Why is he so ruthless, why is a man so ruthless?

Feelings are sometimes just a one-person thing. Nothing to do with anyone. To love, or not to love, can only be decided by itself.

Anything can always be made simple if you are willing. The way to preserve feelings lies in retreating. Violent confession, strong approaching, entanglement to the end, and other gestures are nothing more than pushing themselves to the edge of the cliff of self-esteem, and it is a dilemma to advance and retreat, and there is no way to give a transition.

Losing or never getting a person is the second thing, how to clean up the broken heart. At the end of the day, pain is just a one-person thing. We can be disappointed, but not blindly.

You're out of luck. Alas. Encounter this kind of dead man. It's inevitable to be sad, but I still want to open up and face it positively.

Don't let such people go.

Since you have given up, don't think about him again.

That would only hurt you.

Find something else for yourself to pass the time.

It'll be fine after a while.

I can understand your feelings.

I'm in a similar situation to you right now

I couldn't let go of it before, but then I regretted it. I realized how stupid I was at the beginning, and if I had chosen again, I would not have looked for her again. You are wrong about giving up a forest for the sake of a tree.

What happens after we meet? What can change? Let him disappear from your life and disappear into his life.

It's supposed to be like this, if it's me, I'm like this.

What about meeting? It's better not to see.

If it were me, I'd be flashed early.

Don't bother to care, so you don't get tired.

Many men are very ruthless, saying that they will break up when they break up, mainly because he is rational thinking, he judges whether a period of Keqing is suitable or not, and he will not think emotionally, but rationally, so he is very ruthless.

1. Thinking. Men are rational thinkers, so he judges whether a relationship is appropriate or not, while women are emotional thinkers, judging a relationship with love and non-love. So you will find that women will say when they go to a man after being broken up

Do you still love me? ”。If a man says "don't love", "I don't believe it, I don't believe you're going to stop loving me, you're lying, aren't you?"

First of all, let me tell you: it is impossible for love to disappear. But what men are talking about is whether it is suitable or not, what you are talking about is whether it is suitable or not, and you are talking about love and not love. So what you call desperation is the conclusion you come to after your perceptual thinking.

2. Steps to recover.

Generally, a man breaks up mainly into two situations: one is that he feels inappropriate and forces you to break up. The second is that he feels that there are a lot of negative emotions now, and when he reaches the limit, he can't hold it anymore and wants to break up.

Either way, if you go to him at this time, you're only going to create something called negative emotion. He wants to break up, you want to redeem it, and that's when the two of you start to fight. He will say more things that hurt your heart and try to get you to give up.

So what he said: "Get out of here", "There is no chance", is it true? It's not, it's just that he wanted to escape at that time, so he said what the coward said.

At this time, you should not lose confidence and feel that there is no hope of recovery. "He said so", don't listen to what he says, but you have to be clear about what you want to do, and that's it.

You have to eat, don't you eat until you're hungry", and even tell you: "Are you really not hungry?" ”。

You will find that even if the child is hungry, he will not eat. But you throw the bowl over there and go away by yourself, and he will be hungry later, and he will eat himself. So the child can't be forced, and neither can the feelings.

Personally, I think there are several reasons why men are ruthless

1. Other character problems.

He just wants to find someone with good family conditions, he dislikes you and he doesn't match, and the family is poor, so he breaks up.

Second, you put too much pressure on him.

Although you have been encouraging him and accompanying him to find a job, you also said that sometimes you are tired and talk harder.

I don't know how much you said, but you can tell from your letter that you don't think there's anything wrong with yourself.

But I guess you must have hurt his self-esteem, otherwise you wouldn't have mentioned it in your letter, and he wouldn't have reacted so much.

Third, he is afraid of hurting his self-esteem.

It is possible that he does not have the ability to buy a house at all, but because the work has made him very frustrated and his self-esteem is very hurt, he simply breaks up with you, lest you say something that he can't accept.

Fourth, he is afraid of failing you.

Both of you are currently not earning much, and he has just worked, so both parties are not able to afford to buy a house at this time, which means that if you want to buy a house, you two have to gnaw at the old.

As a 30-year-old man, he may not be able to leave all the pressure of buying a house to his parents, and he doesn't want to disappoint you, so in a dilemma, the best thing to do is to break up with you.

Fifth, he felt unfair.

Although we all think that the man should pay for the house when he gets married, if the woman doesn't pay a penny, and his own ability is limited, I'm afraid he will feel uncomfortable.

Everyone's emotional experience and handling style is different, so whether a guy will be 100% committed to the next relationship after the previous relationship is hurt is different from person to person. Some boys may become cautious and conservative because of the injury of the previous relationship, and have a certain defensive attitude towards the next relationship; And some boys may actively face the hurt of the previous relationship, learn from it, cherish the next relationship more, and devote themselves wholeheartedly to it.

Whether or not a guy is 100% committed to the next relationship, he needs to give himself a certain amount of time and space to recover and adjust. When facing a new relationship, the boy should maintain an open and sincere attitude, respect the feelings and needs of the other person, and build a relationship of mutual trust and respect. At the same time, boys also need to learn to protect their emotions and interests to avoid being hurt again.

As for why a man is easy to be ruthless, that is, he has a third party, or he likes someone else, and he has experienced the beauty of other women, he will feel that it is wonderful to fall in love with this woman. Let's see what my former women were like, I don't seem to like it very much. Only by separating from you can he be with her in peace.

And at this time, in order to get rid of you as soon as possible and be able to be with his new love as soon as possible, he will be very ruthless to you.

Then there is actually a purpose, which is to force you to break up as soon as possible, to force you to leave him quickly, so that he can immediately devote himself to the gentle township of his new love, and then to a higher level, it is called growth difference. It's that when the two of you are just together, no matter who is high or low, the two of you are almost a match. As the two of you have been together for a long time, then, this man he slowly gets better and better.

But you don't grow significantly, you have a growth difference with him, in other words, your values don't match, so there is a huge difference between you. Man, he'll feel that it's not appropriate to say that the two of us are inappropriate. He will not show much affection to a low-value goddess, or to a woman who is far inferior to himself, because he will feel that it is unnecessary.

Because most men don't know how to cherish it, they all seem to feel ruthless.