How do I choose to give up a fully funded public institution for the sake of a girl?

I sympathize, both for you and for myself, I have a crush on one person for 6 years, and I have never dared to say it. I really liked her, but because I had poor self-control in my studies and my family didn't allow me to make such a choice, I chose to remain silent. I don't know if my choice is right or wrong, but I still choose my current life, try my best not to be distracted to protect my studies, maybe I can win my life in the future, and I can protect the interests of my family to the greatest extent, but it is inevitable that I will lose her, and I am really in a dilemma, why would God let me make such a choice.

I understand your mood at the moment, I hope you can be loyal and filial!If you give up your current job and work hard for the future with her, it will inevitably cause tension and disharmony in the family relationship, and even cause your parents to be dissatisfied with her, so that your future marriage will encounter great resistance from the family. Even if you can reluctantly agree, it will cause tension between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and you will be in a dilemma!

Besides, it is not a small risk to go out, it is full of unknowns, love needs bread, so your work cannot be given up, but your relationship with her can still be maneuvered. I suggest that you can communicate with your parents and use communication to resolve differences and conflicts, so that the effect will be better and the sequelae will be less. When communicating, try to negotiate softly and don't go too far.

At the same time, you must clearly state your position, you like her very much, you don't want to separate, you can impress your parents with sincerity, you can infect your parents with your insistence on love, and try your best to achieve a satisfactory result with your parents. This process is very long and very hard, you have to have full patience and perseverance, because this is not a moment to get your parents to understand, you have to be prepared, but the future is very bright, this requires your unremitting efforts, I believe that your parents will understand sooner or later, work hard, I wish you both a happy life, don't leave too many regrets to yourself like me.

Maybe I'm in the same situation as you, but I personally think you have two options in front of you, the first is to find a way to get that girl to work on your side, which is the most perfect. If it doesn't work, I'll have to take the second way, cut through the mess quickly, maybe a lot of people will spray me, but I still want to say.

The two most important things for a man are the first is work and the second is family. Of course, the former is the foundation, and the latter is the result. It doesn't mean you can't get a good job with him. The salary of a fully funded public institution is a little less, but now it is also a golden job.

If she is unwilling to come over to accompany you, it means that you are already the one who has been abandoned in terms of trade-offs!

Seeing your text made me think, there were once two girls who asked me to leave here (my hometown) and I stubbornly stayed, thinking that I could have a better development here, but both of them left me.

I regretted it, I regretted why I had to stay here, couldn't I have developed when I went to the outside world?I regret it ...

But when they left, I realized that maybe they didn't belong to me, and that we were just two parallel lines that intersected by chance.

Now I am single, I work hard every day for myself to plan for my career, my work is not as good as you, but I don't give up, I keep trying. I believe that my life will not be gray for the rest of my life.

The damage of the past is irreparable, they have left happily, do I want to continue to live in such sadness?No, a good man has ambitions in all directions, although my ambitions are not in all directions. But I will work on my own ideas, and no one can interfere with any of my decisions.

In the same way, you have already gone to the edge, why torture yourself like this, if you want to go out, take a brave step, if you don't want to, then stay, work hard for your future, how wide your heart is, how wide your world will be.

Not necessarily the outside world is suitable for you, you have a lot of problems, improve yourself, you must absorb the experience you have suffered, otherwise you will be waiting for the same pain. I don't want you to suffer the same loss twice on the same problem as me.

It will not harm you if your parents are your relatives, but you are a person, you are an adult person, you have your own ideas, don't be trapped by your own invisible shackles. Come on, I wish you to get to the path you want to go as soon as possible, and have a smooth journey.

If you're sure she's the person you're looking for, the person you're destined to be in this life, then go find him. When you are young, you will learn a lot. The premise is that if you can get your parents to understand you and support you.

If she can come to you, it would be the best of both worlds, and maybe she'd like to. Have you asked her if she thinks so, and suggest you talk to her about it.

Listen to your parents, your parents won't push you into the fire pit, life is realistic.

Parents are all for your good.

I also believe in your love for her.

But. You change your perspective.

Can she give up these things for you?..

If you're confused.

Just listen to your parents.

My motto is: people who don't want me. There's no need to think about her. Because I'm going to give my time to the people who miss me.

A college teacher in my hometown!

Gotta go @1, close to home, there are a lot of benefits, you can't see it right now, because you haven't made it this far.

2. When a woman gives birth to a child, she has to take a vacation, and the teacher's double holiday is very comfortable.

3. The salary is small, don't worry about it at all, how much is more? If you have a formal and stable job, you generally have no problem finding a partner with a good family background, you will soon have a house and a car, and your quality of life will also go up. As everyone knows, do poor couples mourn?

4. Teachers have high social status, good reputation and low pressure.

Don't think that the moon in other provinces is necessarily very round, and don't think that the metropolis is very good, and the civil servants are very moisturized, in fact, civil servants and journalists are not as beautiful as imagined.

Reporter. There are many contacts, and sometimes there are some benefits, even if the leader has to give you some face

Wow, it's all good work, do you recommend being a teacher, girl? Do it first, if you can't do it, you will take the civil service exam.

1 Didn't say it was a probationary contract, it wasn't. In addition, although it is a public institution, the staff of the appointment system shall be handled in accordance with the labor contract. The expiration date can be renewed. After meeting the statutory conditions, an indefinite-term labor contract may be requested. Further contact can be made.

There is no need to sign an employment contract every year, but it is generally enough to sign it once every three years.

If you have obtained a professional title, you can also sign it once for a term of employment. It is better to sign consecutively, which is conducive to raising the salary grade. If you sign more than three times in a row, you can apply for a long-term contract.

