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Whoever is serious first in the relationship loses. I agree with that. Marriage is life, Zheng Banqiao once said such a sentence:

It's rare to be confused" two people live together, it is impossible without contradictions, and it is normal to quarrel and fight. But don't call it true, husband and wife fight at the head of the bed and at the end of the bed. If both of them are serious, they won't be able to live, they can only pretend to be confused, and anything can pass.

Endure the calm for a while, take a step back and open the sky. Is it that one side lets the other side from getting bigger, in order to live a good life? For the sake of something, both sides were serious, and it was really impossible to live that day.

I don't agree with this statement, feelings and feelings, if you don't take feelings seriously, how can you have real feelings? All feelings are serious, serious people are not losing, if we have a friendship, I am very serious to pay in the end in exchange for losing, then this relationship is not okay. Maybe many people hear this sentence to describe love, I don't know who came out of this sentence, but I want to say, he said it wrong, maybe he was because he paid seriously, but in the end he didn't get the desired result, so he said so.

In fact, otherwise, we should take any relationship seriously, whether it is love or friendship, if we are not serious, there will be no real feelings.

Serious people are the cutest, serious people are not losing, they understand, and those who are not serious are really losing, it's not that you hurt my heart, but you don't care that I lost, just let me see it clearly, and let it go. Take every feeling seriously, and you will be able to get real feelings, just like we are ignorant in the end but we are brothers and sisters, just because we are serious, we give true feelings, and what we get is true feelings.

If you only focus on the other person in your eyes and heart, then you have no ego at all. You don't have an ego, you're just a parasite on the other person, and you live on the other person. So, what do you make the other person love about you?

What capital do you have to attract the other person's appreciation? And what qualifies to be loved?! One must be able to love oneself before one is eligible to be loved.

In the relationship, if we are not serious, the other party must reciprocate with seriousness. We are willing to be serious, and that is because the other person has the charm to attract us. And whether the other party can be serious about us also depends on whether our own charm can attract the other party.

In the relationship, whether it is a couple or a couple, it is best to maintain a certain sense of distance, this distance is not the physical distance, but the spiritual space. It is necessary to leave some independent mental space for each of them. I once made an analogy that a couple is like two circles, and if one person wants to fit the other person in everything, it means that the two circles overlap completely.

The short-term is acceptable, but in the long term, the other party is definitely unwilling. Because the other party will want to have their own independent space.

The real passer-over will silently stay next to the lovelorn for fear that he will do something stupid, and then listen to him cry, eat with him, drink with him ......, he basically didn't say anything, but there was a line to the effect that: Dude, I understand your pain at this time. If you can really be together, no matter how much you win, it will be his; No matter how much he loses, it's yours.

May there be lovers in the world who will eventually become married.

It's not that "whoever is serious loses", it seems that the party who promises more in the relationship is more sad, but in fact, the party who promises less is not as free and easy as they think, and they are also suffering in this unequal relationship.

In a relationship where the commitment is not reciprocal, the aggrieved partner is often very engaged and has a strong desire to maintain the relationship with the other party, but the other partner does not seem to have a strong will, and even retains the opportunity to associate with other people. If you really want to manage a relationship, the first thing is, don't avoid talking about it.

The party who commits more may feel that they are in a posture of persecution, while the other half is always running away. Because of fear and anxiety, we are constantly guessing and worrying, but we can't really communicate our thoughts with each other.

It's important to communicate your thoughts directly to the other person, not to force the other person to express the same commitment, but to test the state of the relationship.

Also, as intimacy increases, make a clear decision when you want your intimacy to go further. Don't skip this step and let the relationship just unwittingly fall into a more ambiguous situation.

Otherwise, you'll fall into a situation of "are we dating?" What kind of relationship are we now? "Confused.

As you go through the series of steps of dating, securing a relationship, living together, getting married, and having children, try to be clear about your commitment to each other and keep the level of commitment and intimacy in sync.

If you want to have a long-lasting, stable relationship, make your attitude clear as early as possible and confirm that your partner wants to continue the relationship as much as you do.

What we expect is a reciprocal commitment and a reciprocal dedication. It's not to make my partner feel that I'm the only one who cares about this relationship.

I don't think so, love shouldn't be judged by winning or losing. The most beautiful appearance of love should be two people accompanying each other and supporting each other, and no true love is lacking in soul. It is precisely because of this that the more two people give to each other, the more they love each other.

There is no right or wrong in a relationship, only willingness.

I often hear people say that whoever is serious first in love loses. But what's the point of such a relationship if you're not serious? This statement is a bit unconscionable.

Feelings are not child's play, and only serious efforts can be rewarded. The great English writer William Shakespeare once said: All love that is not aimed at marriage is a hooligan.

If there is no sincerity in love, then there is no need for this relationship to continue, no one is a fool who knows that this relationship has no result, and is stupid to pay for his own efforts. Feelings are mutual, a person's love is called a crush, and the relationship between two people to work together is called love, which is a symbol of happiness and the best time of love.

In love, it is naturally best if two people fall in love with each other at the same time, but, in general, one party falls in love with the other party first, and after hard work, the other person falls in love again. Actually, if you look at it this way, it's unfair to fall in love with that person first.

Some people say that love should be equal, just like between people, there is no difference between people, we are all equal, but love is not like this. The person who falls in love first, after a period of time to make the other person fall in love with him, if you really want to make a comparison, the longer the time, the more you will naturally pay. Then, the person who pays first must be the one who is serious first.

In fact, everyone will understand the truth, but no matter how thoroughly they understand, most people still can't do it. Just like no matter how well you learn theoretical knowledge, practice is the most important thing, everyone has a scale in their hearts, and in a relationship, whether what they give is equal to what they get. So in love, whoever is serious loses, and I believe everyone knows it very well in their hearts.

There is also a balance in love, whoever loves more will give more, and the balance will tilt towards which side. The longevity of time is only a prerequisite, the focus is on the depth of love, the seriousness of love.

In love, I will always be in a humble state in this love, and I will feel that I am the first to be tempted, and I want him to be tempted by me and fall in love with me. I don't know what I will pay for this, and if I don't get anything in the end, then you are undoubtedly a loser.

Now it is popular for women to chase men, as the saying goes, "men chase women in the mountains, women chase men in the veil", now couples are actually a large half of the women chasing the men do not know when they will change, girls are getting more and more men, boys are getting more and more black, no longer take the initiative but wait for their favorite girls to catch up.

Girls can give everything they have for boys, no matter what they do, as long as boys accept themselves. They will even go down a paranoid path and hurt themselves. At this time, it makes sense to say that in the phrase "whoever is serious first in love loses".

But not every relationship will be so uncomfortable, some people are very lucky that the person he likes happens to like him, and the two of them are happy with each other, but they are just a good time to be together.

Although this statement makes sense, it is not entirely true, and we need to face our love with the right attitude. Love is actually right or wrong, no priority, no win or lose, you fall in love with him first, not necessarily he will not love him more than you later, you have to believe in your own charm. Love requires both parties to work together and manage together, don't feel that if you fall in love with him first, you will always be the loser, maybe you will "turn defeat into victory" in the future.

If you are serious, you will lose, and if you are serious all the time, you will win.

Shouldn't love be serious? Shouldn't you be nice to the person you like? Should we consciously restrain our behavior while being in love? This kind of thinking comes from the fact that there must be a reward for what you give, otherwise how unfair it is.

But I think that if you live with this mentality, I am afraid that not only love, but everything in life will disappoint you. Will you succeed if you work hard? Not necessarily, Emperor Chongzhen also worked hard and tried his best to save the Ming Dynasty, but in the end he still failed to change the outcome of the fall of the Ming Dynasty.

You may say that hard work may not be successful, but there will be accumulation, and these accumulations will increase your talents, and with time, you will definitely be able to succeed in the end. But I'll also tell you that talent doesn't necessarily lead to success. Xiang Yu at the end of Qin can be called a 10,000-strong enemy, and it can be said that until the Battle of Qixia, he almost never lost a battle.

the Battle of Julu, defeating the invincible 200,000 Qin army; In the battle of Pengcheng, he defeated 600,000 troops of Liu Bang's vassal states, killing Liu Jun to trample on himself in order to flee for his life, and Liu Bang himself kicked his child from the carriage twice in order to escape for his life. But in the end, he also failed, and in the next battle, he completely wiped out all the victories he fought, and he lost everything after only one defeat.

I give this example to show that having the ability may not necessarily succeed, not to mention that it may be impossible for us to achieve the same ability as Xiang Yu if we work hard all our lives, which also shows that hard work is really not necessarily successful, and even desperate efforts may not be successful.

In this way, no matter what we think, we have to accept the fact that giving does not necessarily mean gaining. So, does it mean not to give? Of course not, just as you don't necessarily get a good job after graduating from college, why don't you go to college?

As far as my understanding of the objective world is concerned, this world is not a system of determination, but a system of chance. The more you follow the right path and work harder, the more likely you are to reap the rewards.

It's the same with love, if you don't pay because you're afraid of losing, and whoever is serious loses, isn't this the same as saying that we will die one day and lose everything, so don't make any effort, don't give any feelings, don't be good to anyone, just pursue hedonism?

I don't know if a person who works hard will succeed, but my choice is that I am willing to be a person who pays for love!

I think that's the wrong idea. It should be who is not serious and who loses, and what is not serious is not only the trust and morality of life, but more importantly, the loss of good youth.

When I experienced you, you told me a truth, a relationship, if you don't even dare to be serious, even hesitate to take the initiative, then you have already lost it. It was the prime of life, and I carefully painted the makeup and specially selected clothes, just to listen to him say "beautiful", or just a trace of appreciation in his eyes. I've had a crush for many years, and I'm dating for the first time, how can I not be careful?

How can you not be serious?

Each of us often talks about seriousness, but how many people really understand the meaning of seriousness? There are too many things in this world that deserve to be serious: love needs to be taken seriously, and love is taken seriously; Family affection needs to be taken seriously, and we feel beautiful and warm; Life needs to be taken seriously, and we are far away from the cold and the dark ......Only by learning to be serious can we understand the true meaning of happiness, and a person who does not understand seriousness is pathetic.

When you have a relationship, you must know how to take care of it, and don't wait for it to be lost before you regret it. Relationships are fragile and need to be managed by two people. She (he) is like a beautiful and fragile vase, which cannot withstand a beating.

Between you not breaking it, it's beautiful no matter how you look at it. But if you break it, no matter how much you try to make it up, it won't be able to get back to its former state.

The relationship is the same, before the two people have no misunderstanding, it is always sweet, but if one day the two people have a mental estrangement, even if they will release their doubts in the future, it will be difficult for the two people to return to the old time. Once the scars have planted seeds deep in the heart, they are difficult to uproot.

Therefore, seriousness is to take care of each other with heart, take care of each other's emotions, give each other love and warmth, and let the estrangement gradually fade away in the thick warmth.