception of the other person changes, your mentality can change with it.

I think you should think about why you chose your marriage partner at that time, to find the shining point in the other party, a year of marriage should be a sweet period, you should find out the reasons that make you unhappy, marriage is not a child's play, you should look at feelings responsibly.

Try to create more freshness, a little more ritual in life, and both of you go out to travel to increase your feelings.

You must tell yourself that two people don't really know each other completely, and if you get along again, you may be able to find the shining points in each other, and you will be willing to be with each other.

Be sure to tell yourself that the relationship between two people has been tested, that you need to be responsible for each other, and that you need to find common fun with each other in life.

You can add some spice to the lives of two people, you can buy gifts for each other, or take each other out to play.

1. Increase the joy of life

When two people first got married, they were still very fun, but after being married for a long time, they slowly became dull, so there will be problems in the relationship, and it is easy to get bored, and when this kind of psychology appears, it must be adjusted as soon as possible. First of all, you must learn to add some fun to your life, such as making some surprises for the other person. And surprises make people very happy and happy.

For example, he has worked hard all day, and when he comes home, you have to give him a warm hug, so that he can feel that you care about him, and the life of the two of them will be fun again.

2. Reduce nagging

In a marriage, I am very worried that women are always nagging, because women have nothing to do, nagging will make men very annoyed, especially men with greater work pressure, who are working hard outside, and will listen to your nagging when they go home, and after a long time, the marriage will definitely be in the boredom period. If you want to get through this boredom period, women must reduce their nagging, know how to understand each other, and then tolerate each other more, so that the relationship will last longer. And if you are a man and you also love to nag, then you have to change the problem of nagging.

3. Give the other party some independent space

Two people live together every day, there is no personal space, and for this matter, it is actually not a good thing, so if you want to get through the boredom period, you must give each other a certain amount of independent space, but this degree must also be grasped, because once you give more, then it is very likely to let the other party and other people to contact, so there will be some bad things, and if you give less, and make the other party feel very oppressive, so you must pay attention to balance.

Conclusion:

In marriage, there will actually be a period of boredom, but if there is still love, then this period of boredom will definitely pass. Therefore, don't give up your marriage easily, and work hard to manage it, so that you can have happiness.

You must know how to adjust your life, don't live the same life, occasionally have some surprises, occasionally come to some sweetness, and don't be afraid of occasional contradictions, but don't make a lot of noise, a good way to deal with it will make the relationship very stable.

It is said that Xiao Bie is better than a newlywed, and two people who have been together for too long can keep a proper distance, and they don't need to stick together all the time. Or make a little surprise once in a while.

I think you should adjust your mentality, you have to think more about the good of the other person, and you don't always dislike the other person.

Learn to upgrade each other's self-attraction. Writer Yang Daxia Yang Ke described.

Autosuggestion, self-hypnosis. I still like him a little more.

Married for three years, not noisy or noisy, plain as water. When I first got married, I was always full of novelty, and when I saw the person in front of me, I felt that I would be able to grow old like this.

But day after day, year after year, married life always makes it easy to fade and fade the cup of tea of marriage.

A male fan once asked me backstage:

When I first got married, I really loved her and wanted to live with her for the rest of my life, but after three years of marriage, I can't even recall the feeling I felt when I first wanted to get married. There were hardly any quarrels, because he was used to backing down. Every time there is a little conflict, he will always choose to back down to avoid a quarrel.

Not only that, whether it is a birthday or Valentine's Day, when he proposes to go out to dinner or watch a movie, she will feel that it is too wasteful, and it is better to have a meal at home.

Over time, there is no wind and waves in the original married life, and there is no ripple at all.

And what marriage is afraid of is not quarrels, but without any ups and downs.

The reason why I started to get tired: For men:

He hopes that after getting married, you will not be tossed by the firewood, rice, oil and salt of life, and still maintain the original sweetness and loveliness;

He hopes that after getting married, you won't be alone and will still nest by his side as a little girl who needs to be relied on;

He hopes that after you get married, you will not be too sensible and submissive, and you will still be angry and coquettish with him.

And for women:

She hopes that you can still maintain the old sense of ritual, remember her birthday, and give her the occasional surprise;

She wants you to compliment her on her hard work and dedication, even if it's just a smile of approval;

She wants you to go wherever you want to go, as you promised. The reason why marriage is tired must be caused by two people.

If you can understand each other's needs a little more, marriage will only be like an old wine buried in the ground, which will last for a long time.

It's normal, life is boring, and after a long time, it is inevitable that you will get tired, although you are tired, but you can't do without it.

You don't live for others, you live for yourself. To each his own. Marry yourself.

After three years of marriage, we start to get tired of it, and I think that generally about three or four years, especially after having children, everyone will quickly get tired of married life and tired of each other.

Not long after we got married, I conceived a baby, due to malnutrition, and because I didn't know how to cook, my husband didn't have time to take care of me, so I could only go to my mother-in-law's house for a while, and then I felt that my husband and my husband slowly began to be estranged, I told him many times, his mother is not my mother, it is impossible to treat me like my mother, but he doesn't listen, he always says that his parents are very good, how is it, but I went to my mother-in-law's house, my mother-in-law plays mahjong every day, The cooking is not on time, and my father-in-law smokes at home every day, and it is useless to say it, and at this time he always says that I am not sensible, etc., and slowly finds that he is unwilling to call him to say these things.

Later, I went back to my parents' house, and my mother took care of me, she had a lot of things to do, but she was also dedicated to taking care of me, because I was too sick of pregnancy and vomiting, and my appetite was really not good, and I was very picky, so I could feel the distress of my parents, and then after giving birth, my in-laws did not say to help take care of the confinement, nor did they say to help take care of the child, in short, my confinement was taken care of by my mother, and he felt that his mother's waist was not good, and I had to understand if he could not come.

Later, we couldn't take the baby alone, and it was true that a person would not take care of it, so I took the baby back to my parents' house, his parents ** did not hit a stool Xun, at first I and he will be a day **, and then slowly I don't want to pick him up **, and I don't want to talk to him too much, we have been separated for about ten months After I went back, I felt that the two of them could not be like the feeling when they were in love, when the first empty waited for us to be married for just three years, and the feeling at that time was that I wanted to return to a person's life.

This may also be the feeling of lack of thought, if it reaches a certain time, it will happen that some people will get tired of it, and they will feel that Hu Gao is bored, but the probability of this kind in a year is still relatively rare.

I think you will get tired of getting married within 5 years of marriage, because marriage within 5 years is the most unstable period, and the grinding dust of two people at all levels is simply related.

Because of his youthful vigor and resolute character, he does not give in to each other, and thinks that anyone can leave whom, and there is no dependence on one party.

Under the influence of this kind of thinking, when there is a crisis in marriage, sometimes they turn a blind eye and go their own way. Communication can also create feelings of resistance.

Therefore, within 5 years of marriage, many people will get bored.

As the fatigue period passes, the two people will reflect on each other, begin to take into account their feelings for Pai Lingfang, and make up for their own shortcomings, so that the marriage will slowly get on the right track.