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Hearing this, some people may scoff, of course, family education is important, if you educate your children to be filial to their parents from an early age, your parents will be able to live well in their old age! In fact, it is too simplistic to think this way. The quality of parents' old age is not only related to whether their children are filial piety.
Besides, is "filial piety" something that can be listened to as long as the child is mentioned?
The family has a good parent-child relationship, and parents can only get the love of their children in their old age.
The core of "filial piety" is that the child's heart is full of love for his parents, and only in this way can he not dislike or complain when his parents are old and frail and can not do anything, and he is willing to take care of his parents. And in order to get the love of their children, parents must first give their children love.
Building a good parent-child relationship is the core of family education. As the old saying goes, "mothers are kind and filial to their children", parents only give their children meticulous care and love when they are young, and store love in their children's hearts, so that children will continue to repay their parents with love when they become adults. Love is mutual.
Let the child succeed in school, the child has a good income, even if the parents do not get wet, at least they do not need to subsidize.
A pair of parents in their hometown opened a mine in their early years, and in their later years, they had a lot of savings, but they raised a son who was unproductive. Not only do the grandchildren have to raise themselves, but the sons and daughters-in-law don't work, and they always ask the old couple to eat and drink. Now the old couple not only has to manage the affairs of the factory, but also has to manage the expenses of a large family, and manage the school of their grandchildren, which is really inadequate.
In such a later age, it is a bit far-fetched to say happiness.
Outsiders wonder, why did such capable parents raise such a useless son? It was all because the parents were busy making money in the early years, so that their son became a left-behind child, and early education was lacking. Due to his poor grades, his son was reluctant to continue studying until junior high school, and he made a group of gangster friends, so he became a fool.
Parents attach importance to family education, and the most direct benefit is to ensure that their children succeed in school. Children have a good attitude towards life and strong ability, and they will be able to stand up in society in the future. Children can support themselves, and even live a good life, even if the parents do not get wet, at least they don't have to bother with subsidies, and they can at least settle down at ease in their old age.
Teach children the correct concept of marriage and love, children have a happy marriage, parents have less to worry about, and they can live comfortably in their old age.
Of course, not every parent who values education can raise a child who can stand at the top of the pyramid, which depends on the child's talent and the class of the parents. But no matter how rich the family is, if the child is unhappy in marriage, it will make the parents in their later years worry.
In ordinary families, even if the children are not outstanding, as long as the marriage is happy and the family is harmonious in the future, the parents can relax in their later years and still have a small happiness.
The child's future marriage is not unrelated to the marriage and love education of the parents. For the education of intimate relationships, even if parents can't tell the truth, they and their partners love each other, and their children can be exposed to it, and they will automatically acquire the ability to recognize people, without parents worrying too much.
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It is necessary to accompany family and improve the material foundation. A high-quality life requires the accumulation of money, and the elderly attach importance to family affection and want their children to accompany them.
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You also have to keep enough money for yourself to support the elderly, and at the same time pay attention to your physical health, so that you will have the experience of going out to play, traveling, and the children will not think about your body, as long as you are happy, the children will also live a very easy life.
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Live your own life and get less involved in your children's home. Especially after the child has a family, parents should not interfere in the child's family affairs.
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Far away from my parents in the countryside, living in the city, sometimes I feel hard and tired, and I complain to my parents, but I am limited to the current housing congestion and tension, and I always want to ask my mother, who is almost seventy, to help after moving into a new house.
But, ** also asked my mother: Give you two situations, one is that you can see your daughter and grandson every day in the city, but in the high-rise building of the Huhu community, there are no acquaintances and old friends, and you are busy with housework at home every day; One situation is to hear my daughter every day or two, but every day in the village there are old friends chatting and dancing square dances, rich activities, participating in charity performances, commercial performances, training and rehearsals, volunteering, helping each other, caring for each other, and accompanying my wife. Which of the two situations is more conducive to the physical and mental health of the two elders?
There is no suspense, my mother chooses the second type of pants.
I was unwilling, and I thought: I am your own daughter, if you don't help me, who will help me?
