Most people think I m handsome, but why can t I find a girl I m used to as a girlfriend?

I can see that you are still very sincere, but maybe you are more timid as you said, so you hide your true emotions in your heart. So I came to this conclusion, because of this shortcoming of your personality, you are often more passive when interacting with others, and will not take the initiative to reveal your heart, so girls are reluctant to approach you (girls are generally shy), and you also doubt yourself and deny yourself, which eventually leads to what you call "inferiority".

Or you are vaguely afraid that others will get along with you because of your looks (even if you don't realize it), so you build a firewall in your heart before others get close to you, hindering your interactions.

Speaking of the relationship between "pride" and "inferiority", uh, I forgot the name of that theory of mind, but the name is not the point, the point is that I don't think you need to care about what others think you are arrogant. I also had such a psychological experience, because of the transfer of schools, at first I was not familiar with my classmates, I didn't dare to approach them (even a little inferior), so I only took care of myself, and then after I got acquainted with everyone, someone told me that I began to think that I was very arrogant, thinking that I thought I had good academic performance and would not play with everyone. (At that time, I was speechless, and that's how the misunderstanding came about).

And I think it's not bad to be alone.,It's really better to go with the flow.。 It can be seen that you are still more sensible, because some people are looking for a partner just to relieve loneliness (very irresponsible attitude). It is true that real life is to face such problems, but you also have your reasons for thinking like this, so you can say to yourself with confidence

What I want to marry is not 'life', but the love of my life. (The second half of this sentence is a little numb, see the smile).

I forgot to mention that not being active enough is not your "shortcoming", but just a "characteristic" that is not very accepted in this era. If you're willing to change slowly, that's a positive attitude.

I can't find the girl I like as a girlfriend, not because you are handsome, but because you are not good at taking the initiative to socialize with people.

Girls are all to chase, and they have to dig out their minds, grind hard bubbles, disregard dignity, and have a dead face to catch up. If you always wait for the girl to take the initiative, you won't get the girlfriend you like.

You haven't confessed since you were a child, and you know it's a dead end. It's normal to be rejected after confessing. Very few boys get consent for the first confession, don't believe you to ask your most iron buddy, (not the top iron, generally for the sake of bragging, will not tell you the truth).

If people don't agree to associate with you, then you should contact them as friends first. (If a girl doesn't even want to be a friend and wants to vomit when she sees you, then unless you have great endurance and the ability to resist hits, you don't have to chase it, and change people as soon as possible.) It's always okay to be invited out as a friend to chat, watch a movie, go shopping, eat.

You don't have to ask someone to agree to be your woman during the contact process, some of my friends are about to get married, and my boyfriend should dare to ask: "Be my girlfriend" and she will also say "no". A smart man will understand that when a woman says "no", she is saying "yes".

During the contact, use your sense of humor to make her happy, girls like humorous boys, usually a smile solves any problem.

Your troubles are understandable, and you are not alone in this confusion. Of course, this is also the result of natural selection. Now I want you to think about a few of the questions I have for you, yourself, whether this is what you want.

1.What are you looking for the opposite sex, sexual needs, comfort of the soul, out of envy of others, in order to get married and cope with your family. 2.

Many people are like this in your current conditions, those handsome guys, beautiful women and the like are owned by a small number of people, but this does not mean that you have everything, you have to ask yourself what expertise you have, advantages, and how to play. This is the most important thing, when you struggle and can be responsible for yourself, you will naturally have the opposite sex in your social circle to be deeply attracted by your charm, this is a matter of attention, and when you have a point of light, it will shine at any time. 3.

Do you have the current ability to support the cost of dating, all kinds of expenses are necessary for you to capture the girl's heart in the future, those so-called as long as you are sincere, are empty words, there is no material basis, what can you really pay for each other, is it like blocking bullets for each other in the movie, it is now a peaceful era, and the probability is very low. Come on, I also have a girlfriend, and she is very beautiful, we have been together for more than three years, I love her, but I don't just say it, I won't take love as everything, I have to have my own career, I have my own deeds, so that I am qualified to love her. Hope the above words are helpful to you.

Character determines everything, and inferiority is not the same as modesty, it is the promotion of friends around you and your own self-appreciation that create your disdainful character. You say that you have low self-esteem, which is just a good excuse, but in fact, on the contrary, you feel that you are handsome, and you have everything a man needs, and it is difficult to match you with the opposite sex. This kind of mentality persists in habits, so that your consciousness is unconsciously arrogant, but you don't realize it.

Women are also human beings, and they also need self-esteem, so their skin is thinner. It's almost impossible for you to ask others to pursue you, if you are not handsome, you have the final say, and a big man should take the initiative to do anything. My friends around me are the opposite of you, they are not handsome at all, but the beautiful women play one after another, what is the reason?

Others are bold and thin-skinned, do you say they are rich, poorer than me. Especially my cousin, who shows off a smug look in front of me all day long, I really want to give him a few slaps.

Brother, don't put yourself too high, it's easy to fall to your death. Your friends say that you are handsome, it does not mean that people other than your friends think you are handsome, your friends are just a small group, can not represent all, each flower into their own eyes, you pretend to be handsome, but stand up, I can guarantee, say that you are as ugly as a beauty.

Dude, it's not good to think like this.

Handsome or not, put it aside first.

People don't distinguish between young people.

People of our age should be able to speak well. I'm not afraid of anything, I'll fool, I dare to think and do anything.

Dare to pursue girls.

To put it mildly, you lack the spirit of shamelessness now, you are afraid of being embarrassed, you are afraid of a bad ending, since you have low self-esteem, what are you afraid of? Anyway, it's like this.,I'm shameless on the slope.。。

Besides, you're afraid of being embarrassed, you don't have anything now, what's a shame? I don't even have the courage to take the initiative, how can I be happy.

