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Looking at the middle-aged men around us, some of them are successful and their lives are extremely nourishing; Some are still working the road to success; Some are destitute, content with the status quo, and the more they live, the more they fail. Why is there such a big difference in the same stage of life? The root cause lies in the huge difference in their mindsets.
Consciousness has a counter-effect on matter, which is a truth that has been verified by facts, and it is only because their poor thinking imprisons their brains that they have wrong actions. Psychological research shows that middle-aged men, who live more and more "mourning", are trapped in these four "poor thinking".
Subconsciously ignore the value of time.
There is a lot of injustice in the world, but there is one thing that everyone is equal, and that is time, and everyone has a day and only twenty-four hours. Successful men are successful because they value their time, and they can divide their twenty-four hours into seconds, do what they have to do, and never waste a second. And those low-level men don't realize the importance of time at all, squander their time, and when they realize it, they have regretted it, causing themselves to fail more and more.
Lingering on sunk costs.
People have to be bold and ambitious, but also to be able to take risks, there is no such thing as a zero-risk and high-yield investment. Some people, for various reasons, lose the cost they put in, and then they are depressed and always regret it, and they can't let go of the sunk costs that they have lost, which eventually leads to themselves cringing and losing many better opportunities in vain. If a man doesn't want to mourn, he must learn to adjust his mentality and put the time and energy to regret his failure experience in the opportunity later, which is the right thing for men to do.
Lack of adequate execution and self-control.
There are many men who like to procrastinate, always like to do useless things before doing tasks, and always do not do tasks until the last moment, and when they really encounter an emergency, they can only be helpless, and it is too late to do what should be done. Men will become more and more depressed, and this is the reason, so if a man wants to succeed, he must have super execution and self-control. Put what you need to do first, restrain your playfulness, and put all your energy on what you need to do, so that you are not far from the success of a man.
I like to live within my means more than to be goal-oriented.
There is a big difference between determining the goal and then doing things and determining the result and then doing things, many men like to consider the results and interests of things first, the persistence of this idea is insufficient, and it is easy for a man to be attracted by those things that have greater gains, but in the end he picks up sesame seeds and loses watermelons; It is also not conducive to the growth of men, and many people are likely to abandon their moral code and do whatever it takes to achieve their ends. Men should set the right goal, don't think about what the result is, as long as you work hard and persevere, the result will not be bad. Always keep in mind
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Because the mental state is not good during this time period, it is very depressed, and the pressure is relatively large, and it is easy to get lucky.
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Because these men feel that after middle age, they should have an attitude of enjoying life, so that they can live a happier life.
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For its own reasons. Because I think that some middle-aged men themselves will not be able to improve their own learning ability, so there will be a trend of decline.
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Life is like a parabola, the first half of life is going uphill, and after reaching the top, it begins to go downhill, which is inevitable. The so-called back waves of the Yangtze River push the front waves, this sentence has a certain truth. With each passing day, the old will be replaced by the new.
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Because of these men, their energy has decreased after middle age, and they are generally not so ambitious.
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Once a person reaches middle age, the focus is on stability, if a middle-aged and elderly man is still restless and dishonest at this time. and also did things that are despised by integrity, such as betrayal of marriage, in fact, you should know that the next part of your life should go to **. On the one hand, in terms of career, people who will definitely suffer from the same industry and ridicule from their colleagues, and who can't pass the morally level after all, it is indeed impossible to achieve success in their work.
On the other hand, your family and children will slowly move away from you, and without the strong support of your family and the help of your friends, there is no way to make a difference.
When you are young, it is actually a meaningless thing to make mistakes, but when you reach middle and old age, especially after starting a family, men still refuse to stop immediately and refuse to start over. Especially for men with gambling addiction, when they reach middle age and start a family, they will not only destroy their lives, but also affect their lovers and children. No matter who it is aimed at, following a man who has a gambling addiction and still refuses to repent can indeed feel like a nightmare.
If you are addicted to gambling, most of your life will be over, and you don't want to think about the future.
There are many men who are like this, who refuse to work hard all their lives, and refuse to work hard all their lives. All day long, you are counting on sitting back and enjoying it, and all day long, you are counting on getting rich overnight. For this kind of daydreaming man, this is the case for the rest of his life, and nothing will change.
And what is even more terrifying is that they do not care, but are proud, not only harboring such thoughts themselves, but also returning them to future generations to spread such thoughts. Such an idea is very terrifying, and the impact on a family is also very large, so you must avoid this kind of man.
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Addicted to one's comfort zone, content with the status quo, and long-term spending lavishly, greedy for pleasure.
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Often have conflicts with others. Quarrel with others, often borrow money from others, borrow money and do not pay it back, often take out loans.
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He doesn't care about others, he doesn't take care of others, he doesn't respect his marriage, he doesn't care about his emotions, and he often has conflicts with others. The popularity is not particularly good.
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Men with successful careers have always received the favor of many women, but men who have nothing, it is really difficult and difficult to start a family, people are not destroyed overnight, men gradually "become poor" five signs, no encouragement, take this as a lesson!
1.Lazy. Legend An old man has two children, one is very smart but lazy, and the other is very industrious but not so practical.
In the end, the old man took all his possessions and took the diligent baby. It shows that intelligence can create value, but laziness can ruin it, these effects are effective, so a person can not be smart, but can achieve their ideals through acquired understanding, but all these prudent travel codes need to be created on the diligent personality. If a man is lazy, then there is no doubt that he is a person who shirks responsibility, and it is not a matter of security to hand himself over to him.
2.Shedding on the end.
Chicken soup for the soul can be drunk, but it can't be lost in it. Some people have never been abandoned, almost never put their own concepts into action, the basic theories in their mouths are set up, and the conclusions are really being done, and soon they encounter bottlenecks, and they also call failure the mother of success, and turn these chicken soup for the soul out again and again to comfort themselves, so the men who indulge in the chicken soup for the soul success quotes are most likely to be very failures, and can only get poorer and poorer, because they have no executive power.
3.Obsessed with beauty.
Sometimes, women are the driving force behind men's struggles. But many men usually find the wrong direction, they can find how to chase women, the scientific research is very in-depth, every day thinking about how to make women happy, buy bags and buy skin care products every day, care, but in the end women usually do not accept, people who spend their thoughts on women, usually have no future.
4. Addicted to games.
How many people are addicted to games, admitted to key universities but forced to suspend their studies, and some people are addicted to games, unable to work normally, and never return home, staying in Internet cafes all day long, or at home all day with a computer, playing mobile phone games day and night. Mobile games can break a person's will. Therefore, when a man is already addicted to online mobile games, and it happens to be gradually ruined by him, how can you hope that he will give you the good life you want.
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Smoking every day, drinking every day, gambling every day, indulging in games and shouting, not seeking to be motivated, being lazy to eat, and taking shortcuts if you want to make trouble, these habits are particularly bad and will ruin a person.
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After people reach middle age, if they are still obsessed with comparing things with other people, this time it means that you have not grown up very well, everyone has their own life that belongs to each person, we only have to compare with ourselves, so that we can grow faster, so as to have better help in our lives.
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I think the first thing is that if you are addicted to playing games, it will make your spirit traced and scattered, and if you are doing something inconsequential, doing some hobbies, you may not be able to have a better development in the market.
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Eager to get rich overnight, often participate in useless social interactions, often care about the eyes of others, have no life of their own, and ignore the family.
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If Sun Guo is still obsessed with playing games or not doing his job every day when he reaches middle age, and he knows how to drink, then these people will definitely go downhill, because middle age is an age of enjoyment, but you have not struggled at all at this time, so you can't enjoy it.
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After the lack of middle-aged age, they are also addicted to wine for a long time, all day long, and often play with fox friends and dogs, these men will generally go downhill, and their lives will continue to decline.
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Attachment to feelings, attachment to play, etc. Love will make people lose their minds, and playing something will make people lose their ambition.
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Caring about the excellence of others, provoking the rights and wrongs of others, etc. A middle-aged person, if he is still thinking about the excellence of others, he is going downhill, and if he is still stirring up the rights and wrongs of others, he is a person with serious moral defects.
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I'm still worried about work, or on the way to find a job. Standing at thirty, if you don't even have a formal job, then it's going downhill.
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If you are middle-aged, your colleagues are still squeezing you out, your special efforts have not been recognized by the leadership, and you are still struggling for yourself to eat, that is going downhill, and your career has not made any progress.
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Often addicted to gambling, without their own life plan, unable to let go of some obsessions, always immersed in unrealistic fantasies, with these manifestations it means that they are going downhill.
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Before I was 25 years old. I have also read some scientific information, saying that before the age of 25, the human body is in an upward climbing stage, and by the age of 25, it begins to enter the downhill stage, and various functions and indicators of the body are gradually declining. From the age of 40, morphological and functional aging gradually appears.
As soon as a man reaches the age of 45, because of the decline in hormone levels, the physical fitness will begin to decline, and the decline will gradually become obvious, showing sub-health states such as low mood, easy fatigue, reluctance to exercise, insomnia, headache, and lack of concentration.
After men enter the peak period of their careers, the mental pressure and psychological pressure will also increase, followed by endocrine and blood circulation disorders, so it is easy to lose hair, and the hair will gradually become thin.
When a fast heartbeat lasts longer after exercise, the heart's ability to regulate becomes worse and worse, indicating a decrease in the heart's own reserves. This condition occurs due to the aging and weakening of the muscles of the heart, which is of great concern for the poor health of the blood vessels.
Teeth are more likely to get dirty, and this happens because men don't pay attention to their mouths. In addition, if the brushing posture is not correct and the brushing is not thorough, the gums will gradually recede, the gap between the teeth will become wider and wider, and the tartar will increase and be deposited between the teeth and around the gums, and the oral hygiene will become worse and worse.
If there is a decrease in vision due to the exclusion of the eye itself, it usually indicates that there is a disease in the blood vessels, which affects the blood circulation, and the optic nerve is metabolic and the vision is reduced.
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Middle-aged women are in the period of high energy, men's careers are important, is there a way to take supplements to solve the problem?
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Men generally start to decline around the age of 40. Because all aspects of the body are declining.
Because after a man reaches middle age, his sexual needs will become lower and lower, and his other half may also have to bring his grandson or granddaughter, so they separated.
Entertaining yourself, I often call it that, old man, hehehe!
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