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Communicate well and analyze what is wrong with him.
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If you want to talk to him that swearing is not good, no one likes it, that he is an impolite child, talk a lot about similar things.
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It is not good to educate children by beating and scolding. Because it will affect the child's physical and mental health, it will cause the child to be short-tempered. So I think it's even better to educate in this way!
Kind and firm
It is easy for some parents to believe that kindness is easy to do, but it is difficult to be firm. This kind of parents belong to arrogant parents, who are overly arrogant to their children, causing children to be often self-centered, and the little emperor in the family is born. And some parents are easy to be firm, but forget to be kind.
This type of parent is an authoritative parent, and it is easy to be overly strict with their children, resulting in a decline in their children's self-esteem and a rebellious state as they grow older. Therefore, as parents, our attitude towards our children should be kind and firm. This will raise children who are happy, confident, and responsible.
Less praise, more encouragement
Praise is an outward and a result, and may lower a child's self-esteem. Encouraging identification is internal, it is the process that can improve the child's self-esteem. Therefore, we can use the four principles of encouragement (awareness, concreteness, truthfulness, and interiority) to encourage children to do what is right and deepen their correct impression.
In fact, parents often pay attention to their children's shortcomings, and we change our focus to observe their children's strengths. Because the focus is on, the result is in.
Win four moves
According to brain science, the average person's emotional loss of control is due to the amygdala not working, and from psychology, it is the lack of a sense of belonging and worth. Children generally behave misbehaver for four purposes: seeking attention; Seek rights; acts of retaliation; Ambition.
When a child has these needs, we can use the four steps to win
1. Understand feelings: In fact, there is no good or bad feeling itself, no matter what feeling is, it should be accepted. Therefore, we should solve the relationship first and then solve the problem, understand the child and let him know that the parents are the strong backing.
2. Express empathy: Parents can tell a similar story to show their approval.
3. Tell your feelings: Tell your child what your feelings are like, what your child's feelings are, and expressing emotions does not mean releasing emotions.
4. Co-build solutions: clarify the problem; Brainstorming: Work with your child to come up with various solutions; Determine the scenario; Get moving.
People are not saints and sages, we adults still have times when they make mistakes, let alone children, so when children make mistakes, there is not only a solution of beating, scolding, and punishing. I hope that everyone can grow up happily through the guidance of Mom and Dad.
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Not good. Because educating children by beating and scolding can easily make children lose self-confidence, I don't think it's good.
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In many cases, parents scold their children to vent their bad emotions and seize the child's mistakes as an excuse, which is a punishment based on the premise of the parents' own irrationality, and has no educational value. It will only cast a shadow on the child's soul and plant hatred. Introverted and timid children are often beaten and scolded as a consequence of becoming unassertive, passive, and submissive, and such children often become the target of bullying by their peers.
Growing up, the withdrawn mindset and actions make them marginal. Low career success rate and low self-esteem.
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I don't think it's good to use beating and scolding to educate children. Because this way will make the child's relationship with you less close, and it is easy to have conflicts with the child.
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It is definitely not good to educate children by beating and scolding, because in the process of beating and scolding, it will make children feel guilty, and this will also cause children to have special inferiority, so it will affect children's psychology.
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It's not good, it's a very incorrect way of education, it's easy to make children have low self-esteem, and it will make children have flaws in their character.
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Of course, it is very bad to educate children by beating and scolding, and it will also arouse children's rebellious psychology, making children more and more rebellious, and even not close to adults.
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Not good. Children educated in this way will have very little self-confidence, and children educated in this way will have a particularly serious rebellious mentality.
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It's not good, this is likely to hurt the child's self-esteem, so parents must take the right approach when educating their children.
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Judging from the current society, it must be bad, but looking back at decades ago, which child was beaten and scolded? They are all mixed well, and they may have to decide whether they should be beaten or scolded according to the current environment.
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It is very bad to educate children, because this will make children have an inferiority complex, and the children's courage will be very small, so it is not conducive to the growth of children.
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That way is not good for the child at all, no matter what happens, no matter how big the child makes a mistake, you must treat the child calmly, scolding is useless.
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I think this kind of education is also good for children, so that children can remember for a long time.
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1. Reflect on whether you have this kind of behavior: children like to scold, as a parent, you should first reflect on your own behavior, whether you usually have a mantra, whether you also like to scold, and you never care, the child is imitating yourself, then you should start from yourself, set a good example for your child.
2. Don't take it personally, don't take it to heart: Children like to scold, as a parent, don't take it to heart, think it's a trivial matter, and even think that the child is still young, it's good to grow up, this kind of thinking will only make the child go further and further and become more and more uneducated.
3. Stop and educate children in time: When they find that their children are scolding, parents should stop education in time, tell their children that scolding behavior is wrong, should be civilized, and tell children what they should do is correct.
4. Parents should pay attention to the use of language when educating their children: when children make mistakes, parents must pay attention to their words and deeds, control their emotions, especially do not speak uncivilized and vulgar, which leads to children starting to curse when they are out of control.
5. Repeated teaching, severe criticism of education: children like to scold, as parents do not feel that there is nothing to do, or even laugh over, this is too doting on the child's performance, if the oral education has no effect, parents should criticize harshly, so that the child understands that scolding is not a trivial matter.
6. Stay away from a bad growth environment: children like to scold, maybe it is not caused by the behavior of parents, which is also related to the child's growth partner, some children scold, their children play with each other, and they will also learn badly, so parents should pay attention to their children's playmates and stay away from children with bad conduct.
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"You won't be rude when you talk to me in the future. I'm sure you can do it. Let's make an agreement – the duration of the agreement is up to you. If you do, I'll reward you. If you don't, you'll have to accept my punishment. ”
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You have to know first that children learn to scold from ** and stay away from that environment.
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