At present, public institutions also need to sign employment contracts, and the employment period is one or two years, and each unit is not necessarily the same.

The contract of public institutions in many places is a formality, that is, some of the so-called full employment system is implemented, and the result is that there is one more job, and the contract is filled out once a year.

The Ministry of Human Resources and Social Security requires that in 2009, the reform of the employment system of public institutions should be completely completed and the establishment should be abolished. It can be summed up as "the old system for the old people, and the new methods for the new people", and there is no problem in adopting the employment system and signing employment contracts for all new employees. But why is your contract period so short?

We sign contracts every year for one year. Public teachers.

1. According to Article 2 of the Labor Contract Law, public institutions must also comply with the Labor Contract Law. Instead of signing the "Employment Contract of Public Institutions", the "Labor Contract" should be signed.

2. If the employer enters the unit in June last year, it shall sign a labor contract within one month, and it is illegal for the unit not to sign it, according to Article 82 of the Labor Contract Law, if the employer fails to conclude a written labor contract with the employee for more than one month but less than one year from the date of employment, it shall pay the employee twice the monthly wage.

3. After working for one year in June this year, although the labor contract has not been signed, the de facto labor relationship exists, and it has the same legal efficiency as the signing of the labor contract, and the re-signing of the labor contract shall be regarded as the renewal of the labor contract. In other words, the contract you signed this time is the second contract.

4. It should be noted that the one-year term of the labor contract this time is fine, but if it is signed after one year, that is, in June 2009, the indefinite term labor contract should be signed in accordance with the provisions of Article 14 of the Labor Contract Law.

5. The Labor Contract Law on the Probationary Period also clearly stipulates that the probationary period shall not exceed 6 months for the longer term of the labor contract, and the probationary period of one year is also illegal, which is also related to wages and benefits, and it is recommended that you refer to the following provisions of Articles 19 and 20 of the Labor Contract Law.

I was in the same situation as you last year, and I finally gave up the institution I chose to go to graduate school. The procedures are a bit troublesome, and I went to the school several times, but each school may be different.

Maybe after getting married, you will find that you will not be able to stand her temper and choose what suits you, after all, love is not one-sided, if your love is not cherished, then it is pointless to continue to entangle, and it can only be you who is hurt, isn't it?So, let it go!Your choice is right, I support you!

I'm thinking from a girl's point of view, personal opinion, :

Agree, a marriage without love is a funeral, only couples who have gone through the wind and waves can eventually become husband and wife, go find your love!

Since you have chosen to give up, what is the problem?You should really put it down, don't think about it anymore, are you afraid that you won't be able to find a good one with such conditions?To be honest, can you really tolerate a girl with such a personality?

Wouldn't it be the same as her ex-boyfriend?Why do you ask for hardship? Let's find a better one.

If she doesn't love you, just be calm, just think that this girl is one of the teachers of your love, some people have fate, some have fate. Calm down and find true love. Go for it!

It is not recommended to find a wife like this, it is okay to fall in love.

Why are you alive?

If she is a very filial and sensible person who will not make her parents sad no matter what, then she will choose to continue like this, and her character will take over everything. Even if she has the urge to rebel, in the end, she will never be persuaded by her character.

If she was a person who was originally rebellious, had her own opinions, had her own ideas, and dared to realize her ideas, then she would not have been forced to get married in the first place. Apparently she's still a little weak, at least I think. Don't say why you got married according to your mother in the first place, the most important decision at the moment depends on how happy you are.

As far as I'm concerned, I don't hesitate to choose love. Because the original marriage was not what I wanted, the children were a burden, a burden, and a painful memory for me. And not something crystallized or hopeful.

I'm still young, I have the right to enjoy the life I should live, life is only once, live for yourself, live happily, otherwise it's better not to live!

Both, but not with the current person, she can raise the child to her parents first, and then raise it herself when she is older, and there should be someone who loves her and loves this child, after all, the child is innocent!

First of all, I'm very sorry for this girl. Before yes or no, I think that if it were me, I would have to see if this person chosen by my parents for me loves me and loves me, if so, in fact, you are already very happy, otherwise the parents will be sad, the child will be sad, and he will be sad; If not, I would have found my true love.

Makes sense, and I agree.

It's to see if the person your parents have chosen really loves you.

If so, you'll be happy.

The child is innocent, and a child must not be allowed to lose a father who loves and loves him.

Or the loss of a mother.

Learn to save yourself, not your marriage! ~

This situation will occur in the subordinate units of a fully funded public institution, and this situation will not exist if you are in the headquarters of a fully funded public institution.

Yes, this is due to the fact that under the original system, the reform of public institutions was not thorough or difficult to promote. At present, there are many public institutions called full financial appropriation, but many public institutions of this type are actually openly engaged in business activities, but it is difficult to manage and reform public institutions in terms of public institutions, so it is tacitly understood that it is not appropriate to break it, especially the "fully allocated public institutions" that implement transfer payments by financial allocation. Therefore, there is also the situation you mentioned in the public institutions with full financial allocation, and it is a relatively common phenomenon.

It depends on what kind of life you want, if you want to be stable, you can go to the public institution, and if you want to challenge the high salary, you can go to the enterprise.

Yes, there were just over 1000 at the beginning.

After that, there were about 3,000.

Anyway, there are subsidies for the New Year's holidays.

The year-end bonus is also substantial.

Regardless of his treatment first, I can sign up for the exam first to hold an iron job bowl!

I wish you a happy day and a lot of money!

In the beginning, there were just over 1,000.

After that, there were about 3,000.

Anyway, there are subsidies for the New Year's holidays.

The year-end bonus is also substantial.