I became the kind of person I used to hate the most

The people who hate it the most are also the people who are most needed by society....

It's not that you want to change, reality changes you.

Holding the mobile phone to swipe the circle of friends, swiping more than a dozen times, until several times in a row could not brush the new friend status, then reluctantly put down the mobile phone, and a few minutes later picked up the mobile phone again, repeating the previous action. I don't know when my life began, like a pool of stagnant water...

When I went to college twelve years ago, including a few years after graduating from college, there were no smartphones at that time, a notebook was enough, I usually watched movies on the Internet, took the bus with my girlfriend for more than an hour to go shopping in my spare time, and occasionally circled the playground with my girlfriend at night, talking about each other's thoughts, that was a very comfortable life.

In addition to these, my favorite thing at that time was to write things, just like Weibo now, the circle of friends, at that time, I liked to write some mood essays in the QQ space, year after year, good mood, bad mood, all written into electronic logs, every time I look at it, I can feel the mood at that time.

However, I don't know when I started to write, I didn't like to write, I didn't like to record the beauty of life, and I didn't like to write down my feelings when I was hurt.

It may be when it changes from a blog to a microblog, or it may be when it becomes a circle of friends from a QQ log, when the feelings that can be expressed need to be counted in terms of words. When life begins to stay the same, when I stop looking for something new, when my heart stops throbbing, I feel like my spirit is starting to grow old....

I read an article before, which roughly means: the sign of aging is not physical aging and aging, but that you dare not let yourself be in an unfamiliar environment anymore, and are afraid of starting a new life in an unfamiliar environment.

Lose the urge to take risks and the courage to try new things, and by this time you have already begun to grow old.

And I, it seems, have lived and worked in a city and a unit for eight years, and my clothes have become more and more dignified, the colors have become more and more dull, and my life has become more and more monotonous. More and more conformist, forward-looking, cautious...

When I first came to this city eight years ago, when I entered this unit, I saw that the life of my brothers and sisters was really boring, and I felt that this city was cold and lifeless. My brothers and sisters always said to me, "It's so good to be young when you look at you!" ”

At that time, I never thought that one day I would say this to the new post-90s children in the unit.

I don't know who said it, but one day you'll become the kind of person you used to hate.

I didn't believe it before.

I don't know when I started to become the kind of person I used to hate...

Why, slowly, we all became the people we used to hate the most.

Yesterday, we made a judgment about our family, are you in or have you been in a toxic family?

If so, let's move on to the kind of harm you have suffered.

Toxic families can be divided into 7 patterns of behavior.

These 7 family behavior patterns have turned the place that should bring children love, warmth, respect, trust, safety and other good feelings into a hell on earth, allowing children to escape, self-deceive, self-abandon, obey, and conceal. Moreover, when the poisoned child grows up, the behavior pattern will become closer and closer to the toxic parent.

There is a plot in the TV series "It's All Good", Su Mingyu and her father had a fierce quarrel in the police station, and the quarrel was particularly fierce, and then her father suddenly stood on the sofa and shouted, saying: "Zhao Meilan, you are Zhao Meilan." At that moment, Su Mingyu suddenly understood that she had become the person she hated the most.

She hated her mom, but she ended up being her mom.