Why should we be a human being? Be a person and do things, and leave more room for yourself

Caigen Tan has the precept of "attacking people's evil, don't be too strict". It means that in the relationship between people, in the spirit of forbearance and concession, if you suffer a little loss rationally, others will owe you affection, so that you also have the foundation for establishing a good interpersonal relationship. If you make yourself emotional and grumpy because you want to punish someone, and you spend your days thinking about how to rectify that person in retaliation for the harm he has done to you, you have good intentions.

However, it would be foolish to act like this to harm others and not to oneself. People should leave more leeway for themselves to do things. Leave room for yourself and leave room for others at the same time.

Leave room for others and have more room for effective communication. Effective communication is all about harmony. For example, if there is a quarrel between colleagues and friends, the first thing to think about is that this is temporary, and after all, it will be reconciled.

If there is a contradiction between the two sides, they will immediately open up a posture and speak viciously to each other, dare to expose any shortcomings, dare to say any bad things, and dare to scold any bad words.

Many people have experienced the taste of being hurt to varying degrees. You may be so angry that your lips tremble, your face is pale, and you want to punch the person in front of you, but in the end you still suppress your anger and finally don't make a drastic move, but you have hatred in your heart, and you can't forget the moment of humiliation. You want to be magnanimous, but you don't know how to erase unpleasant memories.

As the saying goes: "Adults don't remember villains." It's a pity that you haven't reached the measure of "adult", standing between "wanting revenge" and "forgetting it", you are at a loss, it is torment!

In this torment you forget what you can achieve by leaving more room for yourself and others, so you don't explode in this torment, you wait to fail in this torment!

Nervousness will bring you an invisible sense of oppression, and your mind will become narrow-minded, suspicious and jealous; Unpleasant memories will bring back all kinds of evil thoughts in you, and your pain will not go away, but you will be fooled by yourself. However, in the space that leaves room for the person you hate, there will also be a cute and respectable side. Who are friends and foes?

That's a very narrow dichotomy. The same is true when arguing with others. While it is pleasant to refute the opponent with a rigorous debate, it does not necessarily have to be a complete rebuttal.

Because as long as you think about it, you know that it is actually very stupid to do this, not only does it not benefit yourself, but sometimes it will backfire, you will not get the approval of the other party, and one day you will suffer the consequences and be attacked by the other party.

When we have friction with others, we must first understand their thoughts, and then state our opinions on the premise of taking into account the other person's face, leaving room for the other party. This is something that must be kept in mind when dealing with relationships. Under the pretext that the other party is at fault, you will reprimand the other party in a domineering manner, so that the other party feels embarrassed, then you should be careful, because Bi Hu Chan will one day take revenge on this arrow.

Therefore, even when you should reprimand the other person, leave a little way out for them. Those who let the other party have no way out and no room are doomed to failure!

1. Leave no room for life.

In my many years of work, as long as I agree with someone, I will support them unreservedly within the scope of my authority.

For example, if a supervisor comes to the interview, if he or she has good conduct and corresponding conditions, he or she will be given the expected salary (premise: within the salary system)!

If they fail to meet the expected standards, they will feel aggrieved, have the idea of doing as many things as they want, and even look for opportunities to change jobs; When they meet (exceed) expectations, they will have a strong sense of "being recognized" and will give their all. For the same person, the results of negative work and positive work are very different, and a large number of intangible costs and outputs are simply not measurable.

Of course, the key to maintaining people's hearts is not promotion and salary increase, or even respect and trust, but whether they can develop the potential of subordinates and let their "value" be fully reflected;

2. Leave no room for work.

If you don't push yourself, you never know how much potential you have.

For example, the hotel will make a budget for the next year every year, so we should not try to do as little as possible and take it easy, but should set a high goal and let everyone do their best to achieve it. Of course, we can't set unrealistic goals in order to cater to investors and ignore the interests of employees.

"Leave no room" is an ultimate spirit, which can only be cultivated in all aspects of the work, in order to fully stimulate the potential of the team, in order to cultivate a different, excellent team with super combat effectiveness.

"It's hard to be a man, it's hard to be a man. This is a phrase that has often been lamented by people since ancient times.

"It's hard to be a man, it's hard to be a man. The reasons for this, of course, are many. But there is one thing that we can control, and that is to leave room for things to do things, and try not to overdo it as much as possible.

What is leeway? In fact, the ancients have long told us: "Hunt without burning forests, and fish without drying up the waters".

Zeng Guofan said: "Leave room for everything, and elegance can tolerate people." Balthasha and Gracian wrote in the Book of Wisdom:

Push what is right to the extreme, and it becomes wrong; Squeeze the juice of a sweet orange dry, and it becomes bitter. Even if it's a pleasure, don't go to extremes. If the mind is too sharp, it is dull; Too much milk is milked, and it is blood, not milk, that ends up being squeezed out.

These sages are nothing more than a warning to us: everything has a degree, and there must be room for doing things. It should be said that due to the different experiences and positions of people, they have different perspectives on problems, and their views on the same thing will inevitably be different.

Therefore, leave room for doing things, talk too much, leave room for others, and leave a way out for yourself. This is not only a manifestation of generosity to others, but also an opportunity to mediate for oneself in the future, which is called giving others the way to go, and the road they will walk will be wider and broader.

If a person breaks the kettle and kills them all, so that he does not leave room for others, he is cutting off his own way back, and if he does not leave room for himself, he is forcing himself to a dead end.

Leaving room for doing things is a kind of wisdom of people, a feeling of people, and more importantly, kindness and virtue of people.