Not only a girlfriend, but your future life and wealth will be fought for by your own initiative, so the first step is to start by taking the initiative to pick up girls.

Since you have a good-looking face. That's capital. I guess it's not easy to be rejected, what are you afraid of, how can you succeed without rejection, what can be so easy?

Handsome has a p use, and you can't be a card swipe, you should always enrich your connotation, it's useless to look good at the face, the current society is very realistic, you don't have RMB, you look like a sinking fish and geese, and it's also a duck material.

Others evaluate you Although you say it very well, but it may not be the same behind it, at first glance, you are a simple baby, blindly believe in others, and, if you can't find a girlfriend, it's not about your face, a large part of it is because you don't want to contact others, in fact, what about this thing, it depends on fate.

From your speech, it can be seen that you have a good cultural accomplishment, and your emotional experience is relatively blank. In fact, you belong to the rational type of man, and it is easy to be satisfied, but emotional matters are not so rushed! You can only go with the flow, but don't give up any opportunity to pursue a possible or attractive woman!

In fact, in the final analysis, it is your rational request that the partner is also rational and mature, steady, and responsible, how can you meet it if you don't get in touch?

looks good, you still have low self-esteem;

Knowledgeable, cultured, humorous, and cheerful can change you, try it.

What about my inferiority, just because of my appearance, I'm 25 years old, I don't have a girlfriend, do you say I'm a failure??

Also, boys should focus on their careers and have long children, put aside for the time being, you are a man, and you must be able to support your wife and children in the future!

In fact, you are full of contradictions, while saying that you are very inferior, and on the other hand, you are desperately praising yourself, how handsome, how smart you are Hehe You must inadvertently show that sense of superiority in your interactions with others, which makes others uncomfortable It is recommended that you always tell yourself that I am very handsome or something, in fact, girls look more at the connotation of boys, don't be inferior, and let go of your normal mind to interact with others.

Handsome can't be eaten. Handsome, it means that the girl's first impression of you is better, if you really want to make a girl. Just be cheeky and tell the world that you like him.

Also, behave and talk humorously. Girls generally like humorous and considerate boys. I wish the landlord to find happiness!!

I'm okay too, but I'm a little introverted, and I'm a little inferior, those average boys who look like me have girlfriends, and I'm still a single, alas, sometimes I think it's better to be an ugly man, and I don't have a girlfriend when I'm handsome, and I'm depressed. Brother, you can only wait for fate.

Brother, you have to take the initiative! Don't wait for love just because you're handsome, don't do anything, girls are subtle, and it's best for boys to take the initiative in this regard. Don't be afraid, let's talk about it when we get in the car.

Giving others an outward feeling of arrogance.

And I have low self-esteem.

If you're embarrassed to go to a party, you'll probably be interpreted as "Drag" OKYou have to be confident first.

Check out how to improve self-confidence in books like this or suggest methods.

MD I want to shoot bricks, I go there, people give me the nickname Monkey, but if you want to find the girl you like, you don't tell people, how can people take the initiative, people are probably a little interesting to you, and I'm embarrassed.

When fate comes, you can't stop it! Let it be

The subject, the handsome boy is just his appearance, which will bring the girl a good impression at first sight. But the type of boy that girls like is a self-motivated boy, and if the boy is rich and handsome through hard work, of course it will be better. As long as you are self-motivated, have a plan for the future, and have confidence, then even if you don't have a house or a car, girls will work with you and go through a lifetime together.

So today's boys don't be too angry, complaining, only know how to complain about the society or something, but never plan their lives well, find a good job, start from low, at least this is a very self-motivated, very down-to-earth start.

Funny boys and girls will like, humorous and funny. Therefore, your humor must be improved, don't be too restrained and dull in everything, but in case of emergency, you must be calm and calm, so that you can be considered relaxed. Clean and tidy, a man can not be handsome, but he must be clean and tidy.

Women pay special attention to detail, especially their teeth and hair, and if they open their mouths and see smoke-stained teeth, or at a glance they see bits and pieces of dandruff on their shoulders, their masculinity value plummets instantly. Therefore, men should pay attention to the daily cleaning of all parts of the body, and the hairstyle and dress do not need to be too fancy, just simple and natural.

This is the most overlooked and the most important point. Appearance may be the starting point for acquaintance, but conversational conversation is the key to maintaining a long-term relationship, and in addition to having common topics, it also requires complementarity and humility, and the deadlock of different words can easily cause rifts. For women, how can they be talked about?

Being willing to talk to them and being a good listener is the first priority, and then respecting their ideas, being humorous and being able to amuse them is more practical than giving any gift. The type of boy that girls prefer.

The most important thing is to be responsible. The sense of responsibility refers to being responsible for oneself, managing oneself well, and having the courage to admit and bear one's mistakes and shortcomings, and not shirking and making excuses.

Some guys can find girlfriends without some boys who are not handsome, and some handsome may not be able to find a girlfriend, because he doesn't rely on his face to attract women, he has his side to attract girlfriends. Although some people are beautiful, he can only find a girlfriend if some boys are not handsome, and some handsome may not be able to find a girlfriend, because he does not rely on his face to attract women, he has his side to attract girlfriends. There are people who are beautiful, but they only have an appearance.

Because handsomeness is only one aspect, girls looking for a boyfriend must be evaluated in all aspects.

You said, both of these are cases, and both of these situations are normal. Because love is not the only criterion for whether you are handsome or not.

You can ask this, it means that you are still very young, what are you anxious about, as long as you are good enough, are you still afraid of not having a girlfriend?