Is marriage really the grave of love?

First of all, I will say with certainty: no! But mentality is very important, because many people really can't accept the transition from romantic love to real-life marriage.

When you are in love, it's just a small get-together, so the other party will think of ways to make you happy, and he won't let you see his shortcomings, and each other is perfect at that time, and no one can do without anyone. But when you get married, you look like you, you live at home, you have to face it every day, and both parties will relax at this time, because it is your own home, so everyone will expose their shortcomings undoubtedly, we will be shocked and doubtful, but we should understand that he is the real him at this time. If you love someone, you have to tolerate his shortcomings, and with the disturbance of firewood, rice, oil and salt, and the trouble of tedious housework, it will make us feel bad.

The romance is gone all of a sudden. But life is bland, it is a little bit of blandness gathered, wonderful and romantic can not appear from time to time, and at this time we should think about how to help each other share the pressure of life, how to live a wonderful life in the ordinary life, not to hope that the other party will give themselves another romance, after all, it is short-lived. The long carriage is grinded out of life, with joys and sorrows, ups and downs.

When you look back, you will find how blessed you are to have a home that satisfies you, comforts you, makes you safe, and warms you.

So as long as both parties can manage love with a love mentality, then marriage is a paradise of love.

There is no one in this world who can't live without anyone's love, almost all people get it very well, and it doesn't matter if they don't get it, they still should eat and drink. When I was a child, I longed for love, but now I finally understand the sentence in the lyrics "Love is just a fart of life", which seems to be nothing, and it can't be caught or touched.

The facts tell you that no, marriage needs to be managed, and the grave is also a destination.

Marriage is the grave of love. After getting married, we will accompany each other until we are old, and when we both grow old, we will become graves.

Is it necessary for marriage to be open in the circle of friends? Is marriage really the grave of love?

<> marriage is not the grave of love, marriage is the touchstone of love, through the test then the love between the two parties is stronger than gold, but can only look up to the sky and sigh, "marriage is really the grave of love".

Entering the marriage hall is divided into two steps, first the two get acquainted, and then enter the so-called beautiful love stage. Why do some people say that marriage is the grave of love, because in the premarital love stage, one party cares for the other party and cares for it, and the other party willingly enjoys the feeling of being cared for and cared for by the other party, which is a kind of meticulous and unrequited love that can only be obtained from parents. And now you can not only experience it in each other's body, but also the mysterious sexual attraction from the depths of the universe, which is simply spoiled.

The one who was cared for gradually became pampered by the sky and became a princess, while the other party naturally became a groveling slave, or even an animal, constantly lowering his bottom line and suppressing his inner self.

The world pays the most attention to the balance of yin and yang, and balance is an eternal truth. Therefore, after moving towards marriage, as the attraction between the sexes subsides, the paying party does not want to pay so much, does not want to be a "slave", does not want to be a "livestock", and gradually begins to withdraw his own bottom line, and slowly begins to find his former self. This directly caused the other party to suddenly lose the kind of meticulous care that he once had, and lost the beautiful feeling of holding it in his hand for fear of falling and holding it in his mouth for fear of melting.

The huge gap formed by one after the other was unacceptable for a while, and gradually began to lose his temper. Both parties will also quarrel and get angry inexplicably, and they don't know what the problem is. With the extension of time, the relationship between the two sides slowly cooled, and the fast knife of life cut off the last tie and finally parted ways, isn't it a pity.

Qian Zhongshu said in "The Siege of the City": Marriage is a besieged city, the people inside want to come out, and the people outside the city want to enter. In daily life, those who are not married want to get married, and those who are married, most people will regret it from time to time.

What's going on here? Marriage is the grave of love, let's not analyze the right and wrong of this sentence. That sentence has been widely praised by everyone, and there must be some truth to it.

It describes at least some of the facts that resonate with a lot of people. The first reason why marriage has become the grave of love is that marriage can allow husband and wife to see each other clearly, and the halo effect when they are in love disappears. So what is the halo effect?

The halo effect, also known as the halo effect, is a factor that affects interpersonal perception. To put it simply, it means that one of a person's qualities or traits (such as beauty, learning, eloquence, honesty, loyalty, etc.) is infinitely magnified, so that no other shortcomings or traits can be seen. When we are in love, we all have some advantages or traits that fascinate each other, which is what we call "a white cover a hundred ugliness" and "a lover's eyes are out of the West", when we see an advantage of the other party, we will unconsciously ignore all other shortcomings.