When I went home on National Day and saw my mother and old friends go to the nursing home for a charity performance, the excitement, nervousness, sense of responsibility, sense of achievement, and sense of existence of the group made me change my mind.
In fact, the greatest filial piety to parents is to let them freely choose the mode of life in old age. If you want to have children, come and see, and if you miss old friends, stay in a familiar place, don't leave your hometown, live with your wife, and be lonely in your old age.
Making parents happy and happy is the greatest filial piety.
Reflecting on getting along with my in-laws, I feel: to be grateful, to understand, not to force, not to conflict. As long as the old man is happy.
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When I came home during the Spring Festival, I saw my dad wearing reading glasses and tinkering with the smartphone he just bought for him a few days ago, like a studious student, and asked shamelessly, as soon as he saw me, he quickly called me, "How did this font make him bigger?" ”
In keeping up with the trend and learning new things, my dad is an eliminator of the times, he has always been stubborn and conservative, content with his comfortable old habits, and many times want to help him connect to this era, he always refuses. In the face of new changes, I know that he is a little at a loss and afraid to expose his shortcomings in front of his children.
This time, when he saw that the old guys around him were using smartphones and using WeChat and Alipay to pay, he finally said goodbye to the old tremor who had been with him for many years - in my dad's words, he only needed to pick up**and**, this is just right.
I hurried up to him and patiently demonstrated it to him. He looked at it intently like a hard student. However, I can clearly see that he is struggling, he can't remember what he says once, he repeats it repeatedly, and he may forget it after a while.
I helped him sign up***, plus us as WeChat friends, and then pulled him into our family group chat, so that he is no longer isolated, although he has not said a word in the group, but can see our interactive information.
Now there is a popular saying:
The post-90s and post-00s are "Internet natives", the post-70s and post-80s are "Internet immigrants", and the post-50s and post-60s are "Internet refugees".
Today, when the Internet and smart phones have profoundly changed the world, the biggest inconvenience for our post-50s and post-60s parents is to be out of touch with society.
It's the best of times, and it's the worst of times. For my generation, the Internet has changed our lives, and for my parents' generation, the times are too fast and they are left far behind. They have spent half their lives painstakingly storing cultural knowledge and social experience, and then they have painstakingly used their experience and insight to raise their children.
But those experiences and insights that they were proud of are worthless in this age of information, and they are even spurned as a part of ignorance and backwardness.
Therefore, the best filial piety for parents is to let them keep up with this era, so that they can also live a "convenient and interesting new life", teach parents to use the Internet, teach parents to use smartphones, teach parents to use WeChat, Alipay, and teach parents to use Didi taxi.
Take your time and care for them. The best filial piety is not only material provisions, but also to help them keep up with the times, help them discover their worth, and help them find inner peace and tranquility. He praised them for raising us, and we grew old with them.
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The first thing to solve is the problem of the parents' pension house, it is best to live together, such as the potato and jujube fruit is inconvenient, to buy a place for the parents or rent a quiet community with a beautiful environment, fresh air, and not too much noisy and noisy, but also to ensure that the transportation is more convenient, the bus stop is out, there is a supermarket market, and the place where the ion girl lives is only two or three stops away.
Secondly, there is the issue of the living expenses of the parents. It is best to have a pension for the elderly, if not, it is rising, and the children should regularly give the elderly a subsidy for living expenses, and do not feel that the parents are not short of things and cannot spend money. They have some money in their hands, so they are at ease, and they buy things themselves when they need them.
Then, it is the health problem of the parents, and they must accompany their parents to the physical examination every year, in addition to social security, if necessary, buy a medical insurance for the parents, serious illness insurance or elderly insurance, so that they can feel at ease, in case of serious illness, everyone is more relaxed.
The last and most important thing is the company of children, parents have come for most of their lives, they have nothing to lose, and what they need most in their later years is that children can often accompany them to talk and have a meal together. So take your children home more often and talk and laugh with them.
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Hello! 1. Give parents peace of mind.
First of all, the children should have something to do in their work or career, at least without major financial worries. In family life, the husband and wife are harmonious, have a healthy and well-behaved baby, take care of themselves physically, and be healthier, so that the elderly will feel at ease, their mood will be relaxed, and they will have a mood foundation to enjoy their later life.
2. Reassure parents.
Children should take the right path, crooked and oblique, we will not touch the edge, understand etiquette, righteousness and shame, public order and good customs, be kind, and abide by discipline and law. Those who are officials are not corrupt, and those who do business are not ignorant. Don't mess with the trouble, don't mess with the flowers and grass, at home and outside, can reassure the elderly, so that the elderly will be down-to-earth and frank, will not be in a hurry, go to the fire, and enjoy the energy foundation of life in old age.
3. Let parents enjoy the joy of family.
Family happiness is the best spiritual food for parents in their later years, and it is the greatest happiness, satisfaction and spiritual comfort.
If your parents can get used to the life and humanity of your city, it is best to be in the same city as yourself, and if your parents can take care of themselves, it is best to be separated from each other by a cup of tea. In the case of parents who can't take care of themselves, it's best to live together and be filial before bed, which is the real filial piety.
If your parents can't get used to the life and humanity of your city, especially rural parents, if your parents can take care of themselves, they will let them live there and live there. For example, living in the city for a while, living in the countryside for a while, and living a migratory bird life, is quite ideal. In the case that parents cannot take care of themselves, it is better to go to the city and live together, it is convenient to see a doctor, it is also convenient to take care of them, and the elderly can see their children, and they also have a sense of sustenance, security and belonging.
I always believe that for ordinary people, filial piety before bed and accompanying the elderly on their last journey is the real filial piety.
4. If you can, try to take the elderly to the places they want to go.
Parents are hard and busy, so that Zaotong is a lifetime in the blink of an eye, and there is no time to take care of it, there are always some regrets, such as the place you want to go, the people you want to see, and the wish you want. Whether it is a tourist city, a person you want to see, or a place you want to see, you can all be included in this scope to meet the wishes of the elderly before their death, and leave no regrets. The sooner this plan is realized, the better, so that it will not be difficult to carry out in the future due to the health problems of the elderly.
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Hello: 1, enough time to accompany.
As parents get older, they eat less, use less, and spend less.
All thoughts are on the children's sheds.
Therefore, the most important thing that most parents desire is not how much money their children give themselves, but that their children can spend more time with them.
2. Regardless of whether they say they want it or not, try to give your parents the best quality of life within your ability.
3. Don't think that when they are old, they are not suitable for the latest things.
Such as smartphones, tablets, etc.
Be patient and don't think they're stupid.
Think about how they taught us to hold chopsticks and write our names one by one.
You can also chain up to make a detailed chart and stay at home.
In this way, even when we are not at home, our parents can understand and learn to operate.
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Hello, now with the rapid development of modernization, people's life rhythm is getting faster and faster, and many young people have left their parents because of work or study, resulting in many old people being alone. This is a huge mental and physical strain for the elderly. Therefore, we should accompany our parents as much as possible so that they feel loved and respected by us.
First, talk to your parents. Everyone's time is precious, but communicating with your parents not only deepens their bond with each other, but also makes them feel that you care. This will not only strengthen the cohesion of the family, but also allow your parents to better understand your thoughts and life experiences.
Second, call or chat more with your parents. Even if you're not around your parents, you can communicate with them through **or **chat. When you hear their voices and see their faces, the distance between you is no longer that far.
At the same time, you can also learn about their life and physical condition. Third, go home to see your parents as simply as possible. Although there is a lot of pressure from work and study, we should also go home to see our parents as much as possible.
This not only allows parents to feel our love and respect, but also allows us to understand their parents' lives and physical conditions. If you can't get home, you can also invite your parents to visit you and give them a comfortable environment for them to have a great time. Fourth, accompany your parents to do something.
Some parents may have physical discomfort or elderly issues and need some help and care. We can ask them about their needs and try to meet their needs as much as possible, go for a walk, go shopping, watch a movie or do some chores together. This will not only alleviate their loneliness, but also enhance our interaction and communication with each other.
Finally, give parents attention and love. Whether it is in daily life or on the occasion of festivals, we should give more attention and love to our parents. On parents' birthdays or holidays, we can express our gratitude by sending a gift or writing a thank you note.
These small gestures can make parents feel our care and love.
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