I feel insecure, how can I protect my beloved woman

If she doesn't trust you, forget it.

<> "What will happen to a woman's sense of security if she has a low sense of security?"

1. Lack of self-confidence. Feel inferior to others.

2. Aggressive. Either severe internal injuries or strong external aggression.

People who are aggressive externally are people who have a low sense of security. Because of their low sense of security, they always misunderstand the outside world and feel that others are full of malice, so they instinctively attack. If you meet someone who complains, complains, or is full of anger, especially someone who attacks you, don't dwell on them.

Because, they have solved the world by themselves, and it has nothing to do with you.

A sense of security is a person's inner spiritual need. Demonstrate a sense of control and certainty about the risk or danger that arises. High sense of security:

For what may happen or the person you are confronting, you feel empowered, controllable, and sure that it can be solved. Low sense of security: Feeling fearful, worried, out of control, and abandoned about what might happen or who you are dealing with.

People with a high sense of security have a sense of self-awareness of "positive self", that is, love for themselves: I am good, others will like me; Others will love me and be willing to cooperate with me, and others will not hurt me for no reason. Even if I did something that didn't meet my expectations, there must have been another reason, and it must not have been intentional to hurt me.

In difficult times, I use these two methods to improve my sense of security. Then, I came out of the trough and became the person I wanted to be.

Being empathetic makes me less suspicious of the behavior and counterparts of the outside world, and reduces emotional internal friction. Girls are usually more sensitive, prone to thinking about other people's actions, and especially thinking about the bad side. It's all a sign of lack of self-confidence, feeling that you don't deserve praise and respect.

They only deserve to be despised and ignored and vilified.

Empathy, on the other hand, decouples from negative thoughts. Other people's contempt, ear-to-ear, and white-eyed eyes have nothing to do with me. Do not speculate or maliciously "process" other people's intentions.

It will allow you to work, live and study with a more peaceful and stable state of mind and emotions. The more stable your emotions are, the more determined your heart will be, and the more efficient your behavior will be. Being kind to yourself is not just about buying yourself something delicious and beautiful.

1.If you love someone, you want to give him all the good. But to get someone, you can't be too nice to him, because the more you give, the less he will cherish it.

Love is to give without reservation, but life is to give and reciprocate. When you blindly love someone, it's not life, it's masochism. Happiness is the one you love, and he loves you.

It is you who take care of people, and others take care of you.

Love is mutual, not unrequited.

Some things will always pass, some feelings will always be in my heart, I have heard the songs you have heard, watched the movies you have watched, time passes, and I silently bless you. Hongchen's ferry, people come and go, if next time, I still have the fate to meet you, I hope the ending is the rest of my life.

2.The beauty of love is in its uncertainty, we look at it with an open mind, love is an experience, a feeling we can choose to experience or not to experience, there is no right or wrong, as long as our actions and inner thoughts are consistent, there will be no consumption. If you choose to experience, you have to be attentive, just like happiness is to experience sadness, and at this time, don't be too externally de-materialized, for example:

Love must have what kind of result, what kind of way, but pay more attention to my own sedan chair's own heart, our own inner things we face, we assume our own responsibility, you do it, you do it right, the world is good.

3.Love is a metaphysics, some people may be in the eyes of others, but in the eyes of some people can shine, sometimes we will be tempted by a person at this moment, it is determined by our history, our growth is determined, for example, in that person to see the ideal self, to see the former self, in short, we see the shining point.

Maslow, a humanistic psychologist, regarded "a sense of security" and "a sense of control over the environment and relationships" as basic psychological needs.

Just as in an intimate relationship, insecurity is easy to make women suspicious and constantly test each other, and some women are too "pretentious" in love, for example, when there is a quarrel, they say they break up, and when there is a conflict, they say that you don't love me anymore. They never thought that if they said too much, no matter how much the other party loved you, they would be cold. From a psychological point of view, women often talk about breakups in fact, which is actually reducing their sense of self-security.

A girl who knows how to reflect and is willing to give love should have happy feelings. You used to have a sweet past, and the current cold relationship is caused by not knowing how to get along later, and there are many resources to save the relationship. In fact, you feel that the object doesn't care about you, so you often use the risky way of breaking up to get him to pay attention to you, at first, this approach did succeed in making him pay attention to you, and he tried to keep you, make you happy, and let you dispel the idea of breaking up.

However, for boys, in their hearts, they will feel that it is very prudent to break up, so you mention it too much, in his opinion, on the one hand, he feels threatened, tired and unloved; On the one hand, you feel that you may really want to break up, and when these two feelings are focused, you will feel that breaking up may be a better choice.

In fact, you do this because of your inner insecurity, unconsciously always propose to break up, to relieve the anxiety in your heart, from your several manifestations, the inner insecurity, need to be accompanied by all the time, and will be extremely anxious when there is no boyfriend's company. I would like to ask you a question: What kind of family environment did you grow up in?

To change a state, you must first understand the existence of commonalities, and secondly, find out your own individual causes, and then find a solution. Then, in love, it is the same reason that a woman wants to improve her sense of security.

We understand the manifestations of security, the causes of it, and the general commonality of women's insecurity, and we will not understand our emotions as individual abnormalities or blame ourselves for being unreasonable. However, normal does not mean that it is correct, it is still necessary to find out the reasons for insecurity according to your own situation, to change, so that you can have a healthy and happy love.

Those insecure women will become cautious in love, and if they want to find a sense of security, they need to build more self-confidence, exercise more, and maintain a good mood and good figure.

Although a woman cannot require the person she loves to have a car and a house at a young age, at least the other party must be self-motivated, willing to endure hardships and willing to work hard. Instead of often complaining about others, it looks like ambition is hard to pay. If a man is really in love with each other and wants to give each other a sense of security.

The most important point is to be able to do what you can mentally and materially, don't often transfer negative energy to the other person's body, and don't be extravagant and wasteful, very stingy. Give a small gift to your loved one on the appropriate holiday, the gift is not the point, the focus is on your heart.

An insecure woman will often be unconfident and suspicious in love. They should make themselves more confident and work hard to improve themselves. Let the men run after them.