In fact, this is entirely due to a psychedelic feeling fermented in the emotions of love, which is not the real situation. Once we get married and live a trivial and monotonous, day-to-day life with each other without concealment, this halo effect disappears, so we will slowly find that when we were in love, such lovely people become unlovable, and even a little hateful. As a result, the shortcomings attached to the other half will emerge, and may also be magnified and gradually become the focus of contradictions.

The second reason why marriage becomes a love grave is the change in the roles of both parties.

When you are in love, both parties treat each other as lovers, and the two parties are actually close friends of the opposite sex who keep a certain distance. Relatively speaking, the relationship between lovers is independent, equal, and mutually respectful; And in order to achieve the goal of marriage, each other will be considerate of each other, accommodating each other and seeking perfection.

But after getting married, this self-restraint is relaxed. Psychologically, each wants the other to adapt to them, obey them, and want to change each other into what they want them to be. We think about how to control each other every day, so irreconcilable contradictions arise.

Think about it, is this the way you get along with your partner after marriage?

Is it necessary for marriage to be open in the circle of friends? Is marriage really the grave of love?

Marriage itself is bland, generally speaking, only real marriage will make people find sustainable happiness in the bland, and people are unwilling to be bland because they always compare with romantic love, men and women always hope to extend the emotions instigated by imagination in love to every moment of married life, even every corner, so that the heart is always ignited for love, sparks are scattered. However, as soon as they enter married life, men and women experience a different scene, cooking, laundry, grocery shopping, taking care of children... All of this could not be more realistic, permeated every moment, even every moment.

Love likes to whisper, and language is a word sifted out of the dictionary, shiny and sweet. And marriage always tells the truth, and it always loses its imagination, even if it is occasional warmth, it can't get back to the longing of the year; Love likes to change scenes, or under the moon before the flowers, or by the lake next to the willows, or anchored in any place between the sea and the universe imagined in my heart. Marriage, on the other hand, has only one final destination, a crowded or uncrowded home, which men and women have to enter every day, whether they want it or not.

Men and women who originally entered marriage because of love often blew their beards and glared at marriage and said bad things about marriage in order to relive the feeling of not being in love or not being able to find love. People always like to say that marriage is the grave of love, but without marriage, there is no place to die...

If you have to compare love and marriage, in fact, love is like strong wine, and marriage is like boiled water. But don't forget, strong wine can't be drunk every day, because life can't bear it; And boiled water must be drunk every day, because life is inseparable from it.

May everyone in the world have a happy marriage, because that is the destination of love, the station of heaven...

It should be said that it depends on each person's business. It's like doing business, why do some people get rich and others fail? Actually, the truth is pretty much the same.

People who run well have a happy marriage, and those who do not run well, their marriage has become a battlefield, and husband and wife are the two sides of the battle. Of course, there are also those who have deteriorated their marriages because of external reasons.

It's up to you to manage your marriage. A good marriage is not a grave, but a destination.

A marriage without love, a marriage without sincere trust, and a marriage without tolerance are all the graves of love!

Marriage is just a transition in life, a change in life.

Not necessarily, if you love him enough and adapt to his vices, and you haven't changed, love will still exist Remember If you're a girl, don't nag @

Is it necessary for marriage to be open in the circle of friends? Is marriage really the grave of love?

No, I think marriage is the door to happiness, and I feel happy every day after my husband and I got married.

I think marriage is the grave of love, because after getting married, you have to face a lot of small things about firewood, rice, oil and salt, and the feelings will slowly fade.

Yes, I had a very happy time with her before we got married, and after we got married, we had a lot of quarrels, and I was helpless.

No, if two people really love each other, then marriage is to tie two people together forever and never separate, which is a good thing, if it is not mutual like, then marriage is really a grave.

Marriage is not the grave of love, if two people are true love, marriage will only make two people live better and more at ease.

No, if two people love each other very much, then marriage is where two people are sublimated, and it depends on how you choose.

I think marriage is not the grave of love, if two people really love each other, entering marriage is just a change of lifestyle, they will be sweeter.

Yes, when two people get married, no matter how sweet it is, then they have to face the boring reality, and love will always be defeated by reality.

I think marriage is not a love grave, I think marriage is actually a continuation of love, which can make two people love each other better.

Marriage is really not always the grave of love, only an unhappy marriage is the grave of love, and a happy marriage is the garden of love.

In fact, love will fade after a long time, there is no marriage is a grave, love is irrational behavior, when the two really get along with each other in reality, they find a lot of problems, and they are not suitable, then no matter how strong the feelings will be worn out, on the contrary, people who have no love, because they are very suitable for each other, will stick together firmly.

You're never married. You won't understand! Those who understand don't need to explain will understand, and those who don't understand won't understand no matter how much they explain! In fact, dig up that grave and you will see